Should I threaten to beat my wife if she doesn't go to the gym and lose some weight?

Question

I'm in perfect shape and I expect my wife to be likewise. I don't like fatties and I prefer the lean, athletic look over the over-stuffed coach potato. I'm a nice guy and I have asked nicely but it hasn't worked. I think I need to resort to more drastic measures.

My wife was skinny and sexy when I met and married her. Now she looks like a fatty waiting to explode.

Answer 1

Threaten? Hell, when it no longer works to raise your voice it's time to raise your hand.

Answer 2

You're a nice guy, eh??!! You sure hide it well!! First of all, if you beat your wife I hope she has you arrested and thrown in jail. I would think it fantastic if you were then incarcerated in the same cell as a huge guy that likes guys that are in "perfect shape" (know what i mean?). You have a lot of fat between your ears...maybe your wife should chop your head off?
On a more serious note, you must realize that your wife will only lose weight when she wants to or the underlying issues that are responsible for the weight are resolved.Pestering her or demanding weight loss isn't going to work, and in all probability will make things worse. Certainly a traumatic event like a beating linked to the weight issue would only serve as fuel for a worsening of the problem. Don't forget that your wife probably lacks self-esteem at this time.
Be supportive, suggest excercise that can be done together, and educate with regards to better eating habits.

Answer 3

hm,
ruling out medical issues that may be making her gain weight*, watch her as best you can and make a small list of things she is doing that are directly making her fat, followed by things that are indirectly doing the same. e.g.

she munches on choccies or drinks lots of regular soda/pop
she eats midnight snacks
she never moves her ****
etc.

then in the right column, see what sort of replacement you can offer her. being her hubby, maybe she expects you to do this "with her", only God (the inventor of women) can tell you why.

so, the easy stuff:
replace cheeses, meats etc. with low-fat versions like low-fat turkey slices or low-fat cottage cheese etc. (just to break her in)

then ask if she will drink lite soda instead of regular, or switch to natural lemonade (where u squeeze actual lemons), iced tea etc.

instead of choccies and pop-in-the-mouth things, see if you can't always keep some tasty fruits or readymade carrotsticks/cucumbers etc. in the fridge (sprinkle them lightly with salt and black pepper).

i said readymade coz you may not have the time to do all this.

anyway - so she continues her old habits, but what is going *in* is now already less calories than before, so that's a good thing.

But you can't really stop her from chowing down on the "proper" dinner/lunch meals can you...? So you make an incentive plan. You tell her, portion control means a little prize. e.g. She eats 1/3 less than she normally does at a meal and you will put a little checkmark in a book (or a small piece of paper in a closed bowl, cut up an A4 sheet into 30 pieces, and keep a pen near the bowl, after each "well done" meal, sign or initial one piece and chuck it in the bowl). Every 5 pieces, she gets 20 bucks or you guys go do something she likes (that doesn't involve eating) like - the movies or theater or even something new like photographing random ppl / things together on a walk.

This way she'll feel she has your 100% support (and not just lip service) and feel happy to do these "games". She will also lose weight and the whole deal can be a lot of fun.

I only hope she is not too tempramental or egoistic and I hope you approach her in a cool way and not in a guilty-making way....then this plan has a good chance of working out.

Also, if some of my suggestions don't work because of lifestyle/budget issues, be creative and find alternative variations to them....

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Only if you want to go to jail! Maybe you need to get a bit of counseling so that you can be fit on the inside as well. You clearly have a serious problem if you think beating you wife is a good answer to this question. I feel very sorry for her. You are not a nice guy. Perhaps you should look at why she is overweight. Does she work too much? Is she depressed -- maybe because you are a sucky husband? Did she recently have kids? Does she have a health problem? Then perhaps you will arrive at a real solution.

Answer 5

NOT UNLESS YOU WANT TO END UP SEEING THE WORLD THROUGH GREY BAR FILTERED SUNLIGHT FOR A FEW YEARS AND HAVING YOUR THEN EX-WIFE SELL OR GIVE AWAY ALL YOUR STUFF WHILE YOU ARE LOCKED UP. If this was a issue before you married her why did you marry her in the first place,THREATS PHYSICAL VIOLENCE and any type of force will never work,if your wife does not want to do it YOU HAVE TWO CHOICES live with things as they are or divorce her but just remember that depending on how long you have been married and if there are minor children and a house involved will have a profound effect on how much the divorce will cost you.

Answer 6

Hahahahaha, oh the humanity! You have two morally correct choices:
1) Get a divorce
2) Love your wife for who she is and deal with it

Trying to change their significant other too much is what wives do to their husbands, not the other way around. Who wears the pants in this family? By all means don't beat her...that will only encourage her depression which leads to her overeating. This behavior was probably caused by, and is prolonged by you. Basically, you're ruining her life, rather than helping it. If you want to help, then don't be so damned negative to her, and condescending. Who wants to look better when they're married to an a**hole? Lighten up homeslice :P

Answer 7

man u shouldn't beat her! That's a big mistake. By beating someone u get no results (i would say u get the exact opposite from what u want to do in the first place)
U should reason and talk with her.
That's what women do, first they get married, then they get fat!
In my country there's a saying that goes "now that i got my donkey restricted... who cares"
Meaning now that I'm married, who gives a ****...
& so they sit on the sofa and eat like pigs watching TV while u work to bring the money (though that's not the majority of the women)
I believe that describes you situation
If u don't have any children yet, u can threaten her with anything u like meaning verbally and not physically
Relax she's a human being

Answer 8

You married her for better or worse!!! Buy her a bike and start her off slow and let her work her way into it. Going to the gym isn`t always the answer. Then again get her going and then when she does loose the weight she might find someone there better than you and leave your a s s!!! Then someone else can give her the high hard one!!! Maybe she gave up cause your dick is so small. Most men that beat on women have small ***** anyway!!

Answer 9

So you are going to resort to more drastic measures like show the world how much of an A$$hole you are???

It takes a really big man to beat up on a woman.

You must feel very strong and proud of yourself right?

How proud will you be when the Cops slap the cuffs on you???

How strong will you be when your cell mate Bubba wants to bend you over and make you squeel like a pig ???

Go ahead tough guy

Answer 10

Why did you marry a fatty then? I swear if you say that she's bigger because she bore children.....YOU are the one that needs to be beaten.

Anywho, threatening her with violence...not the best idea, she'll just go straight for the cheetos. You need to take charge more than just asking or demanding.

One-take control of the grocery shopping........that way your house won't be full of crap.

Two-cut off the cable......she'll probably have nothing better to do.

Three-buy her a gym membership...if you haven't already.

Four-configure your gym schedule to match with hers, if she's busy.

Five-drop her off and pick her up from work, bring some of her work-out clothes and tell her..."Guess where we're going"

Answer 11

Alright mister arrogance, did it ever occur to you that the attitide you have with your wife may be the reason she can't loose weight? Stress is one of the main causes of obesity in the U.S. and people who domineer others are a common cause of the stress. Did it ever dawn on you that she may also have depression, another cause of overweight. A person gains weight, becomes depressed then in turn, they eat for comfort. This repeats the cycle and more weight is gained. Another reason could be a physical problem in the form of a chemical imbalance in the body.
If none of these reasons seem applicable then a Marriage Counselor for her and Anger Management for you