My fiance is considering a job in a really small town (1700 people) and is 400 miles away from where we live. I already moved to the town we currently live in (pop 12000) from a large town. I don't want to to move to the middle of nowhere in KS. Isn't there a point where family and life come before money?
2006-07-07 11:58:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The money increase isn't significant. I make the same as he does...if that makes a difference
2006-07-07 12:02:43 · update #1
Also, if I move there it means no work for me...so we would not be "better off"
2006-07-07 12:39:48 · update #2
You are really on the horns of a dilemma. You should do the logical choice - whether it is family or career. You should weigh the pros and cons of making a decision for either choice. Whatever choice minimizes the inconvenience or disadvantage should be considered the best one. It is easier to say this but hope it all it works out for you!
2006-07-07 12:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by GV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family comes first, tis true. But in thinking it through, when you moved the first time, did you move far enough away from family that another move won't matter? The reason I ask this is because being able to raise a family in a small town would be really nice I think because everyone knows everyone and there is no real fear of allowing your children to grow up as children should, ya know? Best wishes!
2006-07-07 12:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family life should alwayz come be4 money in any situation. Being rich with family is better than money because family will alwayz be there and money won't. In the same sense that money will provide the best for your family especially with how the economy is today. You should always think positive and look forward. There are always doubts in our hearts but your family will pull you through. No matter your location home is where the heart is.
2006-07-07 12:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by India 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this guy realy wants the job go with him to the small town because if you guys are getting married you are your own family now you can always visit your other family once in a while. I have family in Columbia MO and live in Chicago IL it is a 6 hour drive but I make it at least 2 times a year so my advice to you is to move with your future husband and good luck with your marriage!
2006-07-07 12:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to think, i mean moving there might make you guys financialy better, wich also means that you can have more money to do things as a family, have more time to do it too. so you need to write a list of pros and cons wiegh them out and have your husband do the same thing and realy look at the pros and cons to moving and see what is the best for all of you financialy and family wise. you have to think to it might cost cheaper to live there, so you can save money more easily to still be able to go visit your family once in a while too. so just wiegh everything out and go from there. good luck
2006-07-07 12:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about your morals or his morals. A relationship is about collective decisions as a team. If you can't find a compromise or a way for both of you to be happy. Then perhaps you don't belong in a relationship together. Personal priorities are important, nobody should ever have to change them just to satisfy their partner.
Sit down and talk to him about it. Be honest with eachother and make your points. Try to avoid argueing and make it a progressive descussion. Good luck.
-Omnipotentantidote
2006-07-07 12:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, but to me inorder to take care of your family you must go to where the money is at. Will this job be a high increase in money? Will it offer more chances for advancement? Let him know how you feel and express ur concerns.
2006-07-07 12:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family comes first
2006-07-07 12:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by reigna4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a mixture. bc to have and continue a family you need a job to support them and or urself. what if u leave and she missed out on a job opportunity for her life and family? u never know what the future may bring. and she should b able to support herself no matter what and it seems that they (she?) are. i dont know, you need money for a family. think of it that way. but you should b able to meet a happy medium, yes.
2006-07-07 12:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by kkaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does he do? I'm sure there are more options. Other than that, as a rule of thumb, never put work ahead of family...although technically you are not married...yet. Ooh good luck with this!
2006-07-07 12:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by fu shnickens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋