I talked to my mommy today and she told me that i can come back and stay with her if i have an abortion and dump my boyfriend who i'm staying with and i love him but i know that he only loves me sometimes. Should i go?
2006-07-07 11:55:31 · 23 answers · asked by shyea2007 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i want to have his baby and i still want to be with him but if i go back with my mommy thats going to be the end of me and him.
2006-07-07 11:56:21 · update #1
I'll be 17 on the 19 of this month...
2006-07-07 12:13:40 · update #2
I really think that in the end your BF is just going to leave you with a child in your hands and no one really to turn to or trust. I would first decide whether I really want this baby. If you don't don't get an aborition!!! Please! just put it up for an adoption and give it to someone in need of a kid. Instead of killing a baby without giving him/her a chance let a family smile when they can have a baby and their world is better. If you do want this baby and you think you are ready to take responsibility for it you should try to persuade your mom to let you come back but with the baby and maybe be like- i'll take of it and promice not to ask for your help. If she is one of those moms who would help with anything (and never get off you back lol) tell her she can help if she wants. Personally I think it is best to put it up for adoption and just wait for when you're a bit older to keep a baby. But that is not up for me to decide.It is your life and you need to have a serious talk with you close family to decide on a final answer.
dont do something your heart isnt comfortable with!!
It no one's choice but yours
Good luck and be safe
2006-07-07 12:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by TheMusicPlayer 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
17 is very young to be having a baby. It's a huge responsibility and you need to finish high school. Can you talk with your mom and agree to come home with her, but give your baby up for adoption?
Adoption has really changed over the years and if you really wanted to keep your baby, there are couples out there that would be more than happy to give your child a happy home with 2 parents and keep you informed and even allow you to see the child sometimes.
That might make it hard for you, but over time you will see it was the right decision.
If you already feel like the boyfriend only loves you some of the time then you need to leave him whether your mom will take you back or not. There are places you can go while you are pregnant and will help you.
You can talk to a local Catholic church. They usually have access to homes that will help teens that are pregnant and aren't getting any help at home. You do not have to be Catholic to get help either.
This boy is not going to be around for you or the baby once it's born. All he wants you for is the sex and you certainly don't want to get pregnant again by him or anyone else until you are older and can take care of yourself and the child.
Just because you've had sex with this guy does not mean you have to continue with him or with anyone else. You can always stop anytime you want. Don't let guys talk you into it...especially unprotected sex (just because you are on the pill does not mean it's protected sex).
It's unfortunate that you have to grow up early, but you took the step into adulthood and now you have to learn to live with it.
When you talk with your mom don't yell and cry. Try to talk nice with her and let her know your feelings and maybe she will help you find a good home for your baby.
Good luck & blessings to you all. Please leave the guy though...for your sake and the babies sake.
2006-07-07 19:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by 317bossyaussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make the decision about whether or not to have your child. You need to speak to someone at somewhere like Planned Parenthood to talk about your options. You obviously know what your mother's opinion is on the subject and if you don't feel that having an abortion is the right thing to do, don't do it and don't get talked into it if you don't feel it's right. But you also say that your boyfriend only loves you "sometimes"?? Even if you love him, you don't need to be with him if he doesn't feel the same way about you. You need to realize what a big responsibility raising a child is going to be and if you're ready for it. No matter what people say, things aren't going to get better with your boyfriend just because you have a baby with him. You need to think things through before you make this decision. Do not take it lightly. You already made the adult decision to have sex. Now you're pregnant and need to grow up and deal with the adult decisions you're going to have to make from now on.
2006-07-07 19:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by tn80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to evaluate your priorities, and then you can make the best decision. Do you see a positive future in your current path? Do you see a better future back at home with your mother? Can you really take care of a baby, both emotionally AND financially? Can you actually create a good life for that child (one as good as or better than your own)? If your guy takes off, can you take care of yourself and your baby without him or your mother? Really? Can you live with aborting your child? What else are you giving up in either situation? Is there a third choice you can make? Nobody here can answer these questions for you, but once you've answered them for yourself, you'll know what you need to do.
2006-07-07 19:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Speedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I promise I don't mean this in any bad way, but if you are still calling your mom "mommy", then perhaps you are not ready for the responsibility of a child.
2006-07-07 19:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by celle34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW OLD ARE YOU TO START?...WHAT KIND OF LIFE IS THAT BABY GOING TO HAVE IF THE FATHER LOVES YOU SOMETIMES? .......NOT MUCH.......IF I WERE YOU I WOULD TRY TO GET YOUR MOM TO SIT DOWN AND HAVE A NICE QUITE TALK WITH JUST YOU AND HER AND LET YOUR TRUE FEELINGS COME OUT AND BE HONEST WITH HER AND THEN LET HER HAVE HER TIME TO SAY WHAT SHE WANTS AND I THINK YOU TWO MOM AND YOU CAN WORK THOUGH THIS TOGETHER AND MAKE THE BIG DECISION WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO ABOUT BABY WHO DIDN'T ASK FOR THIS TO HAPPEN TO HER/HIM........I WISH YOU ALL THE GOOD LUCK YOU CAN GET NOW........
2006-07-07 19:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by whitewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say don't go, bc she shouldn't tell you to dump him and get an abortion if you want to come back, she should want you back no matter what. and please don't have the abortion. just ask yourself, is he gonna be a good daddy? will he stick around long enough to even see the kid? will he support you and the child? if no to any of those, i'd say find a new place quick. and good luck.
2006-07-07 20:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by moshpitchic6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U really have to think about whether ur boyfriend is gonna be their for u rather than ur mom n do u really want to kill something that did nothin to u r any1.Cause a baby is a gift from god.
2006-07-07 18:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by SiSi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know girl, this is your descision, your life. What if you stayed with your friend and had the baaby. And the after that you can come to your house with your mom and show her the new baby i am sure she will be happy
2006-07-07 21:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by Alisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him until after you have the baby. Your child should be your no# 1 priority.
2006-07-07 18:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by sarah a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋