My wife has been out of town all week and her best friend came over last night after being at a bar, and I told her she could hang out until she sobered up. She told me that she thought my wife was coming home yesterday but I told her she had the day wrong.
I come to find out she KNEW my wife was still gone.
We were hanging out, talking, and she talked me into having a few more drinks with her. So next thing you know we're drunk and her friend is hanging all over me!
After an akward rest of the night with that kind of behavior, she wanted to go to bed with me and I said no. She got a little pissed off but seemed like she would drop it.
This morning when I woke up she was gone, BUT, she ripped up a bunch of my wife's clothes, took out her wedding dress and dumped ketchup and wine on it before shredding the bottom of it. She wrote on the walls in lipstick that I was a horrible lay with a small penis and she stole some money and DVDs.
My wife knows she was there but not the details.
2006-07-07 11:43:34 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ran out of room....
Her friend called her and told her that she tried to stop by but I wouldn't open the door!! My wife asked me what was going on and I've stalled her but she's gonna be home in like an hour and I've got to take off for a hunting trip this weekend.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!?!
2006-07-07 11:45:58 · update #1
nice friend i wish you the best of luck but next time dont trust anyone unless you have known them forever
2006-07-07 12:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by moonlilystar 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I agree with the other person who said tell your wife quickly before the best friend tells her a distorted version of the truth.
Your wife is coming home soon but you're leaving for a hunting trip? I think I would take care of this situation before going on that trip. This problem can escalate into some much larger and more complicated. Weigh your actions and priorities now. Which is most important to you at this moment?
Good luck.
2006-07-07 11:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by The Fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your wife have a good relationship, she'll believe you when you tell her what happened. Obviously, if you'd had sex with the woman, she wouldn't have gone ballistic and wrecked your house. As far as the wedding dress is concerned, take it to a dry cleaners and see if they can fix it, although that isn't likely with the extent of damage. Tell her honestly that the friend was just too drunk to let her drive home and expect she's going to be mad you for not sending her home in a cab when this debacle started. You WILL be happily paying to have her clothes replaced because you didn't kick the friend out. However, this probably isn't an isolated incident with this particular friend. Hopefully your marriage will survive this will minimal scarring.
2006-07-07 11:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by onleelise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously need to come clean with her or she will think that she will never be able to trust you again, and it is not like you were doing anything wrong, she hung all over you like the slut she is and you denied her of any sexual attention. she ruined your wifes stuff not you. so you need to sit her down and tell her everything from begining to end. and tell her that you did not tell her till now because you have been contemplating on how to tell her that you were afraid she would not believe you because she is her friend. let her know that you did not do anything wrong, you did not cheat on her in any way. tell her the last thing you want is for her to feel that she cant trust you, that you are telling the truth. and some advise to you, never ever let another woman over to the house when your wife is not thier, you cant trust people to not be back stabbers. well i wish you luck, i think she will be upset but that she will believe you, and it might take time for her to get over it but thats what happens and you just have to work with that. she will see that that woman is not a friend to have when she sees her clothes and wedding stuff, she knows you would not do that. and if she is smart she will know that only women that write on walls and tear up clothing are the types that did not get what they were after and get mad. good luck!
2006-07-07 11:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, you better tell the whole truth, the absolute truth, and nothing but the truth to your wife...and about that hunting trip...that one may have to be postponed indefinately. I cannot believe you have such poor judgement of propriety...but that is water under the bridge...Leave everything exactly as the biotch left it, show your wife, and tell her what happened. IF anyone knows you, it is your wife. If you have not lied to her, she should have no reason to doubt that you are a very stupid husband. Now, about that "friend" of hers....surely she is a stupid as you...to have "friends" like that, you two either need to stay alone more, or choose a better class of losers to hang with. Good luck
2006-07-07 12:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, you really need to tell her what happened. This woman has some problems and obviously wants to come between you two. She must know that her "best friend" did this to her dress and the walls. She may believe that you two had sex, but at least tell her the truth. Call the police about the money and DVDs, and the randolisim to your house.
TELL HER THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH.
2006-07-07 11:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by AutumnGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. This person is a pickle shy of a sandwich!! Stay as far away as possible. NO CONTACT!!!! I would tell your wife. If you don't and this chick tells someone that she slept with you and she was at your house it's going to look like you were keeping it from your wife. If you have any more encounters with this chick I would say that your headed to a restraining order.Run don't walk to your nearest police station!! Good Luck.
2006-07-07 12:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by puffercountry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her cell and beat the crazy bit-h to the punch, tell your wife exactly what happen and why her friend is so pissed. Make sure that you tell her that the so called friend of hers set you up. If you are telling the TRUTH then you have nothing to hide, I know sometimes it is hard for guys but just tell the TRUTH
2006-07-07 12:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. If you stall or try to hide it and she finds out stuff its only gonna make you look worse..Tell her she was drunk and pissed off cause you turned her down etc. but tell her up front and right away..It can only hurt you more in the end if you dont....Good Luck!
2006-07-07 11:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by SingleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss missie is on the money, I what you say is true, then I see no reason why you should hold back anything, her friend will tell her the story that makes her look best without regard for you, so expect the worst there.
What ever happens enjoy your trip.
2006-07-07 12:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by the wonderer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,no one can talk you into doing anything unless you really want to do it. It was probably flattering ,her hanging all over you. Be honest first of all with yourself and then tell your wife the truth. Next time,think before you drink.
2006-07-07 11:52:24 · answer #11 · answered by mrsreadalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋