pre-nup excuses women give?

Question

I read a lot of the answers about pre-nups, and 2 common themes came up:

1) sign it...unless you really are after his money &
2) "It would be sad if you were with him for a long period of time, got divorced and left with nothing for the time and commitment you put into your marriage." Um, no, I don't think so.

I just don't get where women get this idea that they deserve half the money I make while we're married. That's absurd. I make money it's mine, she makes money it's hers. If she wants to buy a boat with her money, let her have it, she earned it. If i buy a house with my money, it's mine, let me have it. If I save a lot of money, while she goes out and blows hers on clothes, then I certainly don't want half her clothes, but she'll gets half the money I saved while together. Our laws are retarded. What happened to equal rights? Girls only want equality when it suits them.

if my tone sounded angry, it's not angry at women, I just get annoyed with inequalities. I'm like the MLK for gender equality and independance.

Answer 1

What if your wife was a stay-at-home mom?
Or got sick?
Disabled?
Put up with you for 25 years?
Cleaned your house?
Was your personal secretary?
Meal planner?
SO much goes into a marriage.
What if YOU were sick?
Disabled?
Became a stay at home dad while she made all the money?
Cooked for her? Etc. etc.
It sounds like you're not ready to get married by the angry tone of your letter.
Find a good woman, and you'll be all What's mine is Yours, Honey. Unless the good ones are already with the generous men! ;)

Answer 2

Well, what you are talking about has nothing to do with a pre-nup. They usually cover assests of one or the other (or both) PRIOR to the marriage. If you live in a 50-50 state, then bet that 1/2 of everything the TWO of you accumulate is split down the middle. Doesn't it therefore make sense that all purchases be made with both money. If one earns more than the other, then proportionate amounts can be affixed if necessary. If you do not like the laws, it makes sense for you NOT to get married. Why bother? You obviously have failure in mind so why would you proceed?
(BUT, getting off my high horse, I agree with you 100% !)

Answer 3

It just protects the guy from the girl getting it all, and the girl from no getting anything. Also from the girl from taking everything. It makes both parties think :Do I really trust you?" But then again I did not get one with my husband because like you I believe they are stupid and ppl should beable to resove things themseves, but there are ALOT of very greedy money hungry Women out there to get everything they can take, Lucky for me Iam not one of them, unfortunaly many men find out to late they they are VASTLY growing in numbers. Its sad but true. Guess you can't win em all

Answer 4

What happened to becoming 1 when you get married? If it was me and my husband wanted me to sign a pre-nup I would not sign it.My reason for that is,If he wants me to sign it then he don't think that we will be together 4 ever and i thought that was what getting married was about.So if he wanted me to sign it then we would just live together.There would be no way in hell i would marry him.