i just read in an answer that most girls have children when they are 18.Well,i am 25 and have none.i dont think i should have kinds if i havent found the right men,am i 2 oldfashioned?
2006-07-07 10:58:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Heavens no, you have plenty of time! relax and you are absolutely right to wait for the right guy, you have to remember that having kids is not just an abstract idea, it makes you literally responsible for raising future members of society so its a job worth doing really, really well! Not to mention, its everyday, all day with absolutely zero vacation time for at least the next 18 years, now who takes a job like that? parenting is the only one, even the president takes time off, but not parents, taking time off as a parent means absolute failure at being a parent.
thank you for thinking about it before just doing it! trust me, as a mother of 3, i can tell you that those 18 year olds wouldn't have become mothers at 18 if they really thought hard about what they were getting in to and that they then become responsible for the future, not to mention if you do a bad job, then your kids will mostly grow up to do a bad job of parenting their kids and it never ends! really how often do you see 18 year olds doing jobs in the workplace that are as important and as influential as being a parent? you don't because they don't have the life experience required to do it well, its just that nobody has to give you permission to become a parent. i think the absolute opposite is true and we need many more women like you who wait longer to start families! excellent job!
2006-07-07 11:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are not too old to have children. In this day and age you can be 40 and still have children. Girl I am 29 and have no children. I am the same way and I told myself that I wasn't going to have children with just any man. I have been married for a few years now and we are planning on having our first child very soon. So don't let others tell you that you are too old. You are doing the right thing by waiting for the right person to come along.
2006-07-07 18:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by Werhere4lfedlwthit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are the kind of girl that doesn't exist any more! and that's a GOOD thing! I love a girl who is more old fashioned when it comes to morals and values. What you have is a great value that many others don't . . . value. Don't listen what anyone else has to say. Just go for it when you're ready. And are you waiting for marriage? Because that would also be a good value that almost ever girl in this planet has lost. But anywho. Good job girl. Many of these girls who do have children at 18 don't end up with their baby's father anyway. So it's your decision, but like I said, good job.
-Luis-25 y/o
Los Angeles, CA.
2006-07-07 18:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by luis.monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself why you want to have kids in the first place. A lot of people take for granted the reasons they bring babies into this world. I've met a lot of couples who had kids just because they wanted to be assured that they will have someone who will take care of them when they get old. There are those who want to have kids so they'll have someone carry the family name, take over the business, continue the line of famous professionals, and other similar practical reasons. More insensitive motives are: to have someone work for them, to increase chances of at least one child marrying an old, rich widow, etc.
If you were to find out why your parents made you, what answer would you want to hear?
We bring children in this world because we want to take care of them and share the world and the love we feel. Having the right reason(s) for having a child will make parenthood and family life a more wonderful and fun experience.
2006-07-07 18:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Thinkerbelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they say that it's a world average and if you consider the fact that most of the women having children will be old if they make it to 40...
If you want kids and can support them, have them. If you aren't ready and don't want to be a single mom, wait. Women in the West have kids into their late 40s.
2006-07-07 18:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by erin7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the right person you will really need the support. I have 1 kid and 3 step kids. I had my first at 31. Get all your partying, traveling done now, believe me once you get your baby life changes and you wont be able to move around so freely.
2006-07-07 18:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by TBONEZAP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not too late for you. Most people these days do tend to have kids before thirty, as there can be complications after thirty. However, there have been women who have had kids in their forties and so on. It's dependent on many factors, so when you're actually ready for pregnancy, you should talk to your primary care physician or an OB/GYN specialist.
2006-07-07 18:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by TL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not old fashioned, just smart. you probably have goals and ideas already set-up in your mind for your family don't dismiss those ideas just for the sake of some other people are having kids young. I'm 23 and i think "i have the rest of my life to have babies, no need to rush it" Once a baby is brought into the world there isn't anyway to go back to being your only responsibility.
2006-07-07 18:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by fluff~out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have my son until I turned 34. I had my daughter when I turned 40. Many people do not have children until later in life; in fact, this is becoming more the trend than the other way.
2006-07-07 20:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by Angela B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't look at how society does things and never compare yourself to what other people are doing...you should have kids with someone you love and can have a father figure for your child and do what you like...have kids when you want..don't think you're old fashioned...because you're right just the way you are
2006-07-07 18:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋