We've been dating for a year and a half. I'm 29 and he's 31.
2006-07-07 10:50:52 · 26 answers · asked by Trixi Curious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well after a year and a half you just need to buckle down and tell him!! do you think he feels the same way ? most people don't make it that long with out talking about future plans so does his future plans sound like you want to be involved in them? kids maybe? i think he is old enough to be wanting to settle down himself hasn't he given you any hint at all? well OK if he hasn't hinted and he doesn't want to talk about his future then you may scare him away but he may be thinking the same about you maybe he doesn't want to scare you away!! you should at least talk to him about it ...maybe start up by sitting him down tell him you want to talk to him seriously and tell him you cant picture your life with out him in it and assure him you are not proposing marriage but that you just want to know where the two of you stand and if he thinks of you when he looks into the future ... i think you will get it figured out with out scaring him off if you go about it the right way!!
2006-07-07 10:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you both discussed the posibility of marriage? Has he shied away from marriage? If the answer is "Yes" to either of those questions, you might scare him away. If, on the other hand, he has indicated that he would like to marry you someday, gentle drop the hint that you hope that this relationship will advance to an engagement when he feels that he is ready. This will allow him the opportunity to digest it and still propose to you when the romantic setting is right.
If he has reasons to shy away from marriage, you need to evaluate where you are in life right now and if you can handle being with him but never getting married. If the answer is "Yes", stick it out. If the answer is "No", you need to consider it a deadend street and look for a man who will love you as much as you love him and wants to get married when the time is right.
Good luck!
2006-07-07 10:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've been dating for a year and a half, so he shouldn't be easily 'scared away', and should be pretty attached to you at this point. Honestly at your age honey you're not getting any younger, so without being clingy or needy, you can start asking what he thinks of eventually settling down. If in another year or so you're still not engaged or married, you may have to give him a 'push' (an ultimatum). This is very common and nothing to be ashamed of. Many ultimatum-based marriages last forever! I've known many couples like this. It's in a man's nature to resist change ;-)
2006-07-07 10:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by tmw_9999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh don't do that! Patience! Patience! Or you'll scare him to death. A year and a half isn't all that long. I assume you've both said "I love you" to each other already. Now, just take your time. Let it happen on it's own. You can say stuff to make him feel more comfortable about transitioning to marriage, like "I love when I wake up and see your face." If you've said "I love you" already, something like that will not scare him and will make him feel very loved and appreciated by you. Slow and steady wins the race!
2006-07-07 10:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say "The Rest OF Your Life"
Say "I like where things are going between us and I hope there is more to come down the line. Also I am very interested in where are relationship is taking us, so if it lasts I know we will be happy."
Or something around the lines.
2006-07-07 10:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by blondieinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 09:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your position I just would have waited for him to bring the subject, and then tell him, so that he wont be scared and would consider it as a reaction .
I hope your relationship to continue afterlife.
2006-07-07 11:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by mr.ipod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you as much as you love him, then it shouldn't matter who tells who. My girlfriend told me this a little while ago. Since I love her, I didn't run away. I also didn't ask her to marry me right on the spot. Remember, telling someone you want to be with them forever is NOT a marriage proposal.
2006-07-07 10:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by ccwineguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him that will scare him away! Make sure he feels the same way before you make a statement like that.
2006-07-07 10:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long talk. Ask him where he sees the relationship going. If he's headed the same direction you are, then tell him you agree. Nothing wrong with asking the question.
2006-07-07 10:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋