I have been married for 10 years. My husband whom i love very much has had a ongoing problem with depression and alcohol. Over the years it is only getting worse. He refuses to get help and I have pleaded, begged, cryied, and yeld at him to get help. We have two daughters 4 years and 3 years. I am fear they will start recongizing his drinking and depression and am afraid of the effect it will have on them. Is it time for me to take our daughters and seperate, until he accepts help and helps himself?
2006-07-07 10:49:15 · 8 answers · asked by KLynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, get out now! Good luck!
2006-07-07 10:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by ndvsne1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My childhood was with an alcoholic. My dad would always drink and of course end up cheating on my mother. I have very bad memories as many as good from my father. I see that it affected me alot. And it still is, due to that I lost him 3 yrs ago due to his alcohol problem. As the matter a fact, TODAY is 3 yrs that we lost him. Now I don't have a dad, or my kids a grandfather. I'm still hurting. So PLEASE do all you can to help him. Try your best don't leave him behind. I don't think that is the way to help an alcoholic. Go with him to counseling or to go get help. Just don't leave him without doing what you can. Be by his side.
2006-07-07 17:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by yo_010180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to take those girls out of that environment and protect them. As their mother, it is your responsibility to shield them from these problems. Take the girls and go. Tell your husband you are filing divorce papers unless he enters a treatment facility immediately. Don't let what others think or how it will complicate your lives enter into this decision. Do it for the good of your family and in the best interest of your children.
Good luck and be strong.
2006-07-07 18:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is having an affair or is gay and uses alcohol to numb the guilt. Don't want to make you paranoid, but it happened to me. I was married 6.5 years and 3.5 years into it realized I was attracted to men. I never acted on it, but felt guilty as hell. Alcohol seemed to help me cope.
Now that I've admitted it and have started divorce proceedings, I consume much less alcohol and am much happier. Push the issue and eventually he will break and spill all. Good luck!
2006-07-07 17:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Vincent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about u force him to do..i mean try to make a Dr or a concerned center call him n offer help..its really bad to live without the one u love n its bad 4 ur daughters 2 live without their dad..besides he might gets worse when u leave!!
2006-07-07 17:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by shoosh_b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good test for him. Maybe seeing that you are willing to leave will be enough of an ultimatum to get him to shape up. You can't bluff this one though; don't leave unless you are really willing to divorce if he doesn't get his life together. Good luck!
2006-07-07 17:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by inaccord18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like counselling is in order, like family counselling. Youd be surprised at how much itll help.
Good Luck!
2006-07-07 18:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by lolaamor83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's way beyond time. You can't help someone that won't help themselves. This is definitely not good for you or your children. Get out now, before the kids suffer.
2006-07-07 18:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋