This really bothers me and she says she will not give up her friendship.
2006-07-07 10:42:06 · 21 answers · asked by rudyard88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce the s lut.
2006-07-07 10:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How disrespectful! She had an affair with this SOB and continues to talk to him. Not only that, but it bothers YOU, her husband, and she refuses to give up the friendship. That's simply amazing.
What's more amazing is that you don't know what to do about it. The reason she's acting like this, and possibly the reason that she cheated on you in the first place, is because you are not being a man. A real man wouldn't put up with this for one second. He would tell his inconsiderate wife (who may STILL be cheating on him), that if she doesn't cut all ties to this man, then she's got to go.
If I may ask, why did you stay after she cheated the first time? Did she tell you that she was sorry? Well, sorry would be regaining your trust, and that can't be done if she keeps in contact with this guy. She doesn't care about you the way she should. In effect, she's choosing her relationship with this cheating bastard, over her relationship with you. And like another poster said, she's rubbing it in your face. Everytime she calls this guy, it reminds you of the affair. That's mental abuse to you, my friend.
Think about that, and you'll know what to do.
2006-07-07 17:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by Righteous1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain that it makes you insecure and feel uncomfortable. Dont make accusations else she will just clam up. Tell her how much you love her and that you just want to be really open about your feelings. Dont give any ultimatums yet. Tell her you know its her friend but she must understand that you dont feel comfortable with her speaking to him after the affair. Hear her side even if you dont like it...just listen. Talk about it. Thats what marriage is all about. If it continues..i would tell her later that you just cant keep on living like this and give her an ultimatum. If she really loves you, she will respect you with the first conversation and stop talking to him.
2006-07-07 17:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by angelikness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually something similar happened to me........... you need to ask her how would she feel about you talking to someone YOU had an affair with and if it would bother her tell her she needs to stop doing this because it bothers you... I had an awesome friend and screwed it up by having sex with him and now regret it but you cant go back to just being "friends" after you have sex with someone so maybe there is something more going on there... I know its hard for guys to tell a woman your feelings BUT you really need to sit her down and have a heart to heart because otherwise it will not stop!
2006-07-07 17:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do nothing, that is if you want to keep her.
basically she values the friendship and if that is all that there is now then why not leave it alone. if they are still sexually active it may be a different matter depending on how you feel about the whole thing. but why not just ignore it and live your life? she is not going to wear it out or use it all up
share a little smile and enjoy life
2006-07-07 17:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by ellisd1950 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you feel uncomfortable about it because of the affair and she should respect that. In addition, she is your wife and that guy's friendship should not supercede her marriage. Family first then friends.
2006-07-07 18:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by Rolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her to make a choice: You or him. You've told her how you feel and she refuses to give up the friendship. She needs to be asked if that friendship is worth losing you.
2006-07-07 17:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend I have been there I left my wife and 2 weeks later she moved in with him... Let her go lick your wounds and remember, there are more women out there that will be true 2 U
2006-07-07 17:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that the affair ever stopped??? Maybe she just got sneakier.....don't ask people to tell you what to do....you already know. Leave her, or if you need proof, hire an investigator. You deserve better than that.
2006-07-07 17:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you not getting? She said she won't give up the friendship. That means she won't give him up for you. She is putting him 1st, get the hell out and find someone else.
2006-07-07 17:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by lilos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her Him or me ,If she loves you enough then she'll choose you, with the e-mailing and talking to him ,It's like rubbing it into your face, and the temptation is still open for her to cheat.
If she chooses to continue then she has no respect for you. Have more respect for yourself
and show her the door.
2006-07-07 17:52:17 · answer #11 · answered by blue moon lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋