my fiance of two years was once gay. i met him 6 years ago when he was. he cam out to me freshman year. i was cool with it. he was in a few sexuall realationships with men. then he had a bad gay partner that grossed him out. then he wasnt gay anymore. we then got together. we have had a great time. we have a lot of sex. he still looks gay but not to me. he acts half way gay also. then 1 month ago i saw gay porn on the comp!!!!!!!! he swears he was just looking to verify that he was straight!!! am i in denial??
2006-07-07 10:25:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
...Ask him who is hotter: Christina Aguilera or Johnny Depp. If he says Johnny Depp, I'd dump him as a fiance but keep him as a hair dresser.
2006-07-07 12:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that he's Bi. Or ya might be in denial. If he's into you, and is aroused by you then I'd not worry. I'm Bi, but am mostly into women. Looking at girl straight porn gets me revved up, but gay porn does'nt. Maybe he's the opposite? I salute ya for being open to him. It's rare for a girl to be cool with a guy who's sometimes, or used to be into the same sexual stimuli that SHE'S always been into. I'd be wary, but willing to beleive him. If he's bi, it DOES NOT mean he'll not be into you and only you!. Just that he get's stimulated different.
2006-07-12 01:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Dell W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very much in denial. If your guy was gay when you met, he'll be gay when you walk out his life. If you want to marry a gay man, then just accept that he's going to have sex with you and with men. If that lifestyle is acceptable to you, then do it. If not, run like the wind and get tested.
2006-07-07 10:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm... That's hard cause I actually have a sister that is married to a guy that was once gay but he actually turned straight for her.. They have a kid now and he doesn't act gay anymore, sometimes though he gets confusing and he jokes around but I don't really think he's still gay. Do you trust him? Cause if you don't trust him to tell you the truth then it doesn't matter but if you do then seriously ask him if he's still having feelings for men.
2006-07-07 10:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by starburst_068815 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say dont be with a man thats gay.I mean he should know for sure that he is not gay anymore.So if he is still gay he could be having sex with other guys which means he could have an STD or something I would say get tested.Just because you or the partner dont have any symptoms dont mean anything.
2006-07-07 10:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Good news is your Fiance is NOT gay but he his Bi-Sexual
no one can just becomes straight over night, just as you cant become gay over night!! please take this from a fellow Gay Man
If you can accept that your man is Bi sexual more power to you!! Just remember since he is Bi, he will probably want to get together with the men once in a while either with your knowledge or behind hind you back!!!
2006-07-07 16:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't just stop being gay. It could be that before he was just experimenting and he really never was gay, but it doesn't just change. Don't worry about it, though. The way he looks and acts doesn't matter and if he's with you and enjoys being with you he's probably not gay.
2006-07-07 10:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Cyn90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has probably always been bi, but at the point he met you and got to you he chose the straighter path and chose to be with you, dont look at him as gay or straight, but as a guy that might look at porn every once in a while, we all do it
2006-07-10 15:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by kentuckygrown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u r in denial. Have u ever met a man that made u sick? And r u still interested in the same type? If you choose not to belive me that's fine, just be on your guard. And DO NOT get married unless you have NO doubts whatsoever.
2006-07-07 10:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he may be bi. But this doens't mean he can't be faithful to someone. Try sticking by him regardless of what others say. This may make him feel really loved and he'll have no reason to look for it in that gay stuff.
2006-07-11 15:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by lil m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey once they go gay they dont go straight! he should know if his straight just by walking down the street he doesnt need gay porn to tell him that. if he walks down the street and doesnt think of any guy in a sexual way then he aint gay but if he thinks hey i'll do him then guess what he is gay!!!! my point being he is gay, sorry to pop your bubble but it is the truth.
2006-07-07 10:29:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋