I've been with my wife since we were 19. We are now 36. I have always been more in the libido that she but lately I feel like she is just not into me at all. Physically, we are both in the best shape of our lives and we have a great family life with our kids. I could actually accept if she were seeing someone else (at least there would be an answer) but I don't believe that is the case. She has told me for so many years that she doesn't know why she is not a passionate person (in any aspect of life) and she is affraid that she will eventually push me too far away. Now I am the one that is really scared. I don't think I can handle being rejected any more and I think I have finally hit my limit. I am not scared that she will leave, I am affraid that I will want to. But I won't. I have 2 little kids that I love more than life let alone happiness. I would never leave them. Don't know if this is making sense but I needed to get it out.
2006-07-07 10:14:30 · 7 answers · asked by happier now 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm gonna share something... that maybe all women won't agree with at first... but a lot of times it's a big reason why women get stressed out in relationships. As women we have a ton of emotional issues going on with us that at times we don't even understand ourselves. You wife might be going thru something right now, and maybe she needs someone to talk to, even if she doesn't understand why. In relationships sometimes we also tend to feel like we're not enough, and too much all at once. Like she's not a good enough wife/mother/friend, ect... and like if she's over emotional and she's honest about what's going on inside she'll be too much for you to handle. Just keep telling her how much you love her, and tell her why you love her... tell her why you married her in the first place, tell her why you'll always want to be married to her. Sometimes we know things in our head, but it takes a lot of reminding to remember it in our heart. Be really patient. It sounds like she's afraid, let her know she can be honest with you and she doesn't have to be afraid of anything... and hold up to that promise! Don't take what she might say personally, take it in and try to fix things.
Good luck, I hope everything works out great for you and your wife!
2006-07-07 10:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by starsmoak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a tough situation. If she is so afraid that she will push you away, then that should whip her into shape. Ask her what she likes, what changes she would like to see into you.
It's not all about her being passionate. Maybe doing something outlandish would make her appreciate the fact that you're a faithful man and not chasing a piece of @$$.
I could give you some ideas if you'd like.
ljeezy2000s@yahoo.com
Hate to see this happen, but good men get the shaft. Hopefully it'll work out.
Seriously, email me. See what I can conjure up for you. I got stories too.
2006-07-07 10:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you sound like a great husband and father. I have dealt with a little bit of this in my life too. I really didn't always feel aroused or passionate, so I went to the doctor. Maybe she needs to get her hormone levels checked. Did you know that if she talks to a doctor about what's going on with her, they can prescribe testosterone and BOOST her sex drive!!!! She won't even have to think about it she will want to!!! GOOD LUCK
2006-07-07 10:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by justagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Brother....
Fist of all you avoid your fear that you will be in need of leaving her.
Now try to encourage her to come out of her fear that you may leave her.
You are cent percent sure that she is not going to throw you.
give such an assurance to her too,
in a way that she should accept this fact mentally.
This requires a lot of responsibility and care from your side that you should love to full fill.
think that she is suffering from an illness called "FEAR" which has no medicine other than your LOVE and CARE.
Once she is out of that deli-ma
she will definitely give you the same LOVE very passionately,
sometimes in multiple
ALL the BEST...
2006-07-07 10:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by RAM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are over the counter and prescription meds that can boost the libido and sex drive of women. You need to consult her ob/gyn and get info on that. That is a problem that can be easily solved.
2006-07-07 10:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe something from her past made her that way (?)
Have u guys tried counciling? instead of a regular councilor I always suggest one from a church, like a pastor or something, that might help alot.
And dont forget prayer, it does help. Just pray and BELIEVE that ur change is coming and things will get better..
2006-07-07 10:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuuuh...
2006-07-07 10:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋