It just amazes me how many people I see on answers goins " He says he loves me but he won't leave his wife or family, what gives?" I just want to know how people don't come to the conclusion that a broken vow once means a broken vow again.
2006-07-07 10:11:19 · 6 answers · asked by on my way 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anybody who has an affair with a married person and actually thinks the married person is going to leave his/her family is stupid! The only reason to have an affar with a married person is because the married person actually has time for something on the side and the single person finds it convenient. But to think/expect that you are going to ride off into the sunset with Mr/Mrs Married is living in fantasyland. People are not going to get a divorce only to lose their kids, pay alimony and child support and split up property...especially people in long-term marriages and community property states.
2006-07-07 10:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had an affair with a married man. We are not together right now but with any luck will be soon! Do not get me wrong I never went out looking for a married man. We started out as friends a long time ago and we both were in a bad spot and were there for each other as friends..one thing lead to another and it happend. I have no regrets! I do love him and he loves me but neither of us can completely commit to each other--we enjoy the time we have together and will be together someday! Don't judge people based on what you think you know there are circumstances that you may never know. People cheat for alot of different reasons and judgement is hard to take. If you do not like that someone cheats or cheated then don't talk to them but dont judge them either.
Alot of men or worman do not leave due to child support, splitting everything ect. Most men love there mistresses but there is to much history to break it up!
2006-07-07 10:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babyjake said it correctly. People will stay for all the reasons EXCEPT that they LOVE their spouse. Too much of a hassle to split everything, pay child support, alimony, etc. That's why married men don't leave their wives for their mistresses, it has nothing to do with love. More often than not, the men actually do love whoever they are cheating with but it's too messy to get out. People like the easy route, and staying with their partner is what that is. It's sad that a lot of the wives think that this means they love them more than mistress when in reality "it's cheaper to keep her" is the main reason they stay.
2006-07-07 10:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by lilos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not nessesarily, people cheat because they are missing something in their relationship with their partner. Most likely emotionally. The idea of only being with one person EVER to be completley satisfied is outdated and unrealistic. Lets face the facts people love their children no matter what, their spouses well thats another story.
2006-07-07 10:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by babyjake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't want the commitment of being ina steady relationship so they figure if they have casual sex with a married person they don't have to worry about getting tied down you know the no strings type of thing!
2006-07-07 10:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never understood that either. I've always said, 'Once a cheater, always a cheater.' If he or she is cheating on their spouse to be with you (not you personally), what makes you think they won't cheat on you.
2006-07-07 10:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋