I've been married 4 a few months now and I found out that my husband started talking to his ex.. They spoke about 5xs in one week (per the cell phone bill) It was when we were really going thru tough times! I have no proof but I think he went to see her. I really don't believe he slept with her. Even if he didn't, do you still consider that cheating?????
2006-07-07 10:10:22 · 12 answers · asked by ready4answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it aint up for us to decided...me personally, no, not cheating...but if you feel emotionally, spiritually or physically betrayed, then you need to resolve this with him....he probably just sought conversation with someone he felt comfortable talking to...
2006-07-07 10:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by twentythree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is sex or the thought/planning to have sex. Otherwise he could be trying to get a woman's point of view from his ex. If they have kids then of course they should talk. If not, then you need to ask him in a non confortational manner. Ask him if there is someone he confides in when you two have difficulties. If he offers up his ex as that person, you have your answer. If he does not the you may be on to something. Be ready to tell him who you confide in. Pick your own words and a time that is not difficult, when things are good between you.
2006-07-07 10:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by bondoman01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no talking to her isn't cheating but he shouldn't have called her even when you 2 were going into tough times calling her only means that when its bad at home i'll call my ex and she can make me feel better which is bad b/c that's your job tell him you know he spoke to her and tell him let's not have it happen again and what makes you think he didnt sleep with her if he can speak to her 5x's he can sleep with her it only takes a sad story and an i miss u and think of u can i come over
2006-07-07 10:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why does he need to talk to his ex ??? Better find out what it's about and what's going on. Confront him. tell him you saw the bill and ask why he's keeping in touch with an ex.
2006-07-07 10:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by lmdragonldy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they have become just good friends. You said you two were having a tough time - could have called her for advice.
In any case, be very tactful and ask him about her. You could say - oh, got the phone bill. I noticed **** number on it. Is she OK? Then watch his reaction. It will all be there!
Good luck!
2006-07-07 10:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what it's all about. If he gets defensive, get that marriage annulled. He's got no business being in that kind of contact with his ex even if they aren't cheating. There's a reason why she's his ex and you need to point that out to him.
2006-07-07 10:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of relationship you have. In some relationships, thats normal. If he never talked to her before and thats not normal for you, then yeah, Id consider it cheating, but not severely. I would just wonder why he feels he needs to talk to her.
2006-07-07 10:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by lolaamor83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to someone is not a crime. If you were going through tough times, maybe he felt he needed someone else to talk to. Although he should have been talking to you.
2006-07-07 11:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all keep in touch with our exs. they become friends, they know us, they're somebody we can talk. Leave him alone, he may be just commenting things, trying to understand something with the help of somebody who is used to his points of view.
2006-07-07 10:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ciccio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, maybe he just talked to her over the phone
2006-07-07 10:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Lil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋