Don't get me wrong, I like to watch a little flick myself. However, my boyfriend seems to not be honest with me about it at times.
For instance, last week, I was looking on his computer for a site that I had visited for tickets, and came accross a ton of sites that have been recently visited that were porn.
This was bothersome to me due to that fact that we had just talked aobut this issue.
His computer has been crashing lately and I was messing around with him about it. Joking that it was the porn that was making it crash. He then preceeded to tell me that he hasn't been to a porn site in a long time. Just strikes me as weird. Why would he lie to me about that?
2006-07-07 09:59:01 · 9 answers · asked by Just Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Porn is a drug ... and it's addictive as heck.
Getting caught doing something you know is not right, and choosing to lie about it, rather than admittinging it, is one of the classic signs of addiction.
Let him know that Lying is ABSOLUTELY not acceptable ... EVER. This is not a behaviour that you'd like to promote, even with your silence.
Talk to him from a more positive perspective ... If the two of your are sexually active, find out what is it about the porn he's looking at that he finds so attractive. Is there a way to satisfy those urges without the porn?
If your not sexually active ... then I'm not sure you'll be able to even broach the subject.
In any event, you'll find out a lot about your boyfriend ... he'll either talk about it and you two can reach a solution that you both can live with or he'll continue to lie about it ..... in which case I'd at least buy a good suitcase and make sure he sees it.
2006-07-07 10:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by flash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that he doesn't want to be confronted with the subject of "not being satisfied at home" ordeal. Guys can just be horny individuals. You could be giving it good to him whereever and whenever, but it's in a man's biological make-up to be sex ready just about all the time.
So you shouldn't have any doubts about yourself, if it is a problem/issue, it's usually just the guy responding to what he is created for. It's not uncommon for guys to have those thoughts or have a porn stash somewhere.
Now if he is seeking intimate attention elsewhere, then it's a serious problem.
2006-07-07 10:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by hirofuri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn websites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-07-07 19:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he feels guilty for looking at porn and you need to ask what it is about the porn is attracting him so that maybe you can give him some of the things he's using the porn for.
2006-07-07 10:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by brownunicorn_75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If he lies about that, then he is probably lying about a lot of things. Best thing I ever did was get rid of the guy who was pulling that on me. (for way more reason that I even care to go into)
2006-07-07 10:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out the door, girl!!! I would not put up with that! How do you think you can trust him when he looks at porn?
2006-07-07 10:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lorla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU'RE MALE OR FEMALE, IF YOU CAN'T BE OPEN AND HONEST WITH YOUR PARTNER IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, YOU NEED TO END IT. WITHOUT TRUST AND HONESTY, WHAT COULD YOUR RELATIONSHIP BE BASED ON... LOVE? IF HE LOVES YOU, HE WOULDN'T LIE TO YOU ABOUT SOMETHING YOU FEEL SO STRONGLY ABOUT. WHO KNOWS WHAT ELSE HE COULD BE LYING ABOUT!!!
ON A GOOD NOTE... MAYBE HE'S USING THE PORN SITES TO GET IDEAS TO SPICE UP YOUR SEX LIFE AND PLEASE YOU IN A WHOLE DIFFERENT WAY... REMEMBER I SAID MAYBE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-07 10:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats not a problem until you you have a hold on to him if you leave him loose you might be in a problem
2006-07-07 10:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by ankur m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt mean anything, just go on with life.
2006-07-07 10:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by Fowl Language 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋