he is away from his family.when he is with me he takes care of me.but when he goes to his home he gets affended.even i dont want to disturb his family.what should i do.he is behaving as if i am nothing to him. i love him so much and i cant live witout talking to me.
2006-07-07 09:57:56 · 53 answers · asked by dee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
XXXXXXXXXX Being in love with a married man is your first mistake. This can not be a permanent situation or a healthy one for either parties involved. This says something negative about you and about the man who cheats on his wife. XXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-08 17:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to tell you in his own way, by behaving as though you are nothing to him, that you need to back away. Trying to continue a relationship with this may will only bring you more pain.
There are many other men out there, not married, that would be much better for you and too you than you will ever get with him.
He is tied to his family. There is no room for you. You must move on.
2006-07-08 06:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, he doesn't care about you. If he did, he never would have put you in this type of situation...that is not a loving way to treat someone.
You need to get away and stay away from him so that you can get over him. If you don't, you'll never be able to get past this.
Remember: a married man knows how to treat a woman much better than a single man...he knows exactly what to say and do, BUT he's doing it only for his own selfishness and not out of genuine love for you.
Married men have aggressively pursued me in the past; one of them did so to the point of stalking. I didn't get involved, thank God, but I did have to completely alter my life because of that fool...his wife was my friend and I couldn't even see her anymore.
I pray that you'll cry out and ask the Lord Jesus to deliver you out of this situation, and He will, and He will heal you, too, so that you can move on and have a healthy relationship with a real man that loves you for all of who you are and not just for what he can get from you.
God bless!
2006-07-07 17:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by BizMomof3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to wake up and get a clue. He's married!!! If he wanted to be with you, he would be. And the kicker, even if he did leave his wife for you, you could never really trust him to be faithful. Look how faithful he is to his current wife. And he can't really be ditching you, because you are the OTHER woman. Remember that, you are lower on his priority list. You should go out and find someone who is available and stop messing with this family. That poor wife has enough to deal with now.
2006-07-07 10:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by acholtz@verizon.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to know if he cheated on his wife that you can never trust him. He must be ashamed of you and has no intention of any future with you other than how many times He can enjoy nothing more than another lay. Is that all you want for yourself? I think you would rather find a man that loves you and wants to be with you and you can never do that while clinging to a dead end loser like this one. Sorry but it's the truth,
2006-07-07 10:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Janis G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may hurt to say, but this situation is going to devistate everyone involved.
I personally have had a wife who cheated on me, destroyed our marriage, and married the guy she cheated on me with. Two years later, the mixed family is miserable, in financial turmoil, 4 kids (2 of mine, 2 of his from previous affairs) are neglected due to their selfishness... and I'm working 70 hours a week to pay child support, and I can't see my kids as much as I'd like.
I'd have much more to say, but it's enough for you to stop this, and find someone else. I bet you'll find the perfect person out there, someone who won't bring YOU down like this either.
2006-07-07 10:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by shikamaruzero 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell are you going with a "Married" man anyway!! He will never leave his Family for you at all!!!!He just wants how the saying go"s "Have his cake and eat it too" !!!! My son did this to his wife and the pain she had when she found out !! Think girl who your hurting "his wife and kids and yourself!!! He is just a cheat; on you and on his wife !!! But mostly on his Wife and Family!!! to me anyone go"s with a Married man and knows he is "married is low life to me!!. You can do better and think about what is right girl!! There is a God and he is watching what your going in your life and ask the Lord to help you!!! For you need it and if you do not stop seeing this man you will regret it later!! So hear what I am saying to you STOP SEEING HIM FOR YOUR SAKE !! THIS IS NOT LOVE! I have seen the pain in someone who cheats on the other!!!!
2006-07-07 10:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you see the movie Pritty Woman.. Its all there right in front of you..To me sounds as if your his ____. Sorry Love you asked.. If you dont like living like this then do something about it but not with him... He has his now you must find yours..Of cause he takes care of you, if he had 5 yous he would be a pimp..Your his cake on the side..Dont wast you life wishing for something that most likely wount happen. find your self someone that will love you and only you... LOL ROB
2006-07-07 10:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, cmon. You got involved with a married man? That is asking for a world of hurt. He has a family. He is of course going to put them first. Also, being with you proves he is dishonest and cannot be trusted. Do you want to be involved with someone like that? I hope not. Have some dignity. Leave him and move on.
2006-07-07 10:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are nothing but a play toy to him, he's confused and bewildered...let him go, if he really wants to leave his wife he will whether you are around or not. If you leave you won't be in a love triangle and you can get on with your life. Less pain and aggravation for you. tell him when he has the divorce finalized to give you a call and you two can start from there.
2006-07-07 10:01:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋