I am 13 years old and 8 mths pregnant my boyfriend is 18 years old and everytime he gets mad he beats on me. He only act like this when I get pregnant this is my second pregnancy I have a 10 mth old son by him. I cant do nothing when he is around me, I cant go to sleep because when I do he wake me up out my sleep because he wants to have sex or because he like to rub on my when im sleep and that wake me up.I cant go out the house without him with me he treat me like im his child. If I tell him that I dont want to do something he would either start hitting me in my stomach or he would make me have sex with him. I dont know what to do anymore.Im starting to second guess im pregnancy I feel like ima nobody.He wont let me talk on the phone without him right there.What should I do??Im scared to leave him.
2006-07-07 09:57:38 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I dont live with my parents I live with him
2006-07-07 11:14:04 · update #1
two words - Statuatory Rape
2006-07-07 10:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by FireMedic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop crying, that's enough, you are weak, I can tell just by reading this. Be a STRONG woman. You have a baby to worry about. Do you want this for your child? I was just watching Tyra Banks show yesterday and they were talking about this... He IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE... Don't live in a fantasy world, thinking he can do a 100% turn around, because it won't happen. It may seem like it at periods of time, but be smarter than that. He's not good for you, as harsh as it seems. You need help. Don't let him hit on you, but never hit him because men can be dangerous. Escape for your life and the life of your child. You can be SOOOO much happier without him, and the problem with girls these days is that they think they can't live without a certain guy, but there are guys out there who will love you MUCH better. If you want to, you can contact me. Much love and happiness for you and I wish you and your baby luck...
2006-07-07 10:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS EXACTLY WHY YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO HAVE SEX! Now, with that out of the way, here's some advice. You are bringing another child into a destructive home. Have some self respect. DO NOT ALLOW a man to hit on you. I understand that you are scared so use both sides of your brain and leave him. Go home to your mom, wait for him to fall asleep and clock his a$$ in the head with a cast iron pan, wait for him to leave th house and go to a friends house, I mean DO SOMETHING other then sitting there getting raped and beat!
I'm sure your parents didn't want your life to end up like this. Go for help at a church, a police station....anything!
2006-07-07 10:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by s_sill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please rethink your love for this person. He is not a man he is a jackass. I am in a safe home right now because of a similar problem that I let go on for 7 years. You cannot change people. he is an abuser. You may not see it, but to make you do things you do not want to do, that is a form of control ,and that is what he wants to do with you. You are more important than that. Please seek some kind of outside help even if you have to do it secretly --(like I did)-- Now my daughter (5 years) and I are safe from harm and can rest easily knowing we will not be hurt in some kind of way. I am 44 years old. Please look at your situation very seriously. YOU AND YOUR CHILD AND UNBORN CHILD ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT.
2006-07-07 10:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by pamela s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I would say is what you are doing is totally wrong at this age. I donot know about sex till I was 27 until I got married.
The age you are is a lovely period to enjoy the world and not to have sex and enter into such nonsense thing. Even now it is not too late. Get rid of the man, and live alone and marry a man at the age of 25 when you know what is right and what is wrong.
But donot worry. Forget about the past. Take care of your baby and raise the child properly.
Jayanthi From India, Advising as your sister.
2006-07-07 10:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by santhanam j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, when you read this, you make sure you email me . Anytime you feel you need to talk. Ok, first of all where are your parents? Not only are you not mentally stable to be having sex, your also not emotionally stable for kids. Love yourself sweetie, i know, I've been there. I had 4 kids by the time i was 22, on my own since i was 16. It took me a long time to love me, so i wouldn't give you any advice i wouldn't take myself. Say this and believe me it works... God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change( your man) the courage to change the things that i can( yourself and your situation) and the wisdom to know the difference. I'm not a very religious person but i know that only a higher power could have brought me and my children as far as we have come. Love yourself babe. All your flaws, your goofy laugh, whatever it maybe about you. Your not living just for yourself anymore, it's all about your babies and they didn't ask to be here, they deserve better than a crazy *** father who is so insecure with his own **** that he has to hit the mother of his child. You deserve better sweetie, go out and get it but most of all learn to love and know no one can make you happy, they can enhance your happiness but ultimately your happiness comes from you.
2006-07-07 10:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Legendary Booty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are telling the truth and you are 13 and he is 18, he should be sitting in jail. He is a child molester. And if it is true, why would you have a second child at your age? Dump him, go back to school and make a decent life for you and your children. If I was your mother I would have had him arrested long ago. Move back with your parents and have them call the police.
2006-07-07 10:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sandra G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents? If you can't ask them for help, then when you get a chance, take your child and run to the nearest police station. Your boyfriend is committing statutory rape because you are under 18. You can also press charges of abuse.
They will be able to get you to a domestic abuse shelter or a safe house or even back to your parents if you ran away.
Just get the heck out of there.
2006-07-07 10:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by janinenc2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, either call the police or go to the hospital. he's obviously abusing you very badly. you shouldn't even be with him in the first place. you're still young. and when you said: "I cant go out the house without him with me he treat me like im his child."... he treats you like his child because you ARE a child. you are only 13 years old! and this is your second pregnancy?!?! sheesh! dont you have parents?? they can help you out. because even if you've made soo many mistakes in life, they're always gonna be there because they're your parents.
2006-07-07 10:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by hataz_envii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where are your parents?? If he won't let u use the phone unless he's there, why does he let u use the computer alone?? I don't know what to tell u. call an abuse hot-line or something!! take the kids and run!!! get out b 4 he kills u.....I don't know hat else to tell u... he's 18, where do y'all I've?? and how is he/or u supporting the kids at 13 and 18??
2006-07-07 10:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone will tell you to leave, and that's fine, but you need to understand that no matter what you think of your parents, the reason people are telling you to go to them is simple: Do you love your child? Do you remember how you felt when your child was born? Your mother felt the same way about you, and her mother felt the same way about her. Whatever has happened since then, doesn't matter. Someone you are close to in your family (besides you boyfriend) needs to hear from you and they will help. Do what I just did - remind them of what it felt like when their child was born and ask for their help. They will.
2006-07-07 10:06:42 · answer #11 · answered by An Oregon Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋