He didnt cheat, but made me feel like I wasnt good enough.
2006-07-07 09:55:20 · 9 answers · asked by Hot Mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes alot of time and comunication you'll go through feelings for a while but if he feels it's worht it he'll understand and help you through them. Then when you think you are over it out of the blue you'll go through those feelings again and may snap on him for nothing but what you do is work through them if he's willing tobe there and make you feel the way you feel you need to b/c sometimes men don't have a clue of what they do they are real insensitive at times but they don't mean it!
2006-07-07 10:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by Danette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't "cheat", then it's not a matter of trust, is it? It's a matter of him showing you how he really felt, and that truth made you feel inadequate.
So, now the question is, was he right? Were you not good enough, or is he just incapable of seeing that you are? It is possible to grow as a person (man or woman). Some of my greatest weaknesses are now my greatest strengths. I am 10 times the man I was 10 years ago.
So, if you weren't good enough, become so. Grow! Not for him, for you. Use his criticism as knowledge that gives you power.
If you were good enough, then the problem is his, not yours. His inability to appreciate who you are as a woman should not affect your self-esteem. His lack of vision shouldn't blind yours.
2006-07-07 10:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get on common ground. communicate with each other. make sure your partner knows how much you are hurting. Time will heal if the accusations go away. something is provoking it and that is where communication is crucial!
After the communication on all the issues, you will have a clear indication how much further the relationship will go. if not, then a therapist is needed.
2006-07-07 10:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by icexr791 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time
2006-07-07 09:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is an idea, an illusion, is to keep your conscience calm and believe that nothing will ever happen. The fact is that anything can happen, although some people is more predictable than others.
2006-07-07 10:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ciccio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain!!! I think it takes a lot of time and communication. You need to sit and think to yourself what would make you feel better about the situation. Then you need to share that with him. He needs to work at it just as much as you do.
2006-07-07 10:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by ready4answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with him? If he can do so much better, let him go and move on with your own life. I know you can do better.
2006-07-07 11:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he has to try to never give you a reason to doubt and you have to give him the benefit of the doubt.
2006-07-07 09:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by on my way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With patience.
2006-07-07 10:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by private_footballfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋