we both work I have a sitter at home with our 3 children he gets home earler than me so I can tell him what's going on if he's not going home right away (the bar) what 's disrespect. I work to and I I'd like to go for a beer also at times.
2006-07-07 09:50:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's because my sitter called me and said he has to go by 5p.m. I can't get a hold of my husband coz he left early today and of course he does't have his cell phone.
2006-07-07 10:33:41 · update #1
Well friend, welcome to our lives as married woman! I myself, age 40, married 22 years, 5 children have endured more than one rollercoaster w/ my hubby! I have had to (on more than one occasion) go into my "prayer closet" (just some quiet place) and pray for the Lord to renew our marriage...to make "what once was, to be again"...that excited feeling you had when you met...the little things you did for each other in the beginning when there were no children...The Lord has put many a thing on my heart to bless my husband with...If you spend some time in prayer...ask the Lord into your life...ask for wisdom and direction regarding matters of the heart and your kids and so on...it's amazing what transformations take place! Because then God is in control! Best of everything friend!
2006-07-07 09:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by diane b 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Marriage should be a two way street paved with caring. If you don't demand to know where he has been and what He has been doing and ask how has your day been and act like you care and let him know that you worry if He is not there and make it a nice place to be, He may be interested in being there with you. The concern and caring has to come from both of you if your marriage is going to be a good one. No woman should have to work and come home and do all the work there. Try to find a place of agreement on how to get along. Divorce can really be a horrible ordeal.
2006-07-07 09:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Janis G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK sounds like you both are professional--why not make a date in your planner and get TOGETHER fro a drink?? that would solve the going out after work--or just sit down and each pick a day that you can go out separately if you prefer...but make sure its on the calender..For some reason tho men have this thing about not checking in ---mine says when he does I get mad--Maybe because he could plan ahead like by noon?? so if I want to not cook its my call--that would be nice--its like taking advantage over the fact that I am there and want to be available for the kids or to cook --it is disrespectful and hurts to boot
2006-07-07 10:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So go for the beer, you are too responsible. Screw the sitter and the kids. Go bang some guy like a screen door in a hurricane and run off to the carribbean. Stop taking it all so seriously. Aloha!
2006-07-07 09:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not disrespectful for him to be able to cut loose, I understand your need to do the same as well, why don't you see if the sitter can stay an extra hour on fridays and go meet your hubby at the bar?
2006-07-07 09:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after being married so long comfort sets in and a sense of him or you knowing that neither of yo uare going anywhere so whats the sense in saying anything to the other he knows that you will eventually get home and take care of the kids and the house so that entitles him to go out and gang with the fellows try staying out one night and you not coming home and have the babysitter call himand say you havent arrived as of now and he'll have to come in turn the tables on him good luck
2006-07-07 09:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
Married 21 years.....assuming you were married at 18...that makes you 39.
Go back to school to learn punctuation. We should not have to guess at what your saying.
Because you work...yes he should give you a little respect and at the very least communicate with you. You children should come first to both of you not just one.
2006-07-07 09:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So just go for a beer with your friends, maybe then he will not take for granted that you always come home straight from work!
Every now and then I like to change up my routine just to keep my husband on his toes!
2006-07-07 09:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a talk, this sounds like a huge communication break down and need to fix it immediately. sit him down and discuss your concerns, and find a way to take turns going out after work so that each of you get that little extra time away from the chaos of the household.
2006-07-07 09:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? That didn't make sense. But you're typing really stressed and you need a break. You should talk to him - you're remembering the lives of 4 people And yourself, and you can't keep that up. Tell him, but gently, that he's breaking your heart with the stress.
2006-07-07 09:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋