We have been having problems in our relationship, with communication, as well as sex. I have been working nights and I am too tired to have sex most of the time. I am willing to go to counseling, or do whatever it takes to get back on track. He refuses to go to counseling but is talking to a woman he works with about me and what my problem is....He has also told me that they were attracted to each other and talked about sleeping together, but are now just friends. She has mentioned to me that I need to listen to him more, and not neglect him etc. like this is all my fault. I don't want him to talk to her anymore. Am I over reacting? I have recently changed jobs and took a pay cut just to get back on day shift. But he has called me a f****ng b**ch on more than one occasion, and refused to apologise for that, or for turning to another woman. I moved out, and he dosen't even call me. I have to call him. Any advice? Should I just let it blow over and get over it like he says I should?
2006-07-07 09:50:20 · 12 answers · asked by leslie m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, cheating takes more than just sleeping with another person. It's emotional as well, and it's the most damaging of all. He's emotionally cheating on you even if he hasn't slept with the other woman. Plus, it sounds like he refuses to end the "friendship" with her even to acknowledge your happiness. It sounds like he's moved on, and you should as well. The name calling is absolutely inappropriate as well. Get over it? That means he doesn't care how you feel.
2006-07-09 17:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealous and mad as hell is more like it. He is crossing a line by talking to another woman about you and your relationship, especially when you are willing to talk about stuff with him and even go to counseling. His refusal to go to counseling tells me that he isn't interested in fixing things with you. His turning to this other woman is robbing your relationship of time together, and of the intimacy of sharing. I think you need to start thinking about divorce because it looks like you are the only one trying to make this relationship work and in reality it takes two people.
2006-07-07 09:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly know how you feel...my husband has done the same **** and unfortunately this girl only sees his side which is blaming you and not your side. If you have moved out stay out and STOP calling him if he really wants to fix your problems than he would call you. You should give eachother time away from eachother and time will tell if you were meant to be together or not. Don't look for him let him be. I applaud you for leaving and not putting up with his ****. I honestly wish I had the guts to leave my husband.
2006-07-07 09:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by Xochitl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, any man that can talk to a woman like that is a BOY. And if he is confiding in other women, he is most likely doing something else, because he probably has created an emotional attachment.
Lose him. And I'm done talking about it.
2006-07-07 10:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm girl i think it is okay for you husband to have a friend that he talks to when you guys get into it but if he admits that they are attracted to each other then thats a different story they are more than friends or want to be more than friends ................... then thats another problem that he has caused .............. umm realy dont know what else i can tell ya but i think he does need to apologise for callen you all thoes hurtful names cus a real man wouldnt call a women out of her name and i also would say that you need to confront that girl and let her know she needs to back the **** off ya man.....................
hope this helps
P.S.
but if you do find out that he is cheating on you then i would leave his ***, (plain as day)
again, hope this helps
my love goes out to you
2006-07-07 11:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for a divorce. He's being an a**hole and you can do better than that. you never miss your water til your well runs dry. He'll see the grass isn't greener on the other side and for goodness sake STOP CALLING HIM! Let him miss you and believe me, it feels good when a man has to run behind you.
2006-07-07 10:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXX first of all, the only person your husband should be confiding in is you. Why is he telling this stranger your business? I would not go for that at al. No, don't let it blow over. You need to talk to him. THIS NEEDS TO STOP NOW XXXXXX
2006-07-08 17:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. I don't care what your problems are - if he turned to someone else and has admitted they talked about sleeping together - that's the same as infidelity to me. It doesn't matter whether they did it or not.
2006-07-07 09:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a J**** O***!!! Leave his bum. If he is talking to another chick about you and your problems together, instead of working them out with you.... Watch out... thats a signal. Don't call him, and let him blow over. Sounds like a big jerk!! GRRRR...
2006-07-07 09:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by barbaradjt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get a divorce personally...sounds like he is an *** and you deserve better seeing you are willing to work on it and he isn't.
2006-07-07 09:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋