There was this girl I quite .... liked. We got on well, and then suddenly I found out she was leaving. I felt really upset but I got her contact details (well e-mail) but now it's the end of the year and I'm really starting to miss her. She hasn't replied to a single e-mail I have sent her ever and I feel really upset because I still want to be friends with her. Some of my other friends know her and her sister (they live near) but I don't dare tell them about this whole thing because I'm scared of coming out. Anyway, I'm really missing her and I feel I've just let her pass by without really getting to know her and being really good friends with her. What should I do?
2006-07-07 09:49:47 · 13 answers · asked by The Doctor 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think the reason she hasn't replied is:
a) because she shares her account with her sister and
b) because she hasn't checked it for a while
2006-07-07 10:02:47 · update #1
I feel like I've let her pass by because I was always too scared to be really close friends. And I'm really not sure whether she likes me in that way as well.
2006-07-07 10:04:43 · update #2
Do you think she likes you? Why didn't she reply to your email?
I am writing to encourage you. If you like her follow up. Don't live your life wondering about what could have been.
You dont have to come out to your friends but, track her down and be forward with her. Women respond to confidence.
2006-07-07 09:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Old Money 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but this sounds like a crush with a heartbreak. If you know you have the right e-mail address but she hasn't sent back many (if any) replys then she's just not that into you. That doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you. You will find somebody else that you like and have fun with. Don't focus on this one anymore, move on.
Edit: I do tend to be a hopeless romantic though. Call her. Talk to her (face to face is best) one last time. Luck.
2006-07-07 19:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you haven't let her pass by if you've made the effort to e-mail her multiple times. The fact that she's not made one single reply tells me that although you want to be friends with her, she is not of the same mind. I don't know if you two had a thing going but it may be that she had less honorable intentions than you concerning your relationship. Stop, I repeat STOP beating yourself over the head with her memory because she's not coming back. You remind me of myself when I had a serious thing for a guy I worked with a long time ago, he and I started hanging out, then we got intimate one night, and even though I didn't see, wouldn't admit it to myself, I was never a friend to him. I was just a challenging piece of @**. I spent five years killing myself inside wondering what I could have done differently, setting myself up repeatedly to suffer the same hurts by him over and over again. Do this for yourself if you find it a good idea: write this girl a letter on paper. Let all your feelings out--you don't need to name names, just let all your feelings out in this letter--and put it in a big balloon. Fill that big balloon with helium... and LET IT GO. Then move on. There are plenty more girls out there who are potentially much better for your psyche than this one. Good luck, hon.
2006-07-07 17:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Toadstoolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truely there is nothing you can do. She could be acting like this because she too is scared to come out. Talk to your friends. Don't be scared to come out. If they react badly there are always new people to meet. Gay people.
And your probably thinking that you don't want to loose your friends, but think........do you really want to be hiding your whole life, cause your scared. You'll never be happy. And being happy is key. Do what you want, when you will. Don't live for others and their ignorance, and don't wait for this girl either. Find some one new. Believe me your young enough, you have several years to find someone to be friends with or partners with.
2006-07-07 17:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by My Optinion Counts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and have a great life a head of you. Don't fret over people passing through your life...enjoy them while they are here, and let them move on when they need to. New people come into your life as acquaintances leave...that is how it happens. Don't be sad, you have done what you can. IT is now time to turn your attentions to positive things and see what you can accomplish this summer. Good luck
2006-07-07 17:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her, you should just ask about her and her sister through your friends... Just tell them that you miss her and want to catch up with her since you haven't seen her in a while. No coming out involved since it just seems like something a friend would do.
Otherwise though, she could just be another one of those people you meet and really like but never really get to see again; we all have a bunch of those.
2006-07-07 16:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by psykhaotic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of a rule of thumb on unaswered emails, phone messages, etc. If you have a pretty good idea that they got the message, you can make a second attempt when the first goes unanswered. After that, if you try again, you're a stalker.
Time to move on.
2006-07-07 17:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything in life that you want you have to go after. Find out causually if she rec'd your emails. If so, then you've done what you could, unless you have the opportunity to run into her somewhere. If she didn't get them, then call her. When you say leaving, where did she go?
2006-07-07 17:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by Brianna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just back off, don't try contacting her again.
You may run into each other around town, then you can talk to her face to face. Only if by coincidence though.
You may be too forward & may be making her feel uncomfortable.
2006-07-07 16:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has she came out to others
2006-07-08 09:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋