Can someone tell me why it is not good to care what people think?

Question

Like in a situation where people constantly pick on you or call you fat or you so skinny or you mad ugly. Why is it not good to care what people think. Cause I dont wanna do nothing stupid based on some else's opinion about me.

Answer 1

Because people are mean and they only say those things to make theirselves feel better. If you're a good person, you can always do things to improove your looks, but a bad personality is an ugly person.

Answer 2

I was in your situation in High school (and before then as well)
I was overweight
I wear glasses
I literally was (and still am ) a know it all geek.

I did have good skin (at least that was going for me)

People picked on me constantly. But by the time I made it into my senior year, more people started to know me for the kind person I was, and I wasn't picked on by as many people.

Believe me the insults do hurt, the tricks and crap do hit hard.
But in a few years when you go from ugly duckling to swan and these others have turned from perfect chiseled jocks and cheerleaders into flabby misshapen idiots and you have some Law degree or medical practice, and go for your reunion. You will be able to laugh your *** off.

While they are living in trailers selling used tractors, or doing hair at super cuts. You will be living n a big house, with your successful spouse and your brilliant kids in private school getting a good education.

Just remember what goes around comes around, and you will be able to make it thru the day (despite those insults) with a smile on your face.

Answer 3

It's best not to care what people think because people are just like you. They are no more qualified to judge you than you are to judge them. Plus, some people are mean jerks who thrive on making others feel bad. Also, you should value yourself and hold your head up and believe that you are a special, great person because you are. Never let anyone else's ignorance belittle you. Keep a level head and don't do anything based on anyone else's opinion and when you do make your own decision to do something, make sure it's well thought out.

Answer 4

Don't be a people pleaser. Once others sense you are, they will have you jumping though hoops, only to leave you feeling empty. Eleanor Roosevelt said it best, "Nobody can intimidate you without your permission."

Take what they say with a grain of salt. The main question is, are you happy with yourself right now? If you are, then piss on those critics who get their jollies by trying to run your life. If you're not, then take whatever actions you need to do to fix the problem. Just, make sure your doing it for yourself, and not those busybody asses who are not worth even 5% of the stress and grief they may be causing you. The next time one of them criticizes you, give them Winston Churchill's famous line of, "I may be fat, by you are very ugly, and I can go on a diet whenever I want to." Start enjoying your life hon.

Answer 5

Friends and family are entitled to their opinion but anyone who voices it in a way which is upsetting would clearly not be worth considered a friend.

As for strangers, people who pass by in the street; who cares what they think, you'll probably never see them again, do you look at everyone and judge them, no - so they don't either!

The only thing that matters is that your happy being you, because nothing or no-one can change that! Look at the people saying that kind of stuff, are they happy? Probably not, and they just don't want you to be either.

Answer 6

Honestly, I think it is ok to care about what other people think about us. As long as we do not become obsessed with it. With out this self awareness we, as a species, would probably not evolve. To live in perfection is to grow stagnant, but to live in strife is to strive to reach perfection. The question becomes what do you care most about your self? The fact that people do not like the way you look or how you dress or the fact that your mind grows lax and others might find you dim? Is it better to be stupid and beautiful or ugly and intelligent? Improving is never wrong, just make sure you improve what is most important to YOU, not what is important to someone else.

Answer 7

exactly what you said. dont do something stupid because of someone elses opinion. do what makes your happy. are you too skinny? work on that/ are you overweight? go to the gym. but if you think your are to fat but you really arent then leave it. dont do anything stupid and be anerexic or anything like that.
if you let other peoples comments decide what you are going to do with your life/ your self, then you may not be making yourself happy. it is hard to ignore other peoples comments, but try your hardest. do what you do because it makes you happy, or makes you feel better. not just because some person feels the need to pick on you.

Answer 8

It's not a good thing to care what people think about you because that just means they've won at trying to get you to snap and get mad. They're only playing these games because they don't like you or are jealous of you, maybe even think your beneath them. You are the only one who knows you the best and they bully you because they're afraid that they could never be like you (not mimicking your every move). Responding to what they say can only make it worse because then they'll have it in their minds that your weak and can easily be broken down. Go to a counselor or principal and tell them about what is going on and ask that you remain annoymous, because it is most likely your not the only victim of their hate.

Answer 9

because everytime you care or listen to what people are saying, you are going to end up driving yourself crazy. like if you listen to somebody say "ur fat" you are gonna get the empession as if you REALLY ARE fat. and thats how most girls get in eating disorders and throwing up their food because of what some maniak has told them. or if someone says you are sooo ugly you will start to believe what those dummies are saying. and most of the time when people say things like that...then they are either jealous, or want you to feel bad or maybe because they don't have anything better to do. thats why its best to believe in what YOU think is best. most of the time those insulters are not better themselves. and god will make sure they pay for whatever wrong they have done or said to you. that is why you shouldn't stress yourself of what other people say. listening to that nonsense will make you weak. and if you don't listen to my advice then you will learn the hard way- because thats the same thing i went through. and i am going to the ninth grade right now and people no that they don't have nothing to say bad to me because they know that i don't care what they say. take my advice and be stronger and think positive. don't listen to their words because all it will do is fool you and make you miserable.

Answer 10

There are a lot of answers to your question, but I guess to wrap them all up together I would have to say that if you care what others think about you, and you try to live to please them your are trying to do the impossible. You need to be at peace with yourself and not worry about what others think. This is not an easy thing to do in today's society.

If they are picking on you it is more likely b/c of their own insecurities and they just feel you are an easy target. Feeling good about who you are and standing up to them will usually stop the abuse. You may also want to help them with whatever insecurities they are dealing with themselves.