Also, for religious reasons.
2006-07-07 09:41:27 · 17 answers · asked by Pepper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did you used to love him?
Don't know if this is your case or not but I think most people don't know the difference between love and infatuation. When people first get married they usually have such passionate feelings and fire for each other, after a while the fire dies. That passion is what attracts us to each other. When the feeling dies there may or may not be love beneth it all. If there is love there (even the slightest flicker) then it can be fanned into a new kind of passion that is stronger and more enduring then the original passion that started the romance. But that process takes time and patience and desire and hope. If you are not in 'love' with him it may be possible to build love.
I think there are too many people out there that think that if the passion is gone then you should just quit and find the passion somewhere else. If you do this however you may end up in a perpetual cycle of falling in love and then leaving as soon as the fire dies. There was a study done a while back that showed that the inital feelings of love (or what I call infatuation) die out after 1-2 years of marriage.
So you have to ask yourself- what is your definition of Love, and is it possible to build that with him?
Now the religious answer: I believe that if we are right with God- that we can fall in love with any of His children. I believe that God can show you the man inside your husband that is beautiful and wonderful. If your husband is nice- as in he is moral, upstanding, and a decent guy- and if you ask God to help you see your husband through God's eyes- you will see things in him that will fan the passion and give you the desire to build a lasting and beautiful marriage. But it will only happen if your heart is in the right place.
2006-07-07 10:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by He's Real 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of that is reason for a divorce according to the Bible. You should work harder to make the marriage work. What was the physical attraction when you first started seeing each other? How did you fall out of love? Were you ever in love to begin with? These are some things you should ask yourself and work on them. Good luck.
2006-07-07 09:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I know someone personally who is stil in that situation but feels somehwat dead inside for doing so. There are of course more details to that story but she made that mistake and now it has been fifteen years. She is tired or not living for love and passion and is finally looking to make a step toward freeing herself. She does regret allowing so much time to pass and realizes she should not have married him in the first place, but all she can do now is try to correct the situation and move on. Don't make the same mistake. You can find a partner that is nice and you live everyday for. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-07 10:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sovereign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most people would say "no", but marriage is SUPPOSED to be a lifetime commitment. However, why would someone marry a person they don't love, and aren't physically attracted to? That's a little on the stupid side.
2006-07-07 09:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by oneladyice1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you in love and physically attracted when you married?
If so, yes you should stay married. If not, why did you marry in the first place?
2006-07-07 10:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what was done to me...So my Question is what the **** did you get involved and allow this man to marry for? I don't agree with leaving him due to this...for obvious & bias reasons...However You made a vow to GOD..For Better or For Worse. But if the Love of GOD doesn't exist in your heart (unconditional) instead of cheating behind his back & getting caught... like what was done to me...end it first!
Get some help while youat it.
2006-07-07 09:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Only if you want to kill him inside. Only if you want to destroy his sense of self-esteem; his value as a man. You'll have to lie, pretend and force yourself to express things you don't feel. Is that love? Is that "marriage"? Is that what God intended for this nice guy? Someone who would hurt him as badly as you surely will?
You have no idea how much damage you can do, and how quickly. If he's a nice guy he will endure it for years... until his spirit finally dies. If you love him even a little... don't do this.
2006-07-07 09:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you no longer love the person, please let them go - so that they can find some one who does. In my opinion staying out of sympathy, staying because you promised you would until death, for the children etc, are horrible reasons to stay with someone. I wouldnt want someone with me who was in it because they had to be - for any reason.
Love em or leave em.
2006-07-07 09:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no b/c in the long run you will resent them start to hate them if you are not happy leave dont stay b/c they are nice or for the religious factor be truthful and let your partner know how you feel
2006-07-07 09:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- I dont think so. You are supposed to love the one you are married to. If you don't it;s not fair to you OR him. You are preventing yourself from being happy. You are in the way of him having someone that DOES love him.
2006-07-07 09:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋