If all goes well, I should be starting law school in Sept. '07. I'm 29 and he's 31. I would love to conceive children while I am still young. Do you think we will have a rough time raising our first child while I am in school and he, in a busy career?
2006-07-07 09:30:19 · 10 answers · asked by Trixi Curious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As a practicing lawyer who survived law school, I would say that you are headed for rough waters trying to have a first child while also going to law school. Remember that at many law schools, the first year can be tough enough to weed out up to a quarter or so of the entering class (horror stories say one in three, but that is unusually high). Then you have the stress of a first child, which is one of the most demanding tasks you will ever face. And you have to maintain your marriage (you do want to stay with your spouse, right?). Not an ideal combo!
Sometimes you have to pick your priorities; you can't always have it all. Like the story of the dog with two bones, you can end up in a pickle if you try to grab too much at one time. If you want a child, you must be ready to make sacrifices. And big ones. Not just now, but for the next two decades or so. If you are not ready for that, hold off.
Remember that after the child is born, it doesn't get any easier. And law jobs tend to require significant time input. It sounds like you and your husband need to sit down and have a serious discussion about this and your priorities as a couple.
2006-07-07 09:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by James M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're at a juncture in your life where you need to make a huge decision: go to law school & have a very demanding career, or have a family.
Law school (depending on the branch you're pursuing) can be exceptionally gueling, and I don't know that you'd have time to do more than give birth & kiss the baby goodnight! Then once you're out of school, you'll want to start your career...that's why you WENT in the first place, right?
Time to have a serious heart-to-heart with the beau and find out what HE thinks. Me??? I say if you're wanting a baby, you won't be able to attend law school for at least another 10 years. Sorry.
2006-07-07 16:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell, no!! I tried law school while being a stay at home single parent of two. The pressues were too great. You have no idea how much work law school is until you've gone. I would have continued if it wasn't for my moral obligations.
2006-07-07 16:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ultimately it depends on what you truly want. Motherhood is very time-consuming. I have 3 boys, and I pretty much stay home with them now.
Parenting will truly be the most rewarding and heartbreaking job you will ever have. I hope things work out for you, and good luck making a decision.
2006-07-07 16:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by m_schritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not smart to do so, you should have done this way before you considered going to law school.
2006-07-07 16:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford a baby and law school then you could it wouldnt be any diffrent then a working parent.Just you would be at school.
2006-07-07 16:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because you will be able to represent yourself during the divorce proceedings.
2006-07-07 16:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by somanyquestions 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should wait. You'll never get any sleep and won't be able to study well
2006-07-07 16:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by girlnextdoor 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no sweetie i don't think thats a smart thing to do
2006-07-07 16:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by mrpoet03 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is it smart to drink and drive?
2006-07-07 16:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by Eddy d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋