I am married but I work with someone that I feel I may be attracted too, I love my husband to death and would never hurt him. I dont know if I should quit my job or what. Please help. (Only serious answers please)
2006-07-07 09:27:12 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to someone else. It's not OK to act on it.
Every person has different qualities (some good / some bad) - You just appreciate the qualities that this person has that your husband lacks. Just because you attracted to your co-worker doesn't mean that you are going to have an affair.
Just be strong - don't quit your job (unless you feel like there's no way you are going to act on your attraction).
2006-07-07 10:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes its fine. If you find yourself obsessing then its not fine. If he figures out your attraction and starts to tease you, you will need to re-think this question. If it stays as is, your fine. I like to keep the men I am attracted to a secret and then think about them during sex! Lots of fun!! One time, a man figured out I was attracted to him. This was not good. He tried to get me to act on it, or maybe he was teasing me, I don't know, but it made him less attractive to me so it was never a temptation.
There are those who think an attraction is some kind of message about the state of your marriage. Nonesense!
What woman doesn't have a mild crush on some celebrity. Its not a problem because they are so far away. When someone with broad shoulders and is as handsome as ever comes by, hey ... me like!!!
But I also know this guy is probably out of my league. Attraction does not equal love. Its just an attraction. Enjoy the little fantasies life gives you. That's all.
Also, you don't think your husband notices the hot blonde with big **** walking around? Of course he does! But he doesn't do anything with her for the same reason you don't do it with the guys you notice. You have a great marriage. If you don't, then its a different story altogether.
2006-07-07 16:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by lilpuffingirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery - If you love your husband then prove it and be responsible!!!
Ask yourself would you accept the same thoughts and or actions of your husband if he had the same attraction at his place of work? To be attractive is no crime, to encourage or enable another to notice you for a improper relationship IS a sin even if you did not INTEND it to continue the odds are that it WILL. So my advice is to STOP it cold NOW!! Do what you must to change your temptations and run from it. Adultery is the number one reason for divorce and almost always starts at the place of work. You may be about to engage into the wrath of a curse that will tear your whole life into so many hellish miserable pieces that you will wish you never set eyes on the other person. Adultery ruins lives, families including your parents, children, friends, work, church and your very dignity!! You think that it is innocent, fun, different, and that you can toy with a simple affair, you can not ever win truth is you ALWAYS LOSE!! God’s law is truth and can never be ignored or changed by you. Even if you do not believe in God his law is absolute and you will pay.
Adultery will cause you to lie to everyone, steal, (time and money), and the most fatal fault of adultery is about 20% of affairs revert to murder as a resort. Please do yourself and everyone you care anything about a favor and run from your temptations, run as far away as you can and never turn back or you’ll get caught into an evil web that will destroy you as a person and make you a simpleton like so many of your peers around you!
One more thing, please go to these two websites: http://www.familylife.com/
http://www.family.org/
and go through some of their articles and REALY read to understand your weaknesses, then find your own answers.
Thank you for your excellent question and I pray that you find your way back home!
* Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
* Mark 7:21For from within, out of men's hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery,
2006-07-07 17:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by cointracker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal to be attracted to someone even though you love your husband very much. Just be attracted but nothing else. No need to quit your job because of that. It can be a platonic relationship. Continue to work with him but know what is out of bounds. Do not tread into forbidden territory.
2006-07-07 16:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Lost Sheep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal and common for people to feel attracted to someone at work. YTou have things in common and you spend alot of time together BUT since you are married you shold really know that this is just an attraction. Any types of flirting or going to lunch etc is not ok...this is what leads to affairs. Just avoid him be nice but talk about your husband whne he is around it will cure it...good luck
2006-07-07 16:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to feel attracted to someone else at work.....it happens to many people who are married. If you love your husband, though, nothing will probably go further between you and your crush. Crushes usually pass, and don't stand a chance in front of true love.
2006-07-07 16:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kaylie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called a crush and it happens to a lot of people, even married ones. The key is to recognize it as a crush and don't let anything develop beyond that. A key way to make things work is never do or say anything to that person that you wouldn't do if your husband was there.
2006-07-07 16:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being attracted to someone is perfectly normal, what you do about it depends on your character. So every time you're attracted to someone you're going to quit your job? Go home and really look at what you have and think about losing it and hurting someone you claim to love. It's never worth it.
2006-07-07 16:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show some self control. It's perfectly normal to be attracted to someone of the opposite sex, just don't take it any further. Quit your job? are you serious? You sound very young.
2006-07-07 16:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Big mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being attracted is okay. Just don't act on it in any way. You shouldn't quit your job over it though. I'm in the same situation, but attraction is as far as it goes. Just because you think someone is cute/handsome/sexy/whatever doesn't mean you want to have sex with them.
2006-07-07 16:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋