2006-07-07 09:08:30 · 27 answers · asked by CURIOUS 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should not get involved with another man if you are married. If your hubby is such a good man, why are you cheating on him? and if your lover is such a good man, why is he encouraging you to hurt your husband this way? I think you better end one before you start another and i hope for your husband, the man that you committed yourself to, that it is him and that you can get this other man out of your life and give your marriage a real chance.
2006-07-07 09:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's good they're full of values as you claim because hopefully some of those values will rub off on you. I'm guessing you love someone other than your husband from the way you worded this. Why did you even get married in the first place? Be careful with your decision because the grass isn't always greener on the other side. If your husband loves you, is faithful and good to you, think really, really hard about choosing between him and the other man. If your husband was abusive, I'd urge you to leave and stay single a while until you established yourself again. Look at your hubby and try to remember why you fell in love with him and married him in the first place. If you love him, try to work it out and stop making a mockery of the institute of marriage.
2006-07-07 16:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oohh so judgemental here! Not nice. Torn between doing whats right (ie. your commitment) or feelings of love? You've got to know in your heart that if a man is cheating with you - he will cheat on you eventually. If you're in an affair - your not giving 100% to either man. Its a no win situation.
You know one thing for sure - your lover is a cheater and a liar. (You?) If he had real values he wouldnt be seeing a married woman. Cut him loose! Hes only going to bring you heartache.
The chances that you can have a real relationship out of an affair - are slim and none. What ever is missing in your marriage that caused you to seek affection elsewhere - should be your concern.
You should be upfront with your husband about whats missing and if you cant well, there isnt much of a relationship to begin with is there.
Get honest with yourself.
2006-07-07 16:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose love. If you have a love and a hubby, well you obviously aren't in love with your hubby. I'd break it off with him now (for YOU though, not for the other guy). If you're not in love with him now then you're just setting yourself up for a major blowout later on. Do it peacefully, now. And whatever you do, don't ever ever ever mention your love to your hubby.... not until a judge says the divorce is final!
2006-07-07 16:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats should be e-z.You are married so you should love your husband and not another man I think that you need to leave the other guy alone and love only your husband.If you can't do that then you need to divorce your husband.This is not fair to him that you are cheating on him.How would you feel if he did this to you?how would you feel if he loved another woman? Take some time and think about that.Try putting the shoe on the other foot for a while.
2006-07-07 16:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forget about the other guy. You love your husband, you made a commitment to him. Stay with him, this may be just the best way to prove yourself, that you have values and love for that one person you said "in health and in sickness"
2006-07-07 16:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by plw3dug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sick.Do the man you promised to love for life (that would be the hubby) a favor and get a divorce before you give him HIV.
And if they had values they wouldnt be with you thats for sure.
2006-07-07 16:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think YOU have a choice?
Tell you what ... sit them both down and tell them each of your delima .... and see what action THEY would like to take.
Chances are that Your husband won't want you anymore and chances also are that your lover won't want you once you're single ... you'll no longer be "forbidden fruit".
That you've even gotten yourself into this situation tells me that you care more about yourself than you do about your husband or anyone else. A successful relationship is one where you care more about your spouse than you care about yourself .... you've got a lot of growing to do before you'll have ANY type of good relationship.
Good luck.
2006-07-07 16:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by flash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are both full of values, then why is there a choice (unless they are the same person).
2006-07-07 17:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are both full of values but it sounds as if they havent rubbed off on you for you to be asking such a question.
You are supposidly married. If so..you shouldnt be involved in any way with another man.
Best of luck
2006-07-07 17:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋