Should I keep my personal feelings of the issue to myself? She has cheated on me with him before and it is hard for me to trust her on this issue. What do you think?
2006-07-07 09:06:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she has cheated on you with him then no it is not ok for her to write him. Why does she think it is ok? Would it be ok with her if you were to write someone that you cheated on her with?I would ask her that.Even if you have not cheated on her ask her to put the shoe on the other foot.If I was you i would of left her when i found out that she cheated and i would not of took her back.If she has cheated before she will do it again.I mean what is stopping her this time?If you still want to be with her then i would tell her Either it is going to be me or him.You need to pick right now who you want to be with.
2006-07-07 09:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Simple choice friend. She doesn't respect you as a man. Period. The question is, do you? No self-respecting man would tolerate being treated this way, or sharing any part of his life with a woman who would.
Should you keep your personal feelings on this issue to yourself? Absolutely. Without question. She has no further right to know what you feel, or how you think. She will only use that knowlege against you. She's already in control because of what you've shared previously. So, when you leave, don't even tell her why. Don't explain. Don't demand. Don't give her the satisfaction, or the opportunity to exploit your vulnerabilities further.
Be a man. Respect yourself. Demand it of others. Walk away, without regret and without explanation.
2006-07-07 16:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was married, and recently got divorced. I was married for 3 and a half years. In that time I kept in touch with an ex, and I eventually decided to leave my husband and be with my ex. Now mind you my husband was a dead beat and wouldn't work. He was also very mentally abusive. My ex, now boyfriend of 1 year, helped me through it all. As our friendship grew I realized I had to leave because I was unhappy.
Suggestion: Express how it bothers you, because obviously it does or you wouldn't have written this question. Anyway express your feelings about it in a nice way. Tell her you trust her but that it doesn't seem right to you and that it hurts you. If she cares enough about your feelings she'll stop....
2006-07-07 16:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by marie2222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she has cheated with this guy before, and all she is doing is playing with fire. She is keeping herself tempted and she can just as easily cheat again. You need to let her know that it is not a good idea to talk to him and that you don't like it. I think that it is very disrespectful that she is still conversating with him after she cheated on you with this guy. Maybe you should go to counseling or get a divorce. It doesn't seem as if she has learned her lesson. Good luck
2006-07-07 16:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only you can read the letters and her share the friendship with y ou its okay. Remember marriage is now 1 being you have to do everything together. If she is hiding and not letting you read she is up to something. Everything done in the dark surely comes to daylight. Tell her how you really feel.
2006-07-07 16:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by babyruthi2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO that is not OK, having contact with someone you once banged should be off limits totally. For sacking all others was in your marriage vows right. Don't feel guilty or insecure telling her no.
2006-07-07 16:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by GoldenGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she want to. I don't even want to speak my ex's name, let alone write him or sleep with him again.
I think there are issues that need to be addressed. I would start with marriage counseling.
2006-07-07 17:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she is open and honest about what's going on, it's okay. But, I must say writing to her ex is not the way to regain your trust....
2006-07-07 16:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by oneladyice1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no its not ok. Leave her at once or do what u gotta do. men dont stay friends with woman just be b "friends" he want to get laid. think about have u ever just been friends with a woman just to be friends. She is probably doing him right now.
2006-07-07 16:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by dunebugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run..DON'T WALK away! You are obviously tormenting over this. She's made her choice to have her cake and eat it , too. Don't let her use you any longer.
You could do way better.
Good luck, sweetheart.
2006-07-07 16:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by cool c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋