Okay..me n this guy were dating for about 2 yrs n then we broke up..we are still really good friends but sometimes when were together I feel as if we are more than friends n I can tell he feels like this 2 but he wont go out with me again..I have not asked him but I know this is true because I use to ask him alot and now I just dont bother him anymore. Well I think that I cant get another boyfriend because all the girls at my school are skinny stuck up bitches and I will never be as pretty as they are. Lets face it im not the prettiest gurl..and I feel like im HUGE..but really im not that fat. I just can not compare to these other girls. Therefore I though this boy did not want me back because I was fat and so I started hangin out with other people who were not a good crowd to be involved with and I lost a lot of weight and other boys started liking me. Now this guy who broke up with me is wanting to be with me again..should I be with him or does he like me because im smaller..?!
2006-07-07 09:00:21 · 23 answers · asked by $Kay-Kay$ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
OR...is he tryin to give me another chance because he misses me?!?!..I really need help here..im a smaller girl now..but im still the same person..should I give this boy another chance also..and see what happens or do yall think he just wants to be with me cuz all these other guys are after me?!?!
2006-07-07 09:01:22 · update #1
well he dumped me because we were kind of getting in a couple of arguments and he was interested in another girl..but they are threw now and I heard he broke up with her to be with me becuase he misses me but Im not sure if its true or if I should go out with him again
2006-07-07 09:06:19 · update #2
who dumped who??? if u dumped him he probably wants to go out with u again... if he dumped u maybe he wants a second chance... talk to him
2006-07-07 09:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by jenn b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!!!!! You sweetie need to have more self esteem. Boys will come and boys will go but at the end of the day the person you will ultimately be with is you. Never let a guy dictate who you are inside or out. You seem like a bright, beautiful, sweet young woman who follow the paths of the people who aren't where deep down you know you should be. You said you lost weight hanging with the wrong crowd, HOW?????? I did too but because i did things i shouldn't have. It almost cost me my life, needless to say i've been sober since 1999 (i was 24) and those people are either in jail or dead. Stick with the winners, and stay away from guys till you can be happy with yourself otherwise the guys will always have the upper hand. Good luck!!!!!
2006-07-07 09:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by soberangel69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know from past experience that the best way to get a boyfriend is to be seen with a boy....but it sorta seems in this case that he wants to go out with you because of the change in your appearance. First, stop hanging out with the wrong crowd.....if he liked you before you were hanging out with them he might not like the way you act around them.....second, work on your esteem...not an easy thing...trust me I know. Do not get hung up on this one guy. You are young. Enjoy life right now. If you have lost a lot of weight, getting away from the wrong crowd and realizing you can make new friends will help build esteem more then anything.
2006-07-07 09:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by nicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well change is a big step.....therefore, he should love you for you and not for what you look like or what size you are... but if you miss him and want to be with him, give him a chance so you can have a talk with him.. when you do talk ,ask him why he has decided to be with you all of a sudden.... just talk to him and see how he REALLY feels about you! and if he doesn't just wanted you for your looks and smaller waist, then you can find someone out in this world who will love and appreciate you for you. i he can't read between the lines, then too bad for him... and another thing, women come in differnt shapes and sizes; and no matter what , all women are beautiful, wheither what race, religion, it doesn't matter!! I wish you the best and I hope everything works out for you!!!
2006-07-07 09:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by simply me™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough to answer. I think you need to play it safe and feel out his intentions first. He may miss you which is why he came back, but then you have to look at that he was shallow enough to leave you in the first place. My advice to you if you love him try to go on a couple dates to see where it goes and to try to see how he really feels about you. If after that you are completely sure he is real about it then great for you, but if after that you still have your doubts end it there for it isn't going to work out. Also take into consideration that you might just be a rebound for him. Yeah I know its tough, but remember he isn't the only other guy out there. There are plenty more for you to get jaw dropping over you. :)
2006-07-07 09:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by ancient_wolf_13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well, i think, you have a lot of different ideas going on, good points that .. you lost weight .. other guys want you . is that why? is he a good guy maybe he doesnt want you hanging out with who you were with? i think you should talk to him. say something like " you want me back now .. after all this [ and list what changes have been going on] and say do these effect you liking me again." you have to make him be honest. and tell him how you feel. if you wants you back because you lost weight and now he likes your look, im sorry but he then is probably immature because he doesnt like you for you. you know? but if you think about it, if he is jealous of other guys .. then maybe he still cares a little. so you have to think pros and cons and then you definitley have to talk to him about everything. what would happen, why he likes you again, make sure its not something stupid, if thats what you want. if there are other guys out there maybe you want to look around? i hope i could help! :]
2006-07-07 09:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by yourrad_letsmakeout♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Say that forget the guy you should go for someone who like you for the way you are. The only reason I tall you this because I had the same problem in high school last year. Trust me there someone out there who likes you and he will be closer than what you think.
2006-07-07 09:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by the_evil_demans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he did still like/love you even after the break up but didn't want to take the step of going out again and now that he knows other guys like you, i think he is afraid that you might go out with one of the guys , thus resulting your ex in losing you for another guy because he still loves you. So i say go for it.. Go back to him.
2006-07-07 09:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by Bella N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on - the original guy is a loser - if he really wanted you, he would have accepted you as you. He has had his chances, enjoy the other boys liking you. It will build your confidence and help you find someone special :)
2006-07-07 09:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by Apri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still like him and want to be with him, then you should. If you feel he only wants to be with you because you're smaller, then forget about him and go on to better.
2006-07-07 09:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋