He is 17 years older than me!?

Question

I am involved with a man that is 32. I am only 15. We are really happy when we talk and are together, but he is older than me. He also has a daughter. I am worried that when I turn 18, if we are still together, if I will be ready to be a wife and stepmother. Im okay will it be able to last as just a good friend status until i am 18? and when i am 18, will i be ready to be a wife and stepmother?

Answer 1

i am also 15 and i had an experience much like this one. you should probably stay on a friend basis until u turn 18 and see where ur life has taken u at that point. it depends why u are so into an older man and what makes him so special. right now, a 22 yr. old man loves me and i love him but he has two kids. we went back to a friend basis. it is SO hard, but that's how it has to be sometimes. it would be best to stay at a friend basis until u are 18 bcuz if u start into a deep relationship now when u are young, things can get comlicated and out of hand. is he married? or broke up w/ the kids mother? be careful and watch what u do. i'm here if u need me! [e-mail] ......good luck!

Answer 2

You might be happy, but what he's doing is illegal in every state in America. Do your parents know about this? And if they do, do they support this relationship? What you're doing is against the law and if you truly love this man, you'll step back out of this relationship...do you really want him to go to jail? And he'll have to register as a sex offender even if you did have consensual sex together because he's the adult and should know better. As for being ready to be a wife and stepmother at the young age of 18, you better think this through before you wind up his age and having missed out on the best years of your life...years where you learn and you grow and you find out who you really are. I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 3

The age difference does not matter, say if you are 25 and he 42. It does if you are 15 and he 32. You are still a minor and probably not mature enough to know what you really want in a relationship. When someone cares and showered you with a lot of attention, you will probably interprete it as love. It may or may not be.

So, sweetie, be yourself and go out with people your own age. Do not have yourself committed at 15. When you are older and ready and if he is still available, take it from there.

Answer 4

There is no legitimate reason for a 32 year old man to be dating a 15 year old girl. I know you think you are in love, and all that and while I can appreciate that, it does not change the fact that what he is doing is extremely illegal. If for no other reason than you don't want him to go to jail. Leave him alone...Tell him to leave you alone...If he really loves you he will wait until you are 18. By the time you are 18 I am willing to bet you will have decided you want something more than to be a mother to a child that you should be friends with, and a nursemaid to a man who is old enough to be your father. My sister married a man that was only 3 years older than her oldest son...They divorced a year later...Sorry, but the odds aren't good. Find someone your own age, for your sake and his.

Answer 5

Okay. Here's the thing...I'm very much in favor of age differenced couples; they have more to talk about, more potential for growth, and it nixes the gender disparity in maturity. My current guy is about sixteen years my senior, so I'd be a hypocrite to pick on the difference.

But you are a minor. If the two of you do anything romantically and he gets caught, he is going to jail unless you live somewhere that fifteen is above the age of consent. Jail time is no joke. My advice is not to let him touch you and to just be very careful until you are eighteen or whatever the aoc is in your area.

Most likely, at eighteen you will not be ready to be a wife or especially a step-mother. You need to live your life first and get an education, but that's your decision. There's a whole world out there, don't waste your chance to see it!

Answer 6

I understand that you think that you a 15 year old teenager might be in love with this 32 year old MAN. This is against the law. He is a man involved with a 15 year old child. He could go to prison for a very long time. What is going to happen if he sees another and wants them. They have a taste for the young. We call them preditors. What would you do then. Please stop the cycle

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Answer 7

You are WAY too young to be seeing a 32 year old man.And, he is WAY too old to even be thinking about a teenager.
Most 18 year olds are not ready to become wives and mothers, much less step-mothers.
You are only 15...have fun while you can. Once you become a mother, your life is over as you know it.
Try dating someone your own age for a while.I bet you will notice a world of difference, as far as what you would have in common, like school for example.??

Answer 8

When I was 15 I always thought that dating a older man was cool and that they were much more responsible then people your own age. You just have to be careful because a lot of older men like that are perverts. I think you should just live up being a teen instead of trying to settle down like that. Your in a great point of your life so don't let others take advantage of you. Try dating around with people your age and I am sure that you will find that they have much more in common. Good luck with everything hun:)

Answer 9

No - I've been an 18-year-old girl, I've known 18-year-old girls in the past, and I know 18-year-old-girls now. You won't be ready and you won't want to be. At 18, you will want to be with someone who understands your generation's ideas, music, opinions, experiences - not with someone closing in on 40. You won't want to be someone's wife and stepmother. You'll want to be going to prom, graduating with people your own age, experiencing independence for the first time, having fun at college, studying for a semester abroad in different countries (France! Spain! Tibet!). You'll want to study, travel, and pursue your dreams. Someday you will be someone's wife, and you will be the mother of your own children - but not until you lived as YOU first for a while. Don't rush life - life is always going to be faster than you think.

Answer 10

There's something not quite right about a grown man with a child, who wants to date a girl who is nearly a child herself. It's also illegal in many states I believe.

He's old enough to be your father, what is the appeal? You are barely old enough to date at all (my sister and I weren't allowed to do so until we were 16, and looking back, that's about right)...

Why are you so ready to jump into the adult world and get married and have a ready made family? You'd be allowing yourself to miss out on SO MUCH by not experiencing adulthood for a few years as a single person...discovering who you are (as an adult) and where you want your life path to go, what the options are...

The situation itself doesn't bode well for long term...stick to guys closer to your own age sugar, and enjoy being a kid while you can...once you become an adult, you've got those issues and responsibilities for the rest of your life...