Been married for a while, almost 10 years. We have one child and we work opposite shifts ( I'm a full time college student and own my own business, he works second shift) We don't see each other much through the day. I've noticed a lot of marriages around 10 years tend to go "stale". Don't want this to happen to us. Still wanna knock his socks off and remind him a lot that I was the best decision he's ever made. I'm a great cook, take great care of my body, take great care of our child, always keep a spotless home and schedule "guy time" with his buddies every or every other Sat. Any advice on what else I can do?
2006-07-07 08:47:54 · 21 answers · asked by Jo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey.. dear Sys..
SEX comes only next to mental relation.
The real bliss is being in LOVE and ROMANCING each other even after marriage.
You say you do your best to make your partner happy.
Then also you are in a doubt that, you can do it still better.
you are in doubt of yourself.
instead do think that you are doing your best.
and use the following trick.
Always try to do everything in a special way but without annoying your partner.
it is very simple to understand like daily watching the same movies that is too at an exact time, is deadly boring.
try to alternate the daily routines so that always it looks afresh.
It is called making every day a special day
and celebrating it.
make him come home expecting something special on every day. it is the magic of making him believe that you are capable of doing wonders for him and can take care..
another thing is giving surprises to each other.
I mean,
give surprise call to him at home in your work intervals and ask him wether he had tea, break-fast, supper, lunch etc or simply say " I LOVE U".
or if possible take surprise half day leaves to spend time with him.
But never expect to get the same back.
Expectations and Fear always creates disappointments.
One thing i am sure about is he will LOVE you more and more and give you the happiness that you wish in 3 times.
All the BEST!.....
2006-07-07 09:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by RAM 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Personally? I like my wife to send me off to work with a smile on my face each morning.... Sex is what defines a marriage. It is what differentiates it from a friendship or a partnership. It's the only thing that builds true intimacy between a man and a woman. It's the first indicator of other problems in a marriage.
Why ration affection? Is there some point to that? Ever get bored having an orgasm? If you get bored on the way, there are a hundred different roads. Take the undiscovered path from time to time. Change the scenery. (That's what Victoria's Secret is for.) Change the location.
Sheez... love the guy as much as he can stand, and enjoy doing it!
2006-07-07 15:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, sex should be a scheduled everyday thing, especially with a 10 yr. amrriage thing, now don't make it boring and always do the same thigs and in the same positions but spend together time, away from the child and family members, hell you don't even need to have sex everytime. Oral sex, masturbation can be that nights treat and something else the other night, good luck and enjoy...
2006-07-07 15:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talked about all the ways to please him and I question that. Why did he marry you? Was it because of your beauty or your cooking? Those are great, but why else did he marry you?Explore what it was he was in love with in the beginning. On the other side, plan time together, and make sacrifices if necessary.As for sex, it is an important part of every marriage and it is what holds you together(that's your bond,remember two become one flesh).Talk to him about sex, find out how to work it in.There is no rule to when because that will be the two of you to decide.
2006-07-07 16:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a divorced man if it were everyday I would still be married. Once a week will soon turn into once a month and then to once in a blue moon. So the more time a week the better. Hell in my opinion it should be more than once a day
2006-07-07 15:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by cal-p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex a few times a week should be OK. Given your lack of time! But if you want to make it special, then surprise him every now and then with sexy new lingere, or a special couples only game! Change things up! You'll be amazed at how far such a simple change can go!!
2006-07-07 16:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much vacation time do the both of you have? I think the both of you should take some time off work for each other and enjoy each other. This could bring the spark back into the marriage.
2006-07-07 17:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jump his bones girl....Sex is something that you both share. Well, most of the time.......10 yrs, your almost a newly wed...Been married 17 yrs and we still get 'er done almost every day, cept when we are not feeling good or have other things going. Change it up. Do something you dont normally do. CHANGE IS GOOD....(and fun I might add).Sex is NOT a reward and if you start dealing with him like it is, things are going to go sh*ts up.....If you start treating it like a reward, he'll go look other places for a 'treat'
2006-07-07 15:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by Grumpy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sex schedule is usually set by the woman. Men typically want to do it more often then women do. if it were up to me I'd do it 4 to 7 times a week.
you could try some sex books by Laura Corn to spice things up. If you guys are really adventurous try adamandeve.com. they've got all sorts of things.
2006-07-07 15:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Coz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday is good. Being aware that things can go stale is a huge step in the right direction. always keep working at it and it will always pay off.
2006-07-07 15:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by pjthedj247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋