Is is ok to just attend the reception and skip the Holy Mass, or should I attend both? I don't want to look bad or disrespect the family, but I'm really not interested in sitting through an hour long Catholic Mass.
Also, what is an appropriate gift to give for this occasion?
Thanks!
2006-07-07 08:47:02 · 11 answers · asked by blueskies7890 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
She's turning 16. I guess I used the wrong term. The invitation says, "Sweet Sixteen Party."
2006-07-08 04:33:15 · update #1
The hostess called me, so I cleared not going to the Mass with her. They are ok with it.
2006-07-08 04:37:54 · update #2
It's like a wedding: if you're invited to both the ceremony and the reception you may choose to go to one or the other or both. If you're invited to only one then that is the only one you have to respond to.
Any gift you would normally give a fifteen year old girl is appropriate, it doesn't have to be anything in particular.
And you're right, the equivalent to a Quinceanera in American culture would be a Sweet 16 but realize that she is actually only turning 15.
Have fun!
2006-07-07 13:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by elk312 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Quinceanera Mass
2016-11-09 23:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not ok just to attend the reception, you should go to the Mass also. I know they are long and boring but it is very bad taste to skip it. An appropriate gift for this occasion would be a silver plated mirror, like one of those you see inthe movies that have the handle, or a piece of jewelery, like a ring or necklace. It does not have to be expensive, you can get a pretty silver one for about $20.00. If all else fails, give money. The only problem with this is how much to give? You dont want to seem cheap, but you dont want to give her your weeks pay either. Most celebrations of this sort have what they call a "dollar dance" during the reception anyway, which is where anyone who wants to dance with the lady of honor must pin $1.00 either on her dress or ona dollar tree. So your best bet would be to go ahead and buy a gift, plus, she will never know how much you spent on it!!
2006-07-07 08:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by trebobnagrom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's kind of rude to not go to the mass, but show up for the party...i think you should attend both...i personally think it looks really bad to show up at the party only. i really believe that the mass is the most important part to a quinceanera.
if your friend invited you, it's because she WANTS to share her special day with you and with the rest of her guests...she wants you to be there in her celebration...so i'd say attend the mass.
and this is for DAN_EVIL07, i think it's kind of rude if you don't bring a gift. just think on how much MONEY her family and relatives spent on throwing this HUGE party for her GUESTS(which includes you).this means money for the mass, the food (u know how many mouths you have to feed when i't s a hispanic party!!!!!! i'ts 100's) decorations, hall, security, DJ, not to mention the quinceanera's DRESS. trust me, when u total it all up, it ain't cheap. the least you can do is get her a gift.
for my quinceanera,as gifts i recieved money, a pillow, stuffed animals, clothes, and jewelry...i think jewelry or something from Bath & Body Works would be nice.
2006-07-07 21:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Alexis Samira 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude but a Quincianera is actually celebrated when a girl turns 15, and no don't worry about going to mass it's not disrespectful specially if you are not catholic, just go to the party, and by the way I went to one last week and nobody brought any presents so don't worry about that either.
2006-07-07 08:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by dan_evil07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a quincienera is the same thing as as sweet 16 birthday but us latinos are very religious so we get the church involved . it is ok not to go to the mass as for alot of parishes will not do masses any more for quincieneras . as for a gift a typical birthday gift for a 15 year old girl after all it is just a fancy 15th birthday party
2006-07-07 09:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by raiderpt1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about gifts, but the skipping the ceremony I suppose depends on your closeness to the honoree. I personally would flip it; the Mass is for the honoree--the reception is more for everyone else. I would show my support at the Mass and skip the reception if I could only do one, out of respect. :) But that's just me.
2006-07-07 08:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are frequently a celebration of a lady's getting into into childhood. In Spanish speaking international places the Age is 15, even as in English speaking international places, fairly the U. S. it really is 16 years wish this facilitates
2016-11-01 09:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by bucknor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean sweet 15 right???ive been to many and i think its fine to just go to the reception if you want to.
i think a gift card would be appropriate depending on how well you know the girl.
2006-07-07 11:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by callalily07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought it was when a girl turned 15.
2006-07-07 10:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋