In 2003 a good friend of mine joined the Marines. I was going to join with him but my girl friend dint want me to go so I din't. He is being sent to Iraq and I feel like I should join to watch his back, but if I do I'll give my girl friend a lot to worry about. What should I do?
2006-07-07 08:40:59 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There is a good chance that you won't even be stationed with your friend. If you just want to go for him, then I would advise you not to. If you want to go because you feel that it's your duty to defend your country then you should consider it. Just remember that it will be very hard on your girlfriend if you do go. This isn't just a trip to another country, it can be a life or death situation. It is a very serious decision that you should discuss with your girlfriend, friends, and family, because they are the ones that will have to mourn your death if you do die. It is a very noble thing to do, and if you feel it's your calling then do it, but just consider what could happen.
2006-07-07 08:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey man straight to the point if you are thinking about joining the Marines put all that stuff that you seen on TV out of your head, when you make that step you will be entering another world like no other and you will have to make some very serious choices from then on which will include releationships man, if you join you will definetly go to war and yes there is a war going on right now and there is no end in sight and it is not pretty,yes your girl friend will worry because she cares for you and you must know that she will worry for a long time when you decide to join, but in the end the choice is yours, I am a veteran and was enlisted for 8 yrs and been in every hot spot from Asia,Europe and the Middle East in that period, I can say that I came out the military with all the body parts that I went in with and also mentally I am sound these are things you will have to deal with, once again if you make that choice it`s not all bad but it can be so if there`s any doubt then don`t do it, but if do, give it all you got and you will be ok.
2006-07-07 09:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by funkylizzzad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want to take a chance of dying? If so it only take a few good men go be one. My Dad is a Vietnam war vet. He volunteered to go no draft, he just joined well we all know the war was over nothing. when i finished high school I was going to be like my Dad and go serve my country in the marine corp. My father took me on a long drive in the country and had a heart to heart talk with me. He explained to me how different the world is now and how the chances of a war with meaning and honor behind it are slim. today we have leaders who would put you in harms way to make some money off of it, Then my Dad asked me to not join. I was taken aback, it took a few days to process just what he was saying. I declined joining the Marines and it turns out he was right.
2006-07-07 08:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by jeremy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a former Marine I have to tell you that is not a good reason to join to watch over your friend. It is noble but, not realistic. The military is serious business and when you make the decision that you want to join you need to realize that it is a life changing one. You could very well lose your life in defense of our country. Decide if this is what you want to do for the right reasons. Once you sign the papers, you have four years to pay for your decision. Talk seriously with your girlfriend before you do something drastic. Good luck and may God bless and aide you in your decision.
2006-07-07 08:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to figure out why you want to join and why you don't. If you are joining just to watch your friends back, that is no reason to go. If you are not joining, though you really want to, just to please your girlfriend, then you need to talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel. Being a Marine is a tough life, from day one at boot camp, through other training, and beyond. You have to join because you know in your heart that you want to be a Marine. marines are a special breed, and it take a special person to be a Marine.
2006-07-07 08:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by Fire Storm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision that you have to answer by yourself and not with your friend or girlfriend in mind. This is a highly personal decision that only you can make. You must determine the RIGHT reason for going or not going- not because you feel that you owe your friend or your girlfriend something.
I come from a long line of military service and grew up as an air force brat so I understand the lifestyle all too well. Both of my brothers and sister in law are all vets- two air force and one Navy.
Start with a sheet of paper and list the pros and cons of why you want to go or not and also why or why not that you should. Consider why you are making yourself feel guilty about both going and not.
It is YOUR life, not theirs. After all, he is a friend and she is not your wife or the mother of your children.
Think this through completely and you will make the decision that is right for YOU and ONLY YOU!
2006-07-07 08:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mensan Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever you want. Even if you join now you probably won't be in Iraq the same time as your friend. If you decide you want to join let your girl know that you love her and that you are going to do something for your country and if you go down it will be with much pride.
2006-07-07 08:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that you all wouldn't have been stationed at the same place at the same time. My husband was a Marine in Iraq and he came back with PTSD. I hope you enjoyed this fourth of July because if you join you will forever hate it after going to Iraq.
2006-07-07 08:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk to your girlfriend. Leaving doesn't mean goodbye forever. Now remember though it is highly unlikely that you will be stationed with him (your friend) though. If you joined together then good chance but now it will be much harder. You need to decide to join for another reason. To defend your country and protect the people you love when others are just too scared to do it. When you know exactly why you want to join tell her. If you think you may be ready for marriage then go for it! The military will pay you for her rent wherever she chooses to live while your gone. You will be deployed. That is inevitable. If she loves you she will understand. It will hurt but it's something that you just have to get through... millions of men and women do it every day... my husband did when I had to go to Korea and I did when he went to Iraq. Talk to her decide why you want to go, let her know that you will be there for her and it will be hard but you aren't doing it just for him... it's for both of you. Your willingness to put your life on the line for your country and friends and family in return for guaranteed stability a roof over your head, food on the table and satisfaction in knowing you did what's right... for both of you. Good luck
2006-07-07 08:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by 20mommy05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How's the relationship between you and your girl. My devil wanted someone to go with him. No one did. Funny thing is all the guys that didn't go with in with him when he joined, ended up joining up to two years later.
If you feel its a calling and its something you honestly want to incorporate into your life - forever - go for it.
But once you become a Marine you'll live like a Marine, eat like a Marine, sleep like a Marine, crap like a Marine even die like a marine - and death is part of the job. You'll be reminded of that everyday and your loved ones will be reminded of that as well.
If you still want to go but you know your relationship is kinda unstable, I say go reserves. You get the title while maintaining a connection to the real world.
2006-07-07 08:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by kitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋