2006-07-07 08:21:37 · 18 answers · asked by Jodi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He talks to a grl on the phone and says i love you too her!! What does thatmean??
2006-07-07 08:28:10 · update #1
i feel unloved when he dont say it first is this wrong to feel like this??
2006-07-07 08:30:05 · update #2
what if he does it in front of me?? saying i love you to another women
2006-07-07 08:31:06 · update #3
we argure alot and than after im sorry
2006-07-07 08:37:47 · update #4
You're a whiny hole and you drive him nuts. He wants to punch you in the uterus but is afraid you might like it.
2006-07-07 09:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on what type of person (man) he is. Not all men have a hard time expressing verbal emotion. If he is respectful, honest, trust worthy, caring, providing for you and/or your family. He def loves you. Ask him why he doesn't say it and if he can say it more often. If he really loves you (which I'm sure he does) he will make effort in doing this just because it means a lot to you. His family may not have been verbally affectionate and he probably does not see any reason to be, if he is showing it all the time.
2006-07-07 15:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lovinlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a man and he feels pressured into saying it back. If you dont say it for a month or two he will wonder what is wrong and then he will talk to you about it and then be truthful "I stopped saying it because you only say it to me after I have already said it. Sometimes a woman needs to hear it to feel loved. Showing love is not enough for a woman."
does that about cover it for you. Men say I love you by coming home everyday, changing the oil in your car, lowering the seat in the bathroom, and by giving you what you need to be the woman you are. Men are not verbal and aural creatures that women are men are visual and action specific.
2006-07-07 15:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by around3am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the man. Understand men are "programmed" by society differently than women. We're trained to have different values. Some of them are pretty irrational. This is why we generally would rather be lost for hours than ask for directions. (Before you start smiling at this, understand some of yours are pretty irrational too.)
I was taught that to verbally express emotion was a sign of weakness. A "man" never shared what he really felt, and he never EVER admitted he needed help. In my twenties, to look at a woman I adored and say "I love you." just wouldn't have been possible. Even if it was true, I could never admit it.
To say it to another is easy... if it isn't true. "I love you." comes easy and is meaningless to a man with this kind of background.
It took me many years to understand that a man who can express his emotions and show is vulnerabilities is actually much stronger than one who can't. Perhaps he's had the same training, and just hasn't grown out of it yet?
By the way, if you ask him? He won't tell you the truth. He can't. Pressuring him will only drive him deeper inside. (Think about it, girl. If he's trying to avoid being vulnerable and he feels like he's under attack what will he do? He'll build up his defenses.) If you want to know, look at what he does, not what he says. See how he treats you... whether or not he values you as a woman. If he can't express his love verbally, he'll do everything he can to express it physically. (Yes, this means sex too.) He'll express it in the ways that he thinks you will understand without saying. (Yes, this means sex too.) Men with my kind of training feel that for a woman to make love to you means she loves you. Therefore, to want to make love to her must mean, to her, that we love her.
So, watch what he does, not what he says. And understand he may not be like me here.... he may be a total jerk.
2006-07-07 15:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby needs a few lessons on how to make a woman feel loved and appreciated. I always tell my girlfriend I love her when we leave each other or we get ready to hang up from talking on the phone. This lets her know I really love her and not just using the 3 words when I have to such as after you say it. If he means it he should be willing to say if first or if you beat him to it sometimes when he says it does he say with with feeling??????
2006-07-07 15:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by dasani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can say it to someone else then there is something wrong.
If he couldn't say it to anyone then I would be an emotional thing that he has. But since he has no problem saying it to someone else, the two of you definitely have problems that will need to be addressed.
Go to counseling and express your needs and find out what is going on.
2006-07-07 16:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by wn_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men (some) just are not thinking that they need to say anything they think we know it --and if he shows you he loves you be being caring and honest ,loyal, supportive, etc than you need not worry--most women are the romantic creatures and we are vocal in our feelings men?? Not a whole lot..its fineWhoa!!!! you just said he talks to a girl and he tells her he loves her??? Kick him to the curb--get her number and kick her to the curb too--
2006-07-07 15:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no business saying those words to anyone but you or family. He doesn't think much of those words if he can just blurt them out to anyone. I guess he doesn't know what they mean,or they don't mean anything to him. I don't know that I could stay there under those conditions. Good luck.
2006-07-07 18:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. Men aren't as open about their emotions as women are. How does he act when you are together?
2006-07-07 15:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by furbee_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he forgot to say it...
or he's trying to compensate what you just say to to him in order for you not to feel bad even if he doesn't mean it..
or He knows already that you know how much he loves you.
or he's tired of saying it, anyway your married already
2006-07-07 15:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋