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Why does my ex husband not want to spend time with our son!!!!
2006-07-07 08:18:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have found love though we'll never see eachother, so I'm not sad due to breaking up - I just think he couls try harder for our son!!!
2006-07-07 08:32:04 · update #1
Yes - He has met someone but she knows about our son! She has one herself
2006-07-07 08:32:46 · update #2
Hey, stop that !
your loved and the little one is loved to !
You have a lot going on at the moment and its all to easy for all concerned to look at the short term, believe me, ive been through it at things will settle down. It will get worse before it gets better.As hard as it seems, put one foot forward and then AND ONLY THEN, concentrate on the next leg !
Stick with the truth and your beliefs, youll be amazed how soon people will come to your way of thinking.
Proud of you so, get on with it and never feel alone.
Take care mate
x
2006-07-07 10:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by willw8andc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he realises that his son will respect him less each time he doesn't show and he doesn't want to look the reality of that in the face - Therefore the longer he leaves it the harder it will be for him to face up to. Sooner or later he'll realise that he's missing his kids growing up and if he doesn't, then you get to hog all the good things about your kids to yourself! And be the star of all their good childhood memories.
As for the sad thing, I sympathise. I always seem sad myself, I think it's a brain chemistry thing, each persons brain chemistry while made up of the same ingredients, (Serotonin, Dopamine etc) differs slightly in the amounts.
This can be to do with the kinds of food you eat (Try to cut down additives, and get 5 a day etc), the amount of exercise you get. I also think it can be genetic, Does anyone in your family have depression, alcoholic, etc and if so how do they deal with it, exercise, social network support, meditation, Yoga. The aim here is to find something that works for you.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-07 15:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by beflihippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can start by making your avatar smiling. If you think positive even when things go wrong - look for the good in bad situations like, you learned from it or it could have been worse and then enjoy good situations you'll be better off. If your ex won't spend time with his son then sod him, his loss i'm sure you're a great mum so make sure your negativity isn't projecting on the young lad.
2006-07-07 15:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by bryanocarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need an antidepressant.
I don't know why guys are like that with their kids. I broke up with mine like 2 mos. ago, and he's just now even asking about our 5 month old when he calls to talk to our 3 year old. (Every few days) Anyway, I know this isn't an answer, but I thought you might feel better to know you're not the only one with this problem. And definitely get an antidepressant, if you're already on one and it's not working try asking for a different one, that's what I'm about to do.
2006-07-07 15:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by iregirl2380 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is stupid but u cannot waste time worrying about that.u need 2 just be there 4 ur son n let him know u love him enough 4 2.also it is normal 2 be sad after a divorce with all the bs one has 2 deal with.start getting out more n stop worrying about things u cannot change.good luck.
2006-07-07 15:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answer this for you. Try to learn more about your wrong expectations and depression. Keep teaching your son about family holidays and keep the names birth dates up. Write his family tree history. Be bold and be the head of your family such as it is. I fear the new marriage will suffer if you are so sad. What can I say. You seem to be wholesome and kind hearted. Don't let the 'players' ruin what good you have built up for yourself.
2006-07-08 22:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure that heartless SOB pays the child support. I know time-spent is more important than that... but something is better than nothing!
As for you... just don't isolate yourself from the world. Get out and live life with friends, family and your son! If your sadness gets to be too much, then go talk to a professional... but I think it will get better with time.
2006-07-07 15:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a loser.
Your happiness is your own responsibility - don't wait for a certain event (like your ex suddenly and mysteriously becoming a decent guy) before you decide to be happy. Life is way WAY too short!
2006-07-07 15:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by charleymac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that sucks. Your ex is a bastard if he doesn't want to act like a father. you're probably sad because of the situation you're in. I feel for you, just keep the faith. things will get better.
2006-07-07 15:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Coz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex is a loser your son is better off without him, just learn to love yourself and be happy for your son's sake
2006-07-07 16:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋