My mom has a guy working for her named Robert and we have had a crush on each other and we want to date BUT i am 17 and he is in his thirty. Should I date him? Why or Why not? Please help me make a reasonable decision!!!! Thank you!!!!
2006-07-07 08:15:51 · 46 answers · asked by loverslane312 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your friend is too old for you. i would be asking myself why he can't find a woman his own age?
2006-07-07 08:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The responsible and healthy decision would be to not date him. First, it is illegal (statuatory rape). Second, a thirty year old man should be dating women his own age. As attractive as I am sure you are, a 30 year old man should be mature enough and have boundaries enough not to THINK about dating a 17 year old. I am a 26 year old female. If my friend was dating a 17 year old, I would kick his a$$. Seriously.
I think about where I was as a 17 year old, and I feel I was very mature and responsible... older for my age. I look at myself now and still believe that I was, but it would have been VERY unhealthy for me to be dating a 30 year old when I was 17. You and he are in two different stages in your life... I'm sure this is not the answer you want to hear, but save yourself a lot of trouble and don't date someone who is that much older than you. If he really respected you and himself, he would be able to recognize this, too. Just that there is a part of yourself that is questioning whether or not this is okay should tell you that there are flags going up. Listen to your intuition... Something is wrong with this potential relationship. Good Luck and BE Safe!!
2006-07-07 08:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by katekatekate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see by your photo you are a beautiful girl and have no doubt that many guys are attracted to you.
But I have to tell you that it would be the most foolish thing you could EVER do by dating, flirting, or 'otherwise' with this guy. No offense, but a thirty year old guy should never be attracted to a 17 year old. It would be like you being attracted to a 12 year old. Make sense?
If he is attracted to you...it is for one thing only and that is sex.
I guarantee that no matter what he tells you, he is only interested in getting into your pants. I'm certain you do not wish to be a sleaze, or allow yourself to be used and then forgotten. So I'd suggest talking to an adult you can trust. I wish it were your mom you could talk to about this, but it doesn't look as if you are comfortable with it.
I am 43 and have two daughters. My oldest is also 17 and I would hope she would trust me enough to ask my opinion about anything...including dating. If she wasn't comfortable talking to me, I hope she would ask someone she trusts, and knows can give the right advice.
My gut instinct tells me you already know th eanswer to your question. Otherwise I don't think you would ask others opinions. Go with what your gut tells you and stay away.
Please don't make this mistake. You are a beautiful girl who should be with a guy your own age. Trust me on this. : )
I am Mike, and I am at Bluefire9137@yahoo if you need someone to confide in.
2006-07-07 08:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by BlueFire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loose him. Girl you need to get out more often if you need to have a 30 year old although I'm older. Although you think you have a lot in common you Don't! He's going through a mid-life crisis adn you don't want to be part of that. He's trying to capture his teen years. Tell him to wake up and smell the coffee beans brewing and let him know he's 30 and come to grips with it. And go after a 30 year women. As for you. You still have yor whole life in front of you. His is bascially over. You can go to college have a good life, get a good job, a husband you age, have a family do stuff with your kids.
2006-07-07 08:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he is called a PERVERT, PREDATOR, CHILD MOLESTOR, and me being a mom of a 17 year old would have his crustry disgusting butt thrown in jail. Read the predator section in the back of your newspaper, you are a prime candidate for having some guy go to jail for being with a minor. Also, what do you have in common with a 30 year old guy, you should be concentrating on your education and how you will take care of yourself in a couple years. There are plenty of guys your age that you should be relating to and if you are not then you need to find out why not. And dont use the old excuse they are immature because again you have to explain to yourself what this 30 year old has in common with a 17 year old. If you were my daughter and I found out, I would have him arrested on the spot, so understand the chance you are taking with this monster of a man.
2006-07-07 08:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by ymobley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually a guy has a strong desire to hunt and marry young women. it is your choice. do you want kids right now? most guys in their thirties are wanting to have kids before they get too old. younger guys don't have the financial ability to keep a girl and they are looking for the best piece of meat they can find. they run after the girl is pregnant. other scenarios exist also. he will beg you to settle down with him. do you trust him about everything? make an educated decision. use you heart.
2006-07-07 08:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is never a question but rather mental maturity. Plus at this rate its not you who should be worrying it should be him. If he's trully mature enough to handle your ralationship he should be the one taking on this problem. If he can't, then don't even think of going through worst senario would be "he's just playing, and you're not". Who knows since this is just a crush the next cute guy that passes might just be as good or even better. Wait your still very young.
2006-07-07 08:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kuya ng bayan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doll, he is too old for you and he knows it. You probably should steer clear of him and just write about it. I know you feel it is real but it is not. It is just a simple crush. Ask yourself, why would an adult man have a "crush" on a 17 year old girl. And then you will see that something is not right about that picture. He is looking at you for more than 17 years of experience. He is looking at your body and looks ONLY.
2006-07-07 08:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by usl911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any dude who would take use this situation for him to go with a 17 year old should not be trusted, thing about if you saw a movie and some 30 year old dude was hitting on a 17 year old, it is kind of wrong
I mean what are you going to do go to the prom with a 30 year old, if you want a older man make him like 19 with a job that is fun he can pay for things
2006-07-07 08:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! NO!! NO!! NO!! NO!! Do not date him, do not be friends with him, do not even associate with him. He is too old. What do you think a 30yr old sees in a 17 yr old. HE wants someone young that he can control and shape to be the woman he wants. Date guys your own age. Or better yet, concentrate on school, get a scholarship and go to college, and discover who you are and what you want, before someone else tries to tell it to you.
2006-07-07 08:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should date him because he is too old for you. If you really like him, wait until you are 18, but girl, sometimes guys just like younger women because they think we don't know any better. I've had guys who are FIFTY ask me out, and I'm only 24. I was like, "No, thank you!" Sometimes older men are not very mature and only care about the sex. Think about it for awhile before you make a decision. I would date someone who is closer to your age.
2006-07-07 08:19:15 · answer #11 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋