for men/women both that are married or divorced?

Question

what is it that canmake a good marriage go bad? please be truthful.

Answer 1

Not communicating!!!!!!!! Defintely!

Answer 2

Truth there are two many things to name. I think the most common one is the couple doesn't talk. I mean really talk! Marriage is work, the hardest job you will ever have. When you don't put all your heart and soul into it, then trouble begins. Take care of a small problem-before it becomes one that will end up in divorce court. Respect one another- if you don't respect one another then there can be no true marriage. A marriage is a union of two people, who truly love one another. I say truly-not this well, it all going good and feels good so it must be love. I mean the kind that you would lay your life down on the line for. Being honest with each other is important, small white lies turn into big whoppers before you know it. Often people grow apart, marriage should be a straight line, follow the line, don't veer off, if you hit a bump hold onto each other till you are back on that line. If one falls off the line and doesn't immediately get back on then the gap gets wider and wider. That doesn't mean you have to joined at the hip, but you should included each other in your activites--if you like something alot-included them-and the other one should make an effort to attend those ball games, ballets, or go bowling, It is not what you do, it's how you do it! So, truth-it is hard to make a marriage work, I have seen many a couple that love each other get divorce because they wanted to be the "right one" all the time. Pride got in the way! So, play nice, respect one another, care about one another, included the other, stay on your marriage line, talk to one another, be honest, and truly love one another-then ask GOD to bless the union, and then you won't be in front of a judge going-"I don't know what went wrong"

Answer 3

No commuincation. I can share everything with my husband. Rather it is something bad, good or even a problem with our relationship. If I dont like something in my relationship or feel that something is wrong then my husband and I talk about it. He will do the same. You also have to learn that this is your husband or wife and they should be number 1. Along with your kids if there are any. You should defend and support your spouse. Let them know that no matter what they can turn to you. Just listen and if it is something that is going to hurt the marriage then it needs to be discussed and a decision needs to be made. There shouldnt be any disrespect. Dont call names, hit, lie, hide secrets, any disrespect. Always remember the vows that was taken. There always have to be time for the marriage. I also think that sex has to be a part of the relationship. The intament bond has to be there also.

Answer 4

It is a basic breakdown of open communication between both sides. When issues that continually come up which are not resolved and not even talked about, they start to add up. A breakdown in open communication usually leads to resentment, a feeling that no one's listening to you needs and in turn, you will begin to lose those strong feelings of love and loyalty that you once had for the other person. That's when you start doing things that you shouldn't - like lying, cheating, or just being plain mean.
I have only been married 6 months, but I have been in enough long term relationships to know that this is the key to any interpersonal relationship.
Good luck!

Answer 5

This is such a broad question. Anytime two people try to mesh their lives together it can go wrong. It can be anything from lack of communication to infedelity. Some people are too selfish to share their lives, some people are so giving of themselves they allow themselves to be used and abused. There is dishonesty to consider, or even different lifestyles. Sex can be a huge factor...Married to young, married to soon....Children can sometimes ruin a relationship (I know that sounds harsh but it's true) outside influences like in-laws, siblings, friends, work etc.can be a factor. Somtimes people just change as they get older, or as their circumstances change. Somtimes it's as simple, and painful as just falling out of love...The reasons some marriages fail, can be the reasons why others work.

Answer 6

Being truthful.

The truth can help- or hurt- any relationship. You have to air the dirty laundy sometime, but sometimes your companion just needs to take it with a grain of salt. If you can't deal with the whole package, why get married? Or stay married, for that matter, depending on the situation. No matter how some women or men complain, I ask myself, "What's the point if you "love" the person, but don't ever seem to "like" them", or "Why are you putting up with the cheating/financial loss/lazy person?"

The truth needs to be told sometime...

Answer 7

loss of respect over time due to irresponsiblity by one party or the other, which can and will probably lead to infidelity. Communication is key. Pent up anger and frustration only resurface in unpleasant ways. You also really have to get to know yourself, as well as your partner...and that is a lifelong process

Answer 8

When people are too young to be married is a huge mistake. Add dishonesty, disloyalty, no communication, along with selfishness and you have a real recipe for divorce.

Answer 9

Dishonesty is the number one killer of marriages. Also, flirting with other people can cause the other person to doubt their spouse. Money is another way to end a marriage!

Answer 10

Probably the number one thing you here people bitching about in their marriage is finances. You need to have some agreements on how money is going to work in your relationship prior to getting married.

Answer 11

When one person losses interest in the other. When one person is fed up with having to do everything and not having someone to talk to. When the husband doesn't listen and talks about other things when you are trying to tell him something important.
Stuff like that.