We constantly hear love songs on the radio, and love stories in print and on t.v. Do you think it conditions us to believe in this thing called love. I think some people end up believing that they can never be "complete" until they find their "soulmate".
2006-07-07 08:02:05 · 9 answers · asked by lefty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
look at the facts, most marriages don't work out
2006-07-07 08:09:31 · update #1
I'm not marriage bashing
2006-07-07 08:21:22 · update #2
trust me u actually fall in love with the person not just the thought of being in love.....there are days when id rather just throw something at my husband but i stick it out cuz i love HIM...thats what gets u through things.
2006-07-07 08:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both.
I think "fall in love" is a misnomer, it makes it sound like you took a wrong step off a cliff.
(Well, I guess for some people it turns out that way...)
I think many people, when they first get the "gushies" for someone, are in love with the thought of being in love. They are happy that someone else sees something in them worth loving. That's a big egoboost.
And then time passes, and you start to learn that love means hard work, lots of time together, sacrifice of some of your own desires/goals for the other person, and so on.
Some people don't like that feeling. They want the rush of being in love. So they leave and try again. And again. And again.
Until they finally give up completely, or realize what love is really about, long-term, and settle down.
Many countries have arranged marriages, where the marriage is like a monogamous business arrangement. Since the relationships is not based on romantic love, they don't get divorced and in fact "love" each other the real way. And romantic love often appears (on and off) as you commit to someone long-term.
Please understand I am not bashing romantic love, or "being in love with love." It's a great feeling, and often gets the ball rolling. It's just the first step of the relationship, though, and the partners have to move on to more tangible and real displays of love for the relationship to endure.
2006-07-07 08:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both.........there are people who fall in love with the idea of it because when they really don't know someone and haven't spent time to really know them...they think just because they are attracted to them it's love. I feel when you truly fall in love it has taken steps from the falling in love (attraction/chemistry) to when the new wears off and is replaced with security, intimacy, hard times, good times, on and on. I have heard alot of people think that when it changes from when you first start going out then the love is gone....No....it is just different and it can be just as wonderful as the New. I believe soulmates are people who look at alot of things the same way and have an understanding of one another, but maybe everyone can find a soulmate if they take the time to find that person with the qualities they need to base a relationship on.
2006-07-07 08:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes poeple fall in love. In most cases it is because it is what they want. Also love is not some magical thing that just happens. It is something that 2 people commit themselves to and then they both work at making it work. Two people can grow out of love also. I have seen relationships last for 30 years and then in the last couple years they just seemed to grow apart. There are a number of reasons for that.
2006-07-07 08:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rover57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some people do need someone special in their lives, there is nothing wrong with that. Others prefer to be single - and nothing wrong with that either. I do believe in being in love.....but some have to be careful that their views and expectations don't become unrealistic! These latter ones could very well just fall in love with the "idea" of it all and end up very hurt because the reality doesn't meet their fantasy. The truth is, every relationship has its ups and downs and each has to be ready to deal with it!!
2006-07-07 08:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by caramelqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people do fall in love but their is a lot of people that are not willing to make it work so they divorces but I found my true love so far been married 12 years and still going strong
2006-07-07 08:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by HONEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah cuz it's weird how all these celebs say they're "in love" and ready for marriage, but like one year later they're crying divorce. it's crazy cuz i think if u truly love somebody, then nothing can break that. like that song by Alicia Keys----"Unbreakable" being truly in love with someone won't make u cheat on them, lie to them, or lust for another person. so i think most people fall in love with the idea, of being in love. and for some, they actually do find true love, like me and my fiance. been together for six years, getting married in three months.
2006-07-07 08:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah reno is my soulmate. i loved him for 12 yrs and he loved me the same inspite of our marriages. so yes falling in love can happen.you can email me direct renosgirl2006@yahoo.com if you need further info. :)
2006-07-07 08:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE my guy, I'm not in love with being in love. He loves me. it's all good!
2006-07-07 08:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jen-Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋