my boyfriend says he really loves me but he is alwayz flirting with other girls and when we talk on the phone at night he is always saying how he is going to put it on me if you no what i mean and i keep telling him im not ready yet and he gets mad at me but remember he says he really loves me what should i do
2006-07-07 08:00:46 · 39 answers · asked by Mz. G33k! 2 in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
Leave him, NOW. That's the only way, you can't reason with him.
2006-07-13 15:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by CottonPatch 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Oh, girl, please! I'm guessing you're a teenager, so take some friendly advice from someone in their thirties. You sound like a bright young woman who is just a little confused right now. First and foremost, boys and men will exhibit the behaviors which we allow. If we command respect, we get respect. If we allow them to use us as doormats, then we will get used.
1)Flirting with other girls is never acceptable. It's disrespectful and rude. If he's flirting, he may be doing something else too.
2)What exactly is he going to put on you? Again, please! Real men don't "talk" about their abilities. They are confident about themselves and don't need to brag. Braggers usually disappoint.
3)He's probably a teenager too and shouldn't be discussing sex with a young lady. Most adults I know have a difficult time handling the stresses of sexual relationships, so it's definitely not something to be played with by teenagers. He should be trying to impress you with his humor, conversation and intelligence.
4)Don't let him or anyone else convince you to do anything you don't want to do.
5)Your body is a treasure! I can't stress this enough. YOUR BODY IS A TREASURE!!! It's yours and yours alone. No one has the right to pressure you into sharing it. People who love you also respect you. He's pushing you and love doesn't work like that. If he leaves you, so what. That only means he wasn't worth your trouble. Trust me, another boy will come along!
You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. These are life lessons to learn now. I know what it's like to care about someone, but stick to your guns and when you look back on these years, you will be pleased with the choices you've made. Also, try and find an adult you trust and share your concerns with them. You will be surprised how much they understand about where you are at right now.
Stay strong, girlfriend!
2006-07-07 08:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Apple21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a jerk ...i have a cusin he used to have 5 gurls at the same time n whenever he wanted to say bye to one of them over the phone he used to say ok baby i love u sweety am waitin for ur call or am gonna call u to check out u still remember me or not then after hangin up the same sentence for next one once i told him y u have to do it he said i jjust want a Ps of them that's it n i don't give a $hit if they get hurt ...so some of guyz are like that they say i love u 99 times in a min but they are total flirt u just kick him outta ur life or be with him and cheat on him n never get laid with this guy till he comes to know that ur are playin around him n no sleepin n nothing like that
2006-07-07 08:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him if he really loves you by waiting will prove that. If you are not ready and you should not be at your age you shouldn't do it until you are. Boys will tell you everything now to get in your pants, they love you, can't live without you, then when they get what they want they are done with you. A girl they can't have will make them crazier over you than one they can have their way with. If he goes out on you then you go out with who ever you want because you are young and you need to date and not settle down with the first boy you meet. Years down the road you will regret it if you do. If he doesn't wait then tell him to go on with someone else love is not all about sex anyway.
2006-07-07 09:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by BC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, sounds like your boyfriend has one thing on his mind. His " going to put it on you" attitude and his flirting with other girls should be a pretty large clue. Large enough to look you face to face and scream out "RUN"! True love is faithful, uncondtional and always unselfish. Telling your weird acting boyfriend you're not ready to give in should not be a repeat process...
2006-07-07 08:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by jane2u04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it ! stand up for yourself ! nobody should or can force you into something.
If you dont respect yourself, dear stephanie, nobody else will. Start respecting you and the people who matter to you. People who talk crap and nonsense like that have no standards and can stoop to any level.
If you said no once or twice that should be enough for that creep to get a msg, if he doesnt then you must leave him and meet people who are like minded like you. It's not easy but you'll find people worth your while, people who'd think it's cool to be with you.
Gather courage adn when he calls next time, tell him to continue filirtiung and do things with girls who r ready and since u r not, u r free to do as u please and D U M P H I M, please.
2006-07-07 08:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by newyorker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a guy that only wants **** from girls , like sex, so he obviously is in lust with u, not in love, and he is always flirting with girls bc he thinks that ur not enough to satisfy him so either, a. tell him **** u and dump him or b. if u really love him , then take him out on a romantic date and impress him so he can forget about the other girls, and then play hard to get.
2006-07-07 08:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by mj33090 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I'm 31 and I know your b/f says I love you and all that, but gets mad when you won't do it with him... So here is what you should do and why you should do it...DUMP HIM, BECAUSE HE IS ONLY TRYING TO GET LAID, AND DOES NOT RESPECT YOUR FEELINGS. IF HE HAD ANY RESPECT FOR YOU HE WOULD NOT GET MAD, BUT WOULD WANT TO TALK ABOUT WHY YOU ARE NOT READY, AND HE'D LAY OFF OF YOU. Trust me I know his type, he is a piece of crap. He'd be the type to have sex, get ya pregnant and you'd be stuck raising the baby.
2006-07-07 08:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by jenna4freedom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were in a healthy relationship you wouldn't have to question his feelings, and because you are questioning his feelings you should dump him because obviously he is not making you feel secure. Sounds to me like all he wants is a booty call. And remember actions, speak l9ouder than words so don't believe what he says, some guys will say anything to get in your pants.
2006-07-07 08:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy8722 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as an older guy (I'm in my late 30's) most guys that age just aren't serious about relationships. They're just biding their time till another hotter chick comes along or you are just one of several girls he "dates". I was in this group once.
If you really want a serious relationship than dump him ASAP!!! You sure won't get any commitment out of that player!
2006-07-07 08:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ed A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for a boyfriend who knows what you're talking about when you ask him about love. He probably means what he says, but what he's saying uses different words. To him, saying "you're hot, and I want you to worship me" is pronounced "Yeah baby, I love you". He probably doesn't know any better. Reformulate your question to figure out if he's really in love, but my guess is he hasn't a clue.
2006-07-07 08:05:30 · answer #11 · answered by groesener 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋