So the mother's aunt just died the kids great aunt and she says that she isn't taking the kids and she won't explain herself.She says the boyfriend is driving thats why she is taking him.The kids want to go,but she is leaving them with some godmother in Richmond.The funeral is in New Jersey and they live in Virginia.She has been ignoring them lately.Ever since she has been dating this guy,he moved in and everything.He likes the kids.Its a boy and a girl.The girl is 12 and the boy 15.
2006-07-07 07:37:39 · 21 answers · asked by Ty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If the kids want to go pay their respects there is no reason they should be left with the Godmother. And this crap about her ignoring her kids for a guy is just plain wrong. How can she not see what she is doing to her kids??? This is the kind of crap kids go to therapy for.
2006-07-08 11:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by summer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
death is a huge stran on everyone espesially kids. She is simply protecting her kids from the sight of the dead body. Yet she still needs comfort (the boyfriend). I ca understand her completly. when my grandfather died my aunt and uncle broght my cousins to the funeral they were 10 and 6. they were pretty messed up for quite awhile. Thou i think the 15 year old could probly handle it. but then the 12 year old would feel very left out. so its probly for both of there best to not go. I wouldnt take my kids.
As for the mother ignoring the kids (ever thought that its just stress?? it sounds like she has alot on her plate an aunt dieing, a new bf two teens. If my thoughts are right and you are one of the kids give mom a break and let her go by herself with the bf. volinteer to do the dishes and clean up some while shes gone. and use the time to your advantage as well ask her if instead of visiting relitives while shes gone stand up for yourself and ask to stay home together alone and maybe ask for a friend to stay too. 15 is old enough to baby sit other peoples kids its old enuf to babysit your self.) Mom is probly just very stressed right now give her some space for about a month and then go in an ask her to spend more time with the kids. Could help more if i knew what party you were.
2006-07-07 07:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by naightengale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 01:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really sad. I know that when you have a new flame it seems like the most important thing. But yet, those kids should be able to go IF they want to. I'm not big for the whole closure thing but those kids won't get another chance to say goodbye in that way. It would also be a good time for them to see other family.
2006-07-07 07:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Del 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say that kids shouldn't go to a funeral until I read the ages. Yes, the kids should be there but so does the boyfriend if she feels she needs him with her.
As far as her ignoring the kids - it sounds like she needs to find a balance and find ways to spend time with them.
2006-07-07 07:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, as a mother myself, I wouldn't take my kids to a funeral because that is a lot of emotional stuff for a child to take in. I was permanently scared by my first funeral and I will not do that to my kids. As for the other stuff with the boy friend? Who knows. But my kids will not go to a funeral until they feel ready for it.
2006-07-07 07:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't like their kids going to a funeral. And it's not too much fun going alone. (well, it's not fun at all really) Who are you anyways assuming that the mother is ignoring her children. Unless you are one of the children or you live with the couple, I would tell you to butt out.
2006-07-07 07:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not right. She should take the kids if they want to go say good bye to thier great aunt. Sounds to me like she's using the funeral as an excuse to get her boyfriend alone.
2006-07-07 07:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I think she should take the children. Now if they were younger I could see why she would leave them. They want to go and are old enough to understand. I think she is just wanting some alone time with her new man. (that is okay but not the right time to do that anyway)
2006-07-07 07:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by â?¥á?¦á?¦â?¥ CRISSY â?¥á?¦á?¦â?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not take everyone? If the kids want to go, then she should let them go.
Also, the kids should say something to their mother about how she's been acting lately. It's not right that she's ignoring her children to spend time with him. Especially if he likes them!
2006-07-07 07:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋