2006-07-07 07:35:40 · 17 answers · asked by dayzed.confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let's get something straight here, I am the girl, so lets stop the name calling, very disrespectful, ignorant people. Why did we not marry, it was a mutual agreement for alot of reasons, to list a few, Uncle Sam, Ex-wife w/child support, I own a business - but we run it together - him on it would raise alot of issues that cost more money. Mainly it was all due to $$ issues. Not only would the wedding cost $$, but the marriage would cost even more. We were content where we were,I didn't need a piece of paper to tell me that he loved me, key word loved. But since I posted this question, we have talked a bit, he is not an emotional or open person, not easy to talk to at all, and we have been doing fairly well. Live apart, spend a good amount of time together with and without the two kids, trying to rebuild that flame, guess between the kids and the business, time for us just wasn't there and feelings were being hurt and lost, the other didn't know this was happening.So we will be ok
2006-07-12 06:11:42 · update #1
You've been engaged for 4 years, who's afraid to take the next step? Maybe your fiance has moved on.
2006-07-07 07:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by mama_wizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes probably just scared. hes probably getting cold feet about you guys getting married. Someone once told me that after a couple is married, its like they're a whole new person to one another. Maybe hes astonished that you two made it that far, and is in a daze at the moment. I know when my brother was about to get married, its like his fiance' was always wishy-washy. She kept trying to avoid the marriage, but it was coming so fast. Eventually he just dropped her because she really couldn't make up her mind about anything. Your fiance is probably just getting an oldfashioned case of, 'cold feet'. It'll be okay, don't worry :)
2006-07-07 14:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by xstr8_4rm_heaven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question should be "How did I get a fiance for 4 years to not marry me?"
2006-07-07 14:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've been engaged for 4 years its probably not working out so well lol....most people get engaged within a year at the most 2 so it sounds to me like u might have troubles..
2006-07-07 14:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to have a sit down talk with him and talk it out cuz being engaged is a big step and if he still loves you he needs to know what you want and what you need.
2006-07-07 14:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. There is no more feelings and you are wasting your time. you are cheating yourself by staying with someone who doesn't care about you. make room for a real lover time will bring you someone TRUST THE UNIVERSE.....
2006-07-07 14:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that person is cheating on you hun. im so sorry. confrontation may make it worst so start preparing for the worse so you dont lose everything you have in the process.(kids,home.car, important papers) good luck.
2006-07-07 14:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by NursieAngie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the love just went away doesn't being engaged for 4 years tell you something
2006-07-07 14:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by nena24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe it's over. Talk to your fiance about how you're feeling and find out.
2006-07-07 14:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her an evening filled with all her desires and if that don't work dump the biatch.
2006-07-07 14:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by maddpaddlerl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋