Imagine: An young man having an friendship with young woman, after a week or two she pack's her bags leaving him, without a reson. After 1 year they met accidentially and she told him: Hey you became a father... He accept that, fully trying to support the child. The mother wants to raise the kind alone without him being involved or being around. Reason probbably she made up some Bull-Story for her family and friends so she's afraid her story to be uncoverd. This guy wants only to see his kid and meet sometimes, that's all. She don't give him her new address or pictures of the kid. The father has no criminal record, he's no drug addict he's study at University and very handsome with great carisma. He went to the lawyer, which told him that even judge/court won't force her to do anything. The father is strugeling with moral duty for the child.
2006-07-07 07:27:59 · 21 answers · asked by clovisfleischhund 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
The Lawyer told that even if the court will recognize his rights, the mother still be playing her games and can possible move this time to another state and no law will forbit it to her. This event happend in Holland Europe. Sorry for my spellings, anyway English is not my mother tong. Well, i do speak (and wright) German, Dutch and Russian.
2006-07-07 09:41:29 · update #1
Thank's a lot everyone. You reaction are appreciated. I've printed it out and handed over to this person. He was very pleased by your support.
2006-07-10 05:33:13 · update #2
Wow... that is a sad story.
I don't understand why a judge or court wouldn't require a blood test if the man petitioned testifying that she told him the child was his. That is just ridiculous... then again, it does seem like men do not have as many rights as women when it comes to children. I would have him consult with another lawyer... if that doesn't work, he could always look her up and show up unexpectedly where she is. Read: No stalking! She should not expect that he will just let it rest. That's weak... and she should consider the child's interests above her own. My real father was only involved in my life for the first year before my mother kicked him out. She is a headstrong, independent woman and he wouldn't keep a job. At any rate, she prevented him from being in my life... but I didn't realize it was her decision until I was an adult. No - instead I grew up thinking I'd been deserted and unwanted... that is how a child thinks.
Tell him not to give up! :-)
2006-07-07 07:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 01:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're studying at a University? Your spelling and syntax is atrocious! Unbelieveable.
First of all, when the kid is old enough not to be used as a pawn in this ridiculous tug of war game she's playing with you, then is the time to become involved with his life.
If she doesn't want any financial support from you, you don't have an address, so be it. I would try to get a DNA test done later, just to be 100% certain that you are the father, the mother sounds like she's playing games with your life, and the child's life.
2006-07-07 07:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by alwaysbombed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If the mother is healthy drug free and the child is like wise then the father should make a new commitment. He should check with the mother and if she is willing to expect pay child support. If the mother wants nothing to do with the father then he should expect this and live his life.
If this is not true and the child is in danger or unhealthy for any reason then he should fight for full custodial rights. What is forgotten in all this tragically it is not about the mother and father but the health of the child.
2006-07-07 07:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say move on. He has no definite proof the child is his, considering that she could have been pregnant already. She doesn't want him around, and other than the knowledge of the child, has no actual connection to it. If he wants to push for it, he should first get a paternity test to determine if he is the father. Then, he can petition the courts for shared custody with her. That is a case he can win.
2006-07-07 07:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no moral duty toward the child at this point. He doesn't even know for sure that she is telling him the truth or just yanking his chain because she knows how it will affect him. Time to assume that the story is a fabrication and go on with his life.
2006-07-07 07:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lawyer is wrong. Go to family court and demand visitation. You may have to take a paternity test. This woman sounds unstable. You have rights and you should get them.
2006-07-07 07:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be able to get visitation through the courts. He might have to have a DNA test done if she tries to say it's not his child. Of course, he would have to pay child support too.
2006-07-07 07:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
legaly there's obviously not much you can do. we have all the women's lib for womens rights and womens right to choose. we don't have much for a fathers rights and it's showing up in todays children.
the best thing you can do is find some friendly ground with her or her family and have some kind of contact with the child.
call dr. phil
2006-07-07 07:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child is legally his, so his mother doesn't really have a choice but to allow him to have contact with the child
2006-07-07 07:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by buster_wilde3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋