after 4 years and now a two year old daughter, will it ever happen? I understand I have allowed this time to go on, but of course those favorite words. I Love him and we are happy.
2006-07-07 07:22:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even though it's been 4 1/2 yrs he may not be ready for marriage. I'm sure that you guys are living together and doing everything that married couples do, but just don't have the license and the ring, right??? Pray about it. If you are sincere about it, God will show you EVERYTHING you need to know about this relationship. I dare you to ask God...
2006-07-07 08:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by jcdunbar0312 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think at some point during 4 1/2 years he would have had to atleast gave you some indication and where he thought you were going. I know everyone is going to tell you to sit him down and ask him but I highly advise against that because do you always want it in the back of your head that he only proposed because you asked him to? I know I wouldn't want that. You have to also realize that you have already given him everything he could want without getting married. I assume that you live together and have a child together. Why on earth would he need to do anything different? The situation you are in now is a hard one without going to an extreme. You don't want to push him but you don't want to just leave him either. Then you have to figure in that men aren't mind readers. Think of a way to bring up the future without it sounding like you are hinting about marriage. It could be that he isn't interested in ever getting married or it could be that frankly he has everything he wants and sees no reason to change anything. As a woman and the mother of his child you deserve the security of marriage. If that isn't in his plans then he owes it to you to let you go and find someone who can give you the long term commitment that you need and deserve.
2006-07-07 07:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well be married and have the same last name. It would complete the family and I think it's alittle too late for him to back out now or be afraid of commitment. The strings are already tide so what's he waiting for? Tell him it's time to confirm it.
People says that marriage is just a label but it's not. It's declaring your love for that person and to show how much you love them that you are willing to put a ring on each others fingers and commit your lives to each other..
You gave him a child. Shouldn't he give you his last name?
2006-07-07 07:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that @ the begging of your courting you both must have stated what expectancies and objectives you had in the experience that your courting replaced into to proceed for years. you should have both said that you both had/have intentions of this courting probably turning out to be a wedding ceremony. the very incontrovertible actuality that you both have became your courting into some what of a wedding ceremony , yet without truly getting married. Your BF has the finest of both Worlds at present. He has you, youthful ones, abode, job, automobiles. What extra might want to he pick. You suggested he needs extra youthful ones, i'd say "NO" for now until eventually he totally COMMITS to the kinfolk you both have already began. it really is not straightforward to the youngster you've now to not have his/hers father and mom Married.hence it does not be straightforward to any destiny toddlers in case you weren't married both. perhaps he has chilly ft, or possibly he's one among those adult males that would not pick to get married. both way those are belongings you should have both said in the previous into the Realionship.
2016-11-06 01:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All good things come for those who wait. Maybe it just isn't time yet. Maybe this is a way to get some personal goals, for both of you, accomplished before making the big step.
2006-07-07 07:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by cawecm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed this with him? It is more than just a piece of paper, as his wife you get health benefits, his pension if he dies and no rights because you aren't married.
Push it and push hard, ou are good enough to have a kid with but not good enough to marry? Bull crap.
2006-07-07 07:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him and you are happy, then why worry about or push marriage...it seems you are past that point anyway....but if marriage is what you want, ask him and if he refuses then you need to decide just how important it is to you to be married...
2006-07-07 07:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same boat my is 5 1/2 years i hope you get good answer and past them to me good luck
2006-07-07 07:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tina Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is just a paper, if he is commited to you and your baby girl then why rush a ceremony.. unless marriage is a big deal for you, then talk to him about it. I am sure if he is completly committed to both of you, then marriage wont be a problem for him
2006-07-07 07:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by estefany v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and you are happy then don't worry about. you have all your life to get married.
2006-07-07 07:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋