2006-07-07 07:20:59 · 33 answers · asked by adriana_lovely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
cheating isn't the act, but the thought. let me explain:
cheating isn't defined as the result of actions, but why those action were possible, which begins first with the thoughts. thinking of someone else persay, may not be cheating, but to continually not want to be with your boyfriend is the same as cheating.
2006-07-07 07:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow if that were really true, you could not think about your brother, father, uncle, cousin, no male member of your family. To whom would you go to confession? Do Nuns offer confession now?
I believe it is the action taken. If you are at a party and a male classmate or friend hugged you would that make you a cheater? I don't think so!
Are you confusing loyalty with cheating?
Watch guys at a party. A very beautiful luscious female comes and gives him a hug and plants a wet one on his cheek. Do his pants get that tell-tale bulge? Let me tell you, he does not consider that cheating, but one of his two heads is thinking!
If your b/f or husband is foisting this way of thinking on you, chances are he wants you on the defensive so he can go do as he pleases. It's called misdirection. Getting you to think what you may doing wrong in the relationship and not being able to see what he is up to.
2006-07-07 07:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking is not cheating, if you act on your thoughts then yes, that is cheating. However if you are thinking of someone else i would consider taking a good look at the relationship you are in and determine whether or not you still want to be in it.
2006-07-07 07:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the person. If you have an open, honest relationship - your boyfriend will understand that you may or may not think other people are attractive. But there is a big difference between thinking someone is attractive and actually being attracted to someone. There are some good looking people in this world and it is okay to acknowledge that. On the other hand, if you find yourself fantacizing about other people or wanting to be with other people, you mat need to evaluate how you really feel about your boyfriend. If you find yourself wanting to be with other people, you may not want to be with your boyfriend like you think you do.
2006-07-07 07:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the only person you view as sexually attractive is your boyfriend, then I applaud you. I think almost every human being on this planet has a "spank bank" of people that they find attractive, trip your trigger, etc. Unless of course you're a Tibetan monk that has already attained Nirvana, everyone at one point in time experiences desire toward another person :). Guys, gals, it makes no difference, we all picture in our head someone (or more than one) that heats our blood. I don't think it is wrong at all to think of someone else other than your boyfriend. If you choose to act upon it, if you are not in an open or polyamorous relationship, then that's another story. Human beings are beautiful, I don't see why we should be restricted to admiring the beauty of just one person. Love as thou wilt.
2006-07-07 07:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by bibliophile_1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has thoughts like that every once and again. We are only human. If you act on these thoughts you are cheating. The concept of strictly thinking or "fantasizing" about another person is not cheating. My fiance talks about Shania Twain - does he have a chance with her - no - I would not worry about simple thoughts.
2006-07-07 07:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by ak517969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope nothing wrong with thinking of other people now if you was to cross that line and no longer be thinking but doing that is were u would be cheating on him
2006-07-07 07:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by white_wizard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has fantasies...and crushes. You are definatly not cheating just because you think about someone. Thats like saying looking at another guy (or girl) is cheating. Eyes and minds wander..it's okay, don't worry about it!
2006-07-07 07:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by melissa c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disagree - cheating is not the thought - what are you supposed to do, ignore everyone so as not to think about them? Just realize he has the same thoughts.
2006-07-07 07:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by B tizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating required actual physical contact! In the form of kissing, hugging, f*cking, licking, seeing naked, sucking toes, shaving their private parts, pulling hair, caressing in any way, and putting fingers in orphases!
2006-07-07 07:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋