There's 2 problems with my BEST friend and I.
the first is we are both 12 and she is madly in love with her boyfriend.
Whenever I have problems, I can't really talk to her about them because she just wants to talk about her problems. She knows I get annoyed when she talks about it and by them, but she just says "I know..."
She is really nice but I want to have a friend time. Not 'lets talk about my boyfriend' time.
the second- a lot of kids that are my semi-friends tell me that my best friend is using me.
that she doesnt really like me.
and ive heard it so many times. im starting to believe it.
but then my best friend says that its not true.
but im so mixed up and confused.
could someone help me?
2006-07-07 06:54:11 · 12 answers · asked by Rae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
we are BOTH 12 ad getting a new friend (ditching) is not an option.
2006-07-07 06:59:44 · update #1
Well for your first question... at the age of 12 (don't take this the wrong way) you can't be madly in love with anyone because you are not going to know what love is. Your friend is infatuated with him. I don't know what you believe but the Bible says that adultery is wrong. It is a sin. You may not think that what your friend and probably you are doing is adultery, but Jesus said that if a man looks at woman with lust in his heart than he has committed adultery in his heart. The same goes for women. Think about what I have said, then think about telling your friend too. If you believe what I said make her listen too. You have to be open with her. Tell her what you are thinking then wait for her to respond. Being open is the best way.
2006-07-07 07:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar High to Love High 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe first of all your both too young to be experiencing the dating life right now. Your still at the age where theres a lot of things going on in your life....say hitting puberty? Plus people begin to go off in their social groups around that age, and start rumors more. The best thing is for you and your friend to stop dating your boyfriends and wait till you've at least understood the male population a little bit better.
2006-07-21 05:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Allyson B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying ditch her, but back off for a week or two and give her some space to hang out with her boyfriend and you some time to hang out with other people. After this you might have a better perspective on what you should do. Also, if you back off a little, she might think she is losing you and become a better friend (if she genuinely cares for you) Also people grow. She is into a boy and maybe just wants to be with him, but just know when they break up(which they will) she'll come back to you.
2006-07-21 06:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by shakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd bring it to her attention that when i want to talk to her all she does is talk about him (her boyfriend) and frankly i'm tired of it.
Also if more and more people are telling you she's not your friend then perhaps you need to take a step back and reply in your head all the time you have spent with her to see if at the times you've really needed her was she there and supportive of what you were going through.I'd take heed to this warning but i'd also evaluate what she brings to the friendship other than endless conversation about her boyfriend. At 12 the last thing she needs to have is a boyfriend.
2006-07-21 06:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sxyblkdiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could she be using you for? Do you give her money, lend her clothes, buy her food, what? If you are not giving her anything, it is impossible for her to be using you. Oh, and you're 12. You aren't in love, but someday you will be and laugh about all of this.
2006-07-18 12:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youngman you need to find out WHO your real friends are!!!! don't let them choose you. you be the one to judge and find out who you wants as your friends. you're still 12 and at a very tender age--chill out don't in such a rush to have everyone as your friend. find out who really cares about you and your concerns but remember, that this goes both ways. if you want to be heard, then you need to learn how to listen. remember that the only way to have a friend is to be one!!!!!!!
2006-07-21 05:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your friend is one of those hot tamales thats growing up too fast for you. find better friends that are your age and also on the same level as you sweet heart.
2006-07-07 06:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by kittykat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi RaE!!!
1stly i would like 2 giv u an advice tell ur 4nd dat at de age 0f 12 no 1 iz serious wid anybody.....he iz simply usin ur 4nd....maybe ur 4nd allows him 2 smooch her or sumthin......i m 15 now n i don hav any bf so howcome she has?????n ya abt ur 2nd prob. she iz not usin u....she iz really veryyyy much goofed up by her bf......dats it...so just chill my lil dear....njoy life n take everythink easy......
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2006-07-21 04:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by $@LLu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 and madly in love???
well, be there when she needs you, but don't expect anything in return... there's someone to share your feelings, get close to those.
let me tell you, she'll realise your worth later in life...
You reap what you sow...
2006-07-07 07:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by Frank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
other so called friends will try to get you to be their friends by telling lies about your best friend, hold on she will move on and it will be back to you 2 again! friends rule!
2006-07-07 07:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋