Is homosexuality normal and is it true we are all homosexual at some point in our lives?

Answer 1

Ok. Here you go, my opinion. It is normal - in fact, it is essential - that human beings connect to one another. Human Beings are social creatures. Sex is a normal extention of a loving bond between two people (in the context of that type of relationship)

Therefore, if you are capable of loving another, providing companionship (necessary for health and life), providing support, caring, nurturing, stability, so on... what difference does it make what gender the recipient or giver is? Isn't it the love that matters? How many heterosexual marriages end in divorce? (1 in 2),. Domestic violence, abuse, sexual assualts, emotional/mental abuses - all take place in hetero - relationships. I would be curious to know the rate in hetero versus homo - relationships.

Answer 2

Ever hear of the Bonobo? It is a little chimp-like ape that likes sex more than we do (!). It is common for Bonobos to engage in same-sex copulation because of the gender hierarchy. The Female Bonobos are much more important and rarely even associate with the males except when the time comes to reproduce. The rest of the time, they engage in all kinds of homosexual behavior and clearly get joy from it.

The fact of the matter is, homosexuality is no more a condition than heterosexuality. It is a preference and there are varying degrees. There are not "just homosexuals" and "just bisexuals", in fact, in a study conducted in the fifties (I forget the name, my applogies), it was found that the vast majority of men had harbored some homosexual desire, dream, or observation. Of course many of these men were very homophobic, but that never stopped them from peeking over in the urinal, looking at another guy's butt, or even had a full-on homosexual encounter in secrecy or in a dream.

I, myself, wondered if I was gay when I was younger. It never really stuck, and am very happy living with my girlfriend. Still, I'm not "absolutely man-hating straight," I can see why Johnny Depp is a very attractive man and I can see why Arnold Schwarzenegger is not at all an attractive man. Does that mean I want to butt **** a cardboard cuttout of Johnny Depp? No, but I recognize him as an attractive male.

Now is homosexuality nature or nurture? There is no conclusive evidence either way. Though I hate to think of it as nature, making it a "condition". The next thing after we find an absolute "gay gene" would be to try to cure it. I personally believe it is nurture. Being brought up to be gay is not a bad thing and doesn't make the parent bad or even an active participant in deciding the child's orientation. What we need is for society to quit acting like a bunch of irresponsible children and realize that gay people are just that: people.

Answer 3

I agree with everything James said, but just to add a little bit:

"...is it true wea re all homosexual at some point in our lives?"

It's not really cut and dried. Alfred Kinsey thought that sexual orientation could be measured on a 6 point scale, with one extreme being completely heterosexual and the other being completely homosexual. Most people tend to fall into the 2-4 range. This doesn't mean that you actually will want to have sex with someone of the same sex (or opposite sex if you identify as homosexual), but that you might find them sexually attractive.

For example, a straight woman who has no desire to be sexually intimate with another female might still find lesbian pornography arousing, or think that a particular model or actress is sexy.

So are we all homosexual at some point in our lives? Probably not in the way you mean. I think it might be more of a case-by-case basis. Otherwise straight men might have homosexual sex in prison. A gay girl might think that that Johnny Depp is a stud. Maybe a bisexual dude thinks guys can be pretty hot but only wants relationships with girls.

Isn't sexuality fun? :-P

Answer 4

I cannot understand it at all. It seems very strange to me, but I do believe it is normal. It occurs in other primates, so that spells normal to me, in the sense of it being a biological thing.

However, I do not think we are all homosexual at some point in our lives. If you mean that we have crushes on people of the same sex, that may be true, but I don't think a kindergarten crush on Teacher is sexual at all, neither hetero nor homo. If that were true, then probably homosexuality would be a choice and I don't think we can have it both ways - a choice and a biological predetermination.

Answer 5

Given that homosexuality has existed in all times, and in all cultures, then at least from a statistical standpoint, it is "normal". It seems to follow the "1 in 10" rule. As children develop, they tend to have crushes on both same and opposite sex objects. Then there are "styles", almost fads, in which it is socially acceptable or desirable to experiment, like today, Ancient Greece, a lot of Native American and Plynesian cultures, etc. But there is also a lot of evidence that indicates that people either are, or are not, homosexual, and it seems to be something that is predetermined, and which many people are aware of at an early age. If you mean "bisexual", then probably a lot of us are inclined to experiment during adolescence, when our sexuality is first being expressed.

Answer 6

I don't know if I would use the word normal to describe it. I know from very personal experience that for some people feelings like that and desires like that are very, very real.

I agree with a comment made above, that all of us are at least a little bisexual. Social implications and personal beliefs (eg religious beliefs) can really affect a person phycologically about this topic. For some who do not have very strong feelings towards other people of the same sex, it may not even be an issue becuase of the way their culture/family/religion/whatever sees it. For others, it is much stronger and more promident.

I would really like to see if some researcher out there did a study on this or is studies on this occur. I would love to see the results.

Answer 7

Homosexuality is not normal. I personally believe there are underlying evil forces that prompt a person to have homosexual tendencies. The natural or rather 'normal' order is for a male to make a pair with a female. Anything outside of the natural order is unnatural or abnormal.
For the second part, I disagree that we are all homosexual. We may like others of the same sex and admire their characters or other traits about them but not necessarily fall for them.

Answer 8

No homosexuality is not normal, some people are that way. No not everyone is homosexual. Many of us have never even thought of being that way at all, not even in the slightest. Me personally, I enjoy my hubby to much and could never see my self with another woman. The thought would be repulsive. There are many like me. There are far more women that would be with another women, either just with another woman or with a man and another woman. Most men I have known are to homophobic to even let the thought cross their minds. I have known homosexuals, yet I could never be one. They are people like every one else, and as long as those women don't try to put any moves on me, they can be how they want to be. Yet it is NOT normal and NOT everyone is that way.

Answer 9

Homosexuality is not normal and no we are all not homosexual at some point in our lives. Homosexuality is a sexual choice just like heterosexuality. We all choose who we want to have sex with. God never intended for us to have sex with the same sex. He started with a male and a female, not two males or two females. Homosexuality is a sin. Read Leviticus Chapter 18 verse 22 in your Bible. ---ella

Answer 10

Homosexuality is not a human issue. Many other animals have homosexual relations for varying reasons. Sex itself is also not the only mode of genetic transmission, as I'm sure you're aware. Homosexuality becomes a concern because of social norms, not because of any biological imperative towards heterosexuality. In fact, if there were a biological imperative, wouldn't we celebrate strict homosexuals? By "strict" I mean those who only copulate with the same sex, and not bisexuals. The more there are, the less competition heterosexuals would have for a mate. But I stray from my point.
I believe the jury is still out on the source of homosexuality. While I believe that gender roles are socially produced categories for behaviour, I cannot say with absolute certainty that homosexuality is genetic in basis. I do not believe, as some do, that it is simply a lifestyle choice that one decides to take up, but that does not necessarily mean that one is born homosexual. There are more factors to take into account than most would like to admit.
As for the second part of your question, if everyone is homosexual at some point, I would have to say no. Prior to sexual maturity, children will often experiment with one another, playing "doctor" or exposing their genitalia to one another. It is a natural part of the curiosity of young children to want to explore their own bodies and the bodies of others. Often, this play is between sexes because they have different body parts to explore, but can just as often take place between children of the same sex. As many in our society have a strong taboo against homosexuality, instances such as these are often taken as a sign of homosexuality. But here we are talking about children before sexual maturity, so any talk of sexual preference are pretty much moot at this point. While they may have been taught fairly defined gender roles by this point and may even have decided their sexual orientation, their motivations are usually fairly innocent because of their lack of sexual knowledge (unless they have suffered some sort of sexual abuse).
What would society be like without our strict taboos and gender roles? In the United States, it's not even acceptable for men to kiss each other on the cheek as a sign of greeting. When you talk about what is "normal", you run into the difficult and sticky situation of trying to peel away layers of culture to find the "natural" underneath. But cultural is natural to man, in a way, so it's a slippery slope to divide the two.

Answer 11

i dont know about homosexuality. But I believe every one is bisexual. Only the people that have been tramautized by religion or sexually abused are really only gay or straight. The truth is that one prefers one of the sexes more than the other but that does not mean the other sex is not appealing. Some people refuse to grasp this idea.