My BOYFRIEND & I HAVE BOTH CHEATED ON EACH OTHER WE DECIDED TO STAY 2GETHER WILL IT WORK OUT? IF NO WHY?

Question

I KNOW WHE LOVE EACHOTHER BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH AND WE CAN NOT BE WITH OUT EACHOTHER. WE SEE EACH OTHER EVERYDAY AND THE GIRL HE CHEATED ON ME SHE KNEW ABOUT ME AND HEWOULD ONLY SEE HER LIKE 2 HRS EACH WEEK. WE WANT TO WORK THINGS OUT BUT IT IS SO HARD TO TRUST EACHOTHER AGAIN. WE FEEL IT'S WORTH GIVING IT A SHOT ANY SUGGESTIONS AS TO HOW WE CAN GAIN THAT TRUST BACK? IS IT WORTH IT? WILL IT WORK IN THE END???

Answer 1

I hate to say it - but part of me says run... if either of you were not interested in the other enough to stay committed honestly to begin with then its probably not meant to be - especially since its both of you - and no matter what you do - I really think it will be in the back of your mind someplace during the length of your relationship. (I speak from experience on the side of being an honest person in a relationship only - I took the person back - and it happened yet again ... )
However - if just want to have fun - go on and enjoy - maybe lay down some ground rules for each other and see what happens. Or agree to see others and date around (date - not sleep around) and make sure your relationship is meant to be

Answer 2

First, PLEASE take the caps lock key off...it's the equivalent of yelling on the internet, but most of all, it's just plain more difficult for the eye to read than lower case.

On to your question...the behavior of the two of you, does not bode well for a long term relationship. You've both betrayed the other, and broken the other's trust...you CAN be without each other, and I think you'd both do better to accept that idea because it's quite likely that you will be at some point in the future...

Trust is part of the foundation of a healthy relationship...if both of you are missing that toward the other, you can't build anything solid without a good foundation...

My guess is that the two of you will end up as good friends, but not a romantic couple in the end...you've been through a lot, know one another intimately, and care for each other...but if there were true, heart felt, passionate love on both sides, the cheating wouldn't have occured...

Answer 3

theres no reall easy way to gain trust back you have to sit down and talk to each other and see why did he cheat and why did oyu cheat explain the reasoning about how it got started and if you both love each other you shoudl be able to lsiten to what the other has to say and let the explain themselfs let them finish and ask them what you didn't understand and if he good better explain then switch and you explain let him ask some to you and explain to him to what happined then think of things that you would both do to get that trust back and don't be to scared to say it just let it out and try to work with some thing that wil benafit you both and when you talk always ask how was your day and keep going and say what was your high light of the day what if you know that some thing is wrong and he keeps saying nothing or doesnt explain tell him the only way you can help him is if you know what goes on because the better you know what goes on then and into the feature the more relaxing and easy it is to fix things just slow down and take things in steps and i think another thign you should do is if you two can't to each other on the phone try writing it down on paper and tell him what you wrote and when you write write what you think if you freeze write down is hitting your head and what oyu thinking and start making connections with what you write and he should listen only gentlemen as myself listen and care my girl friend does the same thing she and i have dated twice we broke up because i liked another girl so i thought but i missed her so i went back and to get that trust we had to connect and make some work out that wasnt so streesful and see what would help us but not to logn ago she moved aonther state away from me so when we cna't talk because minutes she writes it down how she feels and how much she missis me and i do the same thing when you talk to each other you should feel it coming from the heart and you'll know when you are because you cna't discribe how good it feels that what lvoe is liek you can't discribe it it can only be feelt that how powerful it is if you need help o more thigns please ask me i'm here for you and your boy friend i want to help because iv been through this befor and i want you two to have a loving relationship and long lasting and rememberable your friend
Jon ~

Answer 4

I honestly think it would be hard to trust each other, but considering you both did the cheating, and both want to work it out, I think you have a chance... Just leave the past in the past...

Answer 5

If you are both willing to work on it and maybe get some counseling to figure out why you both cheated!

Your relationship is what you put into it, and if you are both willing to give it your all it should work out in the long run.

Or, you could consider an open relationship?

Answer 6

The fact that both of you did it and know what it feels like is probably good enough to realize what you two want. If you both are willing to work it out, then try it. If something happens then you can move on.

Answer 7

The question is do you trust him enough to stay togher and it seems that the emotions of love is holding yall together but it akes more than love like my mom told me Trust has a key to everything!

Answer 8

yea it 'll work out because you guys still together after cheating each other.