What should I do?

Question

I've known this guy for almost a year now. In the span that we've known each other, he's asked me to be his gf, but I declined. (dad's overprotective.) But, he took it well and we were/are still friends. However, he asked me if I still liked him (as in bf way) and I said I only see him as a friend, which is the truth. I expect him to be cool with it, since he was okay with me declining the first time. I hope that we stay friends, but I don't know if he'll react differently this time. If he doesn't call me anymore (like for 1-2 weeks) should I just call him and see what's up, since I don't want to loose a good friend? Or should I just wait for him to call me to find out if we're still friends?

Answer 1

If you two were good friends and constantly talked and you haven't heard from him in some time than yes I think you should call him and see how he is doing. That is if you still want to be his friend. He probably just really likes you and was hurt by your rejection twice. If he tells you that he does not think that he can just be friends with you I guess you should tell him that you respect his decision but you are sorry to lose such a great friend.

Answer 2

I think the 1-2 week idea is good, just wait and let him sort himself out for a while. I know what it's like when you have a guy that;s your good friend but he likes you in a different way. Of course, if he doesn't call you and you really want to be friends with you then call him, but wait for a while first. One thing to consider is this: is he only being nice to you because he likes you (in that way), or is he really a good friend? good luck!

Answer 3

Both of you have shared unconditional frienship love for the lenght of time you've been friends. Both of you understan each other's feelings towards each other. It's like they say...if you missed your first bus, there's always another you can catch. I would call him and talk about anything, a movie, going out for coffee, shop at the mall, anything in general. While you're on the road with him, ask him what does he really want, then tell him your point of view. Don't kick him out of your life though, that would be crewl.

Don't invite him to your place, go to a movie, or the mall, and talk on the way. Make sure that you both understand what you both want from each other. If he wants to be your boyfriend, let him tell you, don't freak him out, just listen to what he has to say. You then, if you only wish to remain friends with him, you make your points too, you tell him why is it that you've made the decision you've made, and most likely he will understand.

Let him know that there are other girls out there that I'm sure would love to go out on a date with him. Many opportunities await for him, and that he should take advantage of such opportunities to explore and see what's stored for him. Tell him that you will be thrilled when he comes to you or calls you to tell you that he's got a date, or a new girlfriend. Be supportive. Say it like you mean it. Meet the girl, and don't feel bad if he starts hanging out more often with her than with you...it's normal.

Good luck to the both of you!

Answer 4

I think it would be okay to call him and you should not even wait 1-2 weeks because if you don't like him more than a friend, then it shouldn't matter. So if he is not okay with just being friends he will let you know one way or the other. i wish you the best sweetie.
Rebecca, VA.

Answer 5

I think you should call him. You guys need to sit down and have an in depth conversation about your relationship. I think he still had hopes that all he had to do was wait and your feelings would change, but obviously it hasn't. Being the fact that you are his friend, you should make sure he understand that you are interested in friendship and nothing more with him. If he does not want to talk to you anymore, let it go.

Answer 6

You can call him, and go from there. It may take a call from you to break the ice over this second rejection. However if he doesn't take your call or return it, then I'd let things go. Maybe in time he'll warm up to you again, but it's his choice and some people find it difficult to be friends with someone for whom they have romantic feelings.

Answer 7

If He doesn't call you, I think you already know why, He wants to be with you and being friends was just a way to stay close to you. If he feels like it is not happening with you and doesn't want to call you anymore, then I don't think you have a right to call him and just let it go...Let the guy move on with his life.

Answer 8

You should call him. That's what friends do. If you're really worried about keeping up your friendship, you might have to make the first move if his feelings are hurt. But if he is mad, waiting for him to call won't do anything good for your relationship. You'll have to be the one to smooth things out.

Answer 9

Sounds like this freind wants to be more..He wants a bf/gf commitment.....How old are you and yes it is always good to listen to daddy..but depending on your age that could be a bad thing..although not a stupid thing..Dads are protective of their little girls no matter how old they are....So it's up to you

Answer 10

You have been honest with him, so I think it's time to let him be honest with you. If he doesn't want to just stay friends then he should tell you. If you don't hear from him then you'll know that he's made his choice. He needs to respect your feelings for him, and if he doesn't then you'll know that he didn't want to be friends to begin with.