I am 18 and getting ready to leave for basic training. My friend wants to have an abortion but I told her I would adopt . My aunt is going to help me. What do you think?
2006-07-07 06:17:35 · 28 answers · asked by Armygirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think it's great if it is the only thing that will keep her from having an abortion, but I think you should try to get her to adopt out to a nice married couple that is older than you. 18 and joining the military AND becoming a mother is an extra-difficult position to be in. You would be sacrificing a lot, but you would be saving the baby's life. It's a very big step that will affect the rest of your life. Try to get her to adopt the child out to a family that wants it, but if you are the only way she will not get an abortion, I salute you for making that sacrifice and saving a baby's life!
2006-07-07 06:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a good idea because you have a lot going on and you would not be able to go to basic training. Trust me, when I was younger, I did not think there was that much to taking care of a baby. Now, I am 32 and have 2 great kids. Try some things like carrying a baby in your arms and trying to make dinner at the same time every night and you'll see what I mean.
Don't get me wrong, it is worth it, but it is A LOT for an 18 year old.
However, I do think you should do whatever you can to not let your friend have an abortion. There are MANY, MANY people who want to adopt. My husband and I would like to adopt one more child too. It is hard to adopt in the US and many people who are better prepared to take care of a child would be thrilled to adopt your friend's baby. She would even get to meet them and pick out the right people.
2006-07-07 13:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she not thought about adoption other wise? Due to your age and preparing to leave for basic training, it will hard for you to take care of a newborn. I commend you on talking her out of an abortion, but what about another couple adopting the baby? However, if you feel that you are ready, go for it!!!!
2006-07-07 13:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre going into the service and want to adopt a baby? Isnt that stretching yourself a bit thin? If your aunt is more stable and willing, maybe she could adopt the baby. Your life choice can have you moving all over the place which is not necessarily healthy for a baby. So just weigh your options.
But good for you to try to give this baby a chance. Chin up!
2006-07-07 13:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes adoption is way better than abortion. If your not ready for the responsibility than no dont do it. the baby can be taken to an orphanage
2006-07-07 13:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
First of all, you don't sound in any position to be raising a child. Just as it is unfair for children to have children and then burden their parents with raising them, it is unfair for you to adopt a child and then place the burden on your aunt.
Raising a child is a huge undertaking, and drastically, permanently alters your life. I just had my first child at 36. If you have a child at 18, biologically or through adoption, you are going to be shortchanging a whole lot of your youth and opportunities for personal and career advancement.
Realize you can't save the world, and move on.
2006-07-07 13:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by forth_armoury 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That may be to much responsibility for you to take on. There are so many people who want to adopt -- with careful thought and planning she could find a good home through an agency where she could choose who she'll allow to adopt (open adoption).
2006-07-07 13:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by Starr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are ready but sometimes their are complications with adopting friends' babies. They feel there is an open door policy they can come in and out of their lives and sometimes decide they want their child back. Take these things in consideration and decide if its worth it also talk to your friend and set up boundaries if you do decide to adopt her child.
2006-07-07 13:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by mommyof2boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesnt she put it up for adoption? If you are going to basic can you really take care of it? Will you even qualify as a good home being that you are young and going to the military?
2006-07-07 13:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by callalobo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, you have your whole life ahead of you. i know that you are trying to do the right thing but you need to look out for yourself right now. if you were married and couldn't get pregnant i would say go for it but if your trying to do something for yourself i say just tell her that there are so many people that can't have babies that she should give it up for adoption at an adoption agency. but i can't say that i have ever been put in that situation before. god bless you for having such a big heart. good luck with whatever you chose and let us know how it goes k.
2006-07-07 13:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by rachael s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋