Are Gays born that way or learn to be Gay??

Question

do you think they could change to their normal sex??

i apologize for the "normal" quote, i in no way am trying to offend anyone, what i meant is can a Gay person change to be straight??

Answer 1

Careful what you ask and how you ask it. You may be asking this question innocently - but your choice of the word "normal" leaves a lot to be desired.

Gay sex is normal - just, presumably, not for you.

The other day, in response to a similar question I finished off by saying something along the lines of

They are born gay and then they learn how to behave as gays.

As for reverting to heterosexuality - no, they can't. Many have tried and a few have allowed themselves to believe it has worked...but it doesn't and they'll have wasted all that time trying.

Answer 2

most people's perception of this question is: "Genetic" or "choice". Which is, of course, a false dichotomy. There are MANY biological factors that aren't strictly genetic (such as the womb environment), and I don't think I need to re-state that not all environmental things are "choices". I think it's also important to note that even if it WERE shown to be one hundred per cent environmental, that still doesn't mean you can untoast the bread.
Personally, as a gay man I don't CARE what the source is; it's a red herring in that it doesn't matter. We should still have access to equal rights because we're still not hurting anyone.
As for whether or not it's possible to "become straight"; as far as research, there exists NO solid research saying that it is possible to take a truly gay person and make them straight. You can choose to change behavior, by all means, but that is very seperate from orientation. I would also add that a lot of people ignore the possibility that a bisexual person chose to close off that aspect of their sexuality. That having been said, I don't completely disregard the possibility that SOME people could change their orientation. In much the same way I don't disregard the possibility of the existence of aliens (out there, somewhere, having nothing to do with us). There is utterly no evidence that that has ever happened or will ever happened, but it could. And it could work for some people and I wouldn't hold that against them. Deal is, though, I happen to know that it can't work for me.
Most of the conversion therapy groups, once you're involved enough, readily admit that they want to change your behavior, and not your orientation. They don't follow up on their "success stories" as scientific review would mandate. They essentially offer no evidence that isn't either made up entirely, or else worded carefully (or inaccurately), or very highly non-credible.
(That they also may do damage to people is the part that REALLY gets me, but I digress). IMO: Not bloody likely.

Answer 3

I honestly don't think a person can change their sexuality. it is my belief that you are either born gay or straight. I for example have known i was straight from i was 5 ( i had a crush on the neighbour boy) and i am sure a truly gay person will have the same experience. i say "truly" because i believe that there are people (homo or hetero) who may indulge in certain sexual behaviours because of curiosity but were not necessarily born hetero or homo.

As to whether or not a gay person can change their sexuality and become straight i doubt it and in truth why should they?

Answer 4

I believe I was born the way I am. I knew no one growing up who was gay, nor is there anyone in my family that I know to be gay. it wasn't until long after I realized I was, that I met anyone openly gay. so, how could I have "learned" this?
and...what do you mean change to their normal sex? LOL...I didn't have a sex change...
who is to say what is normal?

Answer 5

no. They are born that way just like someone is born a certain race. Gay guys will often try to have sex with women to see if they can get cured. Then the woman ends up being hurt if she falls for him.

Answer 6

I am certain that I was born gay. I spent years (all of my youth and most of my health) trying to persuade myself and everyone around me that I was not gay. It became a huge web of lies and caused me more strain than anything I can think of. Today I know I did not "learn" to be gay. What I learned is how much living a lie costs: you pay for it with your life.

Answer 7

No, you can't change. I tried to straight for a long time and even got engage to be married, but I stopped that before it was to late. People have to understand that you are born gay and you can't change if you wanted to, but some people fool themself trying to change like I did.

Answer 8

I'm not sure. When I was younger I was always into boys. I always was one of the guys. I liked chasing them around the playground, trying to be better then the all boys. Which I was at somethings. But yet deep down I was always attracted to girls. I think I may have been born this way.

Answer 9

I know that every gay person i know, knew they were gay as a child. Some of them never knew anyone else who was gay, how can it be a "learned" behavior?

Answer 10

Something happened when you were growing up that made you go the other way. You can't reproduce witht he same sex. I really don't don't car about people being gay just as long as your true to yourself.