the greatest friend i have ever had got a b/f a few months things were going well until she completely stopped contacting me i know her pretty well and i know he is manipulating her because he dosen,t like me anything i can do or should i just let sleeping dogs lie ..... i saw her a few days ago and she has completely changed her image she's scruffy stopped doing her hair and is obviously unhappy i know she has self confidence problems and always looks down on herself ... should i interfere or is it not my place or problem ?
2006-07-07 05:43:46 · 8 answers · asked by whoami 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, seems like you are doing your part as a good friend. Talk to her. Most probably, she will call you when things are going bad for her. Or she could just be ashamed. Just be brave and talk to her even if she gets upset. If there is still no budge, theres really nothing you can do. The truth is she is on her own in this one. Even when you talk to her, chances are that she wont even listen to you anyway. Gee, what a great guy...cant even make her feel good about herself...Hm impressive. Tell me why again girls get involved in these types of retarded things?? Never satisfied it seems....
Anyway, I dont think you should complicate your life with stuff like this. I understand that you are worried. I have a friend whos like that. Married young and miserable but tries to hide it because she doesnt like to talk about it. What a waste of lifetime.
Just let her know that you have an open door policy and when shes ready to talk your ready to listen. Other than that, its her experience....Let her be...Good Luck.
2006-07-07 05:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Cloe 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
My best friend a while ago was in a similar situation at first i thought it best to leave it but eventually it got so bad i just couldn't i went round to see her and asked her straight out if anything was wrong and explained my suspicions then it all came out the he was manipulating her and abusing her she had lost all her confidence and her self esteem was at a all time low. I told her I'd always be there for her if she needed ANYTHING i even went against her wishes and told her family what she told me after i found out he beat her while she was pregnant (she later misscarried)so everyone was aware of it eventually she realised what a loser he was and he wasn't going to change of cause he blamed me and her mum had nothing to do with the fact he was a waste of space. She has a nice b/f and a son with one on the way now happy ever after.
2006-07-07 13:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this sound like something I experienced.
Let me tell you that you are right. She is being manipulated by him or she is just sprung. Give her time to realize that if he is not good enough than she will call you for advice. He probably is jealous of you because your her best friend.
If you can try to go out and maybe start talking to guy maybe you can also find a boyfriend and by that time she will realize she lost her friend, by that time you will be too busy for her
2006-07-07 12:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lucia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go...in a few short months she will be looking for you again, telling you the story of that crazy experience. Just pray for her..this happened to me and one of my good friends who insisted on calling me "sister." She became a little jealous and made some poor choices. We are back in harmony again. Letting it go is the best thing for you as well as the relationship. Again, just lift her up to God and leave her there.
2006-07-07 12:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a call ask her if she o.k. let her know that your always there for her if she doesn't respond you've said your peice that's all you can do sooner or later he will break up with her and she will need a good friend.
2006-07-07 12:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone...I've been through that and I think because I don't care too much for females that's why I moved away from her so quickly....True friends don't ever put their partners over their friends, especially if you just met the person....but yet you have to beg anyone to be your friend, she doesn't want to talk to you...then don't talk to her, she might you later on, and realize wat y'all had, but then its gone
2006-07-07 12:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by sassynlovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time.
2006-07-07 12:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on and ask her..."R u ok?"
2006-07-07 12:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Savor_Savvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋