My sonis almost 1 in 2 wks and isnt walking..?

Question

I think i have spoiled him... because my first son walked at 10 mo. , which he didnt like to be held, is this a bad thing he doestn want to walk yet , or am i just paranoid??? thanks

I know he will walk when he is ready, Im just afraid since i hold him too much its my fault , he can take a couple steps , and stand on his own, he just wants me to hold him ,and now i feel bad...

Answer 1

I applaud you for asking, and for caring as even though it is your second child, you still sound like a caring,loving Mom!!!! Just remember this, each child is different. You don't want to compare the first and the second child with any milestones or anything throughout life. We are all here, as becoming our own person. So that said, every child walks by the time they are 15 months old or thereabouts. I would encourage you to have him crawl, pull himself up, and hold his hands, helping to set the way for walking. However, it is something that happens, developmentally.........so if your son doesn't show any interest by age 15 months old, then I would have him evaluated by your pediatrician(who you hopefully know, love and trust)and get testing done. Sometimes it can be as something as simple as needing more physical therapy to strengthen those muslces, those bones, but either way, I am sure he'll be walking. Stay in touch with us, would love to know how you are doing. Hang in there, things do change, enjoy their ages/stages and make the best of those craaaaaaazy days and nights!!!!

Answer 2

Some kids don't start walking until after they are a year old but he should be able to stand by himself at this point. If he isn't standing alone try walking around with him and holding his hands and also get some push toys that he can hold onto while walking. Try holding him up and letting go and seeing if he can stand alone a couple times every night and he should get the hang of it pretty quickly and before you know it he'll be walking.

Answer 3

I had 4 kids and they walked at 12 months, 13 months, 10 months and 12 months. Up to 15 months is perfectly normal. The longer they crawl, the better eye hand coordination they have later. Holding or not holding the baby has nothing to do with when they walk. Just be happy this baby is healthy and before you know it, you'll be wishing you weren't so hassled trying to keep up.

Answer 4

My younger son just turned 1 last weekend, and he's not walking either. He'll grab the sofa and walk along that, holding on, but if my husband and I sit across from each other and try to get the baby to walk back and forth, he immediately falls onto his butt, pretends his legs are weak, and crawls to one of us crying, and sits on our lap. I think he's playing us. :)

10 months is actually pretty young for a baby to walk, The average is about a year. My older son was walking alone (a step here and there without holding on to anything) at about 13 months.

Answer 5

You could just be paranoid, which is a natural part of motherhood! :)

You can just work more with your child on walking and carry them less to strengthen their legs, ankles, etc as well as their confidence in walking. If you really think something is not right or there is a problem, I suggest you consult with your child's pediatrician. They can ease your concerns/fears and assure you that nothing is wrong.

Just remember that every child is different and their own individual person. No two children will develop exactly the same or at the same exact rate. Just because your first child did something at a certain age doesn't mean your second child will do it at the same time. They can do it before, or even after the first one did. The websites and stuff about children are just a guideline. There is nothing set in stone saying your child must walk by such-and-such time or there is something wrong with them.

To ease your concerns as well as strengthen and develop your child's individuality, strength, confidence, and personality, I suggest you let them do more walking (while you hold their hands, of course) and carry them less just to show them that everyone walks around and not everyone is carried anymore. "Big boys/girls walk and don't let their mommies/daddies carry them everywhere" is what I told my son... after about a week of hearing this, he was walking alone! And he didn't walk until he was almost 14 mos old! :)

***EDIT to your modification***

If you believe its because you carry him too much as to why hes not walking yet, just slowly start carrying him less and less to show him hes gotta walk. Eventually he will get the point that he must walk and mommy isnt gonna carry him everywhere. Dont all of a sudden stop carrying him all together, though, as this might send him into confusion, panic, and devestation (Why isnt my mommy carrying me anymore? she dont love me!!!!! :( etc etc ) Just slowly start tapering down on how much you carry him and start praising him everytime he stands alone, walks along holding onto the couch, etc and eventually he will learn that the more he walks alone and the less he gets carried, the more praise he will get. Children LOVE to get praises because it shows them attention, love, affection, and happiness. It gives them a tremendous boost in confidence as well as love!

Answer 6

Studies show the longer a baby crawls, the more intelligent he'll be. Just because he's not walking yet doesn't mean anything. Babies take their first steps between nine and thirteen months. However do not worry if your child does not walk until the sixteenth or seventeenth month, this is still perfectly normal.

Answer 7

All children are different. It couldn't hurt to encourage him to take more steps by putting him down more often. My son didn't walk until 13 months. My friends daughter took longer than that. She walked when no one was looking and would only walk in front of other people once she had it perfected. Try not to worry.

Answer 8

You are paranoid. If he is able to stand and able to pull himself up, he will walk. If you are truly worried, go ask your pediatrician. My oldest didn't walk until 15 months. But when she started walking, she never ever fell down. It was like she waited until she really knew what she was doing. She would walk along the couch and stuff before that, but never by herself. Maybe your son is the same. Maybe he wants to keep holding onto you until he is really sure he can do it.

I believe the American Academy of Pediatrics says it could take until they are 18 months old. You could check out their website
http://www.aap.org/

And just go ask your own doctor (if nothing else, it will ease your mind).

Answer 9

Don't worry. Every child is different. Mine started at 13 months.
My friend's three were extremely different from each other. The oldest didn't walk until he was 2 and had average verbal skills. Her second one was running full force at 10 months but didn't talk much at all until she was 3. And her 3rd one was a chatterbox at 12 months but never crawled and didn't walk until she was 18 months.

Answer 10

My daughter did the same. Although I didn't hold her all the time, she'd let me hold her hands and walk with me, but never alone. I just couldn't get her to do it.

We had a Halloween party and my sister was playing with her. She'd stand her up and let her go. She'd fall a bit, but then would take a few steps. Everyone clapped and told her yey and got her excited. After that she'd try again and again, then finally did it for me.

Let someone else give it a try. Maybe he's just used to you and knows you will hold him.

Good luck!